Declare Boyfriend/Girlfriend 'Status'

[jops]

How AND When exactly do you declare that you actually have a boyfriend or girlfriend?

This question has baffled me ALL MY LIFE! How soon can you say to your very-good-friend that you are his girlfriend or her boyfriend?

How do YOU approach them to get that status? For example... 'Can I be your boyfriend...?

So really, at what stage or phase in your dating relationship can you say 'Oh! I have a girlfriend, I dated for 1 week!'

jools

 

[ignorant and stupid]

I'd say you are bf/gf when in public you start... holding hands, hugging, arms round waists... etc.

 

[~Beauty_from_Pain~]

For me, it is after he asks me if I want to be his girlfriend. I like to be asked. And I want to be his girlfriend before the kissing, etc.

 

[bumblebee62331]

We were on the phone and I said "Look, mate, when can we make this official?" haha

I was very impatient.

 

[Maeyken]

I think before either person refers to the other as bf/gf, a conversation should take place discussing the status of the relationship, and where it is headed. Once both people agree, then that's when you start saying it.

 

[Mskedi]

After only a couple weeks of dating, my (now) bf and I were talking about what we were telling our friends about the other person. In the midst of this he said, "Well, they know I have a girlfriend..." and then he paused and said, "I do, right?"

So, yeah, that clinched it.

Boyfriend has many fewer syllables than "the guy I've been on a bunch of dates with", so I definitely like to get to that stage as soon as possible.

 

[Arclight610]

It is always a good idea to ask them. Like my girlfriend and I have been "dating" for a few months and could really consider each other Bf/Gf but anyways I decided to make it official. In person I said "Cassy, I love you so much more than anyone else in my whole life, will you be my girlfriend?" She said yes. Hence, that is when we became Boyfriend and Girlfriend.

 

[ThatButton]

Yeah like everyone else has said I think just coming out and saying "So would you like to be my boyfriend/girlfriend?" is the best way to approach it. It was an awkward moment when my boyfriend ask me because we had been friends who went to movies, rollerblading, out to eat, etc together for like 7 months. I refused to ask him and when he finally asked me I was just so happy I was speechless(we were 16 at the time). Now that I look back I should have asked him after like month number 3. You live and learn! It worked out for the best anyway!

 

[Ceris]

It took one or two "What exactly are we" relationships with my girlfriend before it was really "official".

 

[AnaSnow]

I think you kind of know before actually making it official. I'm really big on "reading between the lines" and vibes. It is fairly easy to tell when someone is interested in you. Once you are interested and think the person is interested too, then you should ask the person where they would like your friendship/relationship to go. By this time the feelings and mindset are usually there and it's just a matter of putting on a title.

 

[Hope_0004]

I'm in the minority, because I don't really think I'd be impressed with and/or comfortable with, "Can I be your boyfriend?" That would weird me out.

After we'd been seeing each other for a few months, my boyfriend invited me to a family thing and introduced me as his girlfriend. It would have been fine if he hadn't, but it was nice that he did. And maybe others might feel strange about this, but I wouldn't have been there anymore if I didn't want to be his girlfriend, certainly at a family event. I guess meeting the extended family (that I wanted to, that he wanted to invite me) kind of said it without it being said.

 

[Psychobug]

After a heart-to-heart in which we both discovered we wanted to be with the other, he asked "so that makes you my girlfriend, right?" . Honestly, I think it's easiest just to ask right out.

 

[Maeyken]

Honestly, I think it's easiest just to ask right out.

Exactly... one person in the relationship may see certain behaviour (meeting the family, for example) as "bf/gf" while the other may think it's still just friendship, or not-serious dating. It's important to actually talk about it, to be sure you know where the other person is at. Clear communication is SO important!!

 

[The Julikenz]

Hmm, i think it's different for every couple. Personally, i prefer the regular "so where are we with our friendship, and where do we want to go with it?" type talks. Deciding to make it official only comes with time, prayer, and communication.

 

[OrangeHope]

when he asked me to be his gf and i said yes thats when i was considered myself his gf.

 

[Lexi]

I honestly don't remember when we became officially boyfriend/girlfriend. I don't think we had the conversation. It just sort of... happened. *laugh*

 

[Inperfected]

I think for me it was the asking when i "actually" consider him to my boyfriend... But we really had considered eachother on that level quite a bit earlier than that.. I.e. anything we did we checked with the other.

So yes it's the asking bit that many will find necessary and special, but it's not always needed