Define "serious"

[Princess Pea]

When you and your SO are asked if your relationship is serious, how do you respond? For what it's worth, no one's asked me this question yet ... but I want to be prepared for the inevitable co-worker, aunt, or neighbor who will ask.

Part of the problem is, I need a good working definition of "serious." Talking about marriage? Seeing each other every day? Or just not seeing anyone else? What do most people mean when they say a relationship is serious?

 

[Beautiful Fireball]

I'd say its a serious relationship when you are saying "I love you" and you see marriage as a definite possibility in the future.

 

[ImperialPhantom]

When you and your SO are asked if your relationship is serious, how do you respond? ?

I tell them "nope, we're just kidding."

 

[DocThomas]

I tell them "nope, we're just kidding."

This is actually good advice. The truth is, there is no real definition of 'serious' you can use. So joking around with whoever asks is a good way to start. If the person asking is really interested, you can then continue to explain where you and your SO really are in your relationship.

 

[HisLittleHazelnut]

To me it is serious when the topic of marriage has been talked about, with good results, at least once.

 

[gailygirl]

I get this question all the time, and I always feel wierd answering just because "serious" is pretty open to interpretation

I usually answer yes, we are, but then go into a little detail about where we're at so rumors don't get started. We're not getting engaged soon or anything!

 

[somethingBEAUTIFUL]

Well, so far no one has asked this about me and my current boyfriend. But in the past when it was asked of me, I usually said something like, "Well, we're serious about liking each other enough to continue dating."

 

[Princess Pea]

Thanks, everyone! Good answers! The one that fits my situation best is "Serious enough to continue dating," so I'll practice that one. If anyone asks.

 

[Blank123]

i agree with the above there's no real standard definition. To some people serous means about to get married for others like me its being committed to the relationship and seeing it go somewhere.

Thanks, everyone! Good answers! The one that fits my situation best is "Serious enough to continue dating," so I'll practice that one. If anyone asks.

thats a pretty good way to answer the question

 

[ImperialPhantom]

This is actually good advice. The truth is, there is no real definition of 'serious' you can use. So joking around with whoever asks is a good way to start. If the person asking is really interested, you can then continue to explain where you and your SO really are in your relationship.

Yep. If they kept pressing I'd say yes, we are serious. I consider it to be serious, at least in my own relationship, when we've become exclusive. I don't go exclusive all willy nilly.

 

[none the wiser]

I'd say its a serious relationship when you are saying "I love you" and you see marriage as a definite possibility in the future.

Yup...that's how I tend to see it too.

When asked, I just say yes it is.

 

[CargoPants]

Do you want to marry your SO?

You know if it's serious or not. Even if you haven't discussed marriage. If you have feelings of wanting to marry this person, then I would say you are serious.

 

[Beautiful Fireball]

Do you want to marry your SO?

You know if it's serious or not. Even if you haven't discussed marriage. If you have feelings of wanting to marry this person, then I would say you are serious.

BUT, you may not want to tell people that unless you know that your SO feels the same way.