I have the exact opposite problem. He worships his wife and could careless about either of his daughters. His other daughter didn't even get to come to Christmas because she is mad at her. This is a 15 year old child. The step mom is almost 50. She needs to be the adult and let the man see his child. He hasn't seen her in almost a year.
Now something has happened between me and the step mom and she has done very spiteful things to hurt me that have hurt my daughter. He has done nothing to stand up for her.
Tay said she never wants to see him again and I won't make her.
My children are going through a very difficult time with their father and his girlfriend (soon to be wife) right now, but it isn't the woman's fault, it is his and his parent's fault.
When we divorced, I bent over backward to allow them access to the children as long as my ex was not showing symptoms of being off his neuropsych meds. I let him spend time with the kids, visit them on holidays, etc. Then suddenly he dropped out of their lives. Just seemed to "vanish." Didn't call them, didn't invite them out to lunch, didn't stop by to see them.
A few days before our daughter's wedding he announced he was getting married too. The timing sucked. The kids had never heard of the woman before.
Then his parents started pushing hard for my children and this woman to "all become one big happy family", and they went the "compare her to your own mom" route. Well, the kids did. We're both Christians. Both active in church. Both single Moms who worked hard to take care of our kids. Both well respected in the community. The kids came home saying, "He married a naive version of you Mom." They actually liked her.
Easter rolled around. For over 20 years, Easter Sunday was spent with my daughter sitting between her father and her grandfather, and all of my son's life, he sat between his grandparents. This Easter, my son was "sent to the kiddie table" so "he could get to know" the other "children." My children are academic over achievers and musicians. Her children are athletic individuals who don't know anything about the things my kids enjoy. Her child would look at my daughter, roll her eyes, and give her that ever so popular "whatever" look. My daughter decided to ignore the brat.
Next thing you know, my ex motherinlaw isn't speaking to my children. She's upset with them that they didn't embrace what is "clearly God's choice for your father."
(Which is interesting in and of itself, since we are ALL members of a denomination that teaches my husband's original affair was wrong, and that remarriage is also wrong.)
So, my daughter told them, flat out. "I was married on December 20th. I have seen my father once since my wedding. Easter Sunday. Prior to his relationship with this woman, we were meeting for coffee every Saturday. I have changed jobs twice, and am moving in a month, and my father doesn't know. The reason he doesn't know is because he is spending 4 nights a week trying to make her children love him. He used to take my brother to lunch every Sunday after church. He has not taken him out to lunch ONCE since he met his woman. He showed up at my brother's concert, and instead of praising my brother for winning Sweepstakes, berated him to get his hair cut so Lauren," (daughter of the soon to be wife), "will like him. He doesn't want to date this woman's daughter. Why should he care if she likes his hair or not? And along with the haircut instructions were a lot of talk about how wonderful Laruen is doing at sports. Well, that's wonderful. We're the old clothes he threw out when he got a new family. That's HIS choice, the decision HE made. Don't yell at us because we don't like to be tried on for you to show off on holidays. We'll spend time with the family that loved us enough to keep in touch with us."
