Decree Absolute issued

[Lotuspetal_uk]

I received my decree absolute in the post yesterday and whilst I feel a weight off my shoulders, there's also a sense of sadness.

I know my family members and close friends will want to celebrate this due to what myself and my oldest daughter went through, but I still cannot seem to shake the fact that my marriage has ended. What I had intended for life is now no more. I'm reflecting right now that maybe I could have had more faith, maybe been stronger to withstand the abuse but then again I could not have continued to allowed HRH to be crushed mentally by her father to the point where she was talking about ending her life.

I praise God that when I could no longer take any more I had sought His forgiveness for whatever I couldn't or didn't do which contributed to this marriage ending, so the pain as been taken from me and I feel that the Lord's hand is on me to make a better life for the children.

I'm just not ready to bring doughnuts and cakes into work and stuff like that. Feels a bit disrespectful to the Lord somehow.

For those whose marriages ended and where family members want to celebrate, did you go through the same emotions?

 

[Svt4Him]

From an email I received from the DivorceCare site:

Holding on to idealistic views of life can be a source of anger for you. Perhaps you have been holding on to dreams, which are now only myths. By clinging to what you can no longer have, you are feeding your frustration.

“My white picket fence was falling down, and I had four children who needed two parents, and one was emotionally not there,” says Sue.

Everyone has ideals and expectations of life. When some of your beliefs prove false, you are confused and despairing. In order to protect yourself, you hold on to whatever shreds are left of that ideal, and you begin to feel angry because what you had believed in with all your heart is falling apart around you. You are angry with the person who helped destroy your dreams, and you are angry with yourself for believing those dreams in the first place.

Dr. Les Carter says, “Mythical thinking is a refusal to acknowledge ugly truth. Ugly truth tends not to finds its way in all these fairy tales.”

One fantastic characteristic of God is that He is truth. When God promises you a dream or an ideal to look forward to, you can believe that it will come to pass. Search God’s Word to find His promises to you. Trust Him because He will never let you down.

“Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight” (Proverbs 3:5-6).

 

[Lotuspetal_uk]

From an email I received from the DivorceCare site:

Holding on to idealistic views of life can be a source of anger for you. Perhaps you have been holding on to dreams, which are now only myths. By clinging to what you can no longer have, you are feeding your frustration.

“My white picket fence was falling down, and I had four children who needed two parents, and one was emotionally not there,” says Sue.

Everyone has ideals and expectations of life. When some of your beliefs prove false, you are confused and despairing. In order to protect yourself, you hold on to whatever shreds are left of that ideal, and you begin to feel angry because what you had believed in with all your heart is falling apart around you. You are angry with the person who helped destroy your dreams, and you are angry with yourself for believing those dreams in the first place.

Dr. Les Carter says, “Mythical thinking is a refusal to acknowledge ugly truth. Ugly truth tends not to finds its way in all these fairy tales.”

One fantastic characteristic of God is that He is truth. When God promises you a dream or an ideal to look forward to, you can believe that it will come to pass. Search God’s Word to find His promises to you. Trust Him because He will never let you down.

“Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight” (Proverbs 3:5-6).

I truly needed to see that this weekend. Thank you so much brother, it was spot on.