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  • CF has always been a site that welcomes people from different backgrounds and beliefs to participate in discussion and even debate. That is the nature of its ministry. In view of recent events emotions are running very high. We need to remind people of some basic principles in debating on this site. We need to be civil when we express differences in opinion. No personal attacks. Avoid you, your statements. Don't characterize an entire political party with comparisons to Fascism or Communism or other extreme movements that committed atrocities. CF is not the place for broad brush or blanket statements about groups and political parties. Put the broad brushes and blankets away when you come to CF, better yet, put them in the incinerator. Debate had no place for them. We need to remember that people that commit acts of violence represent themselves or a small extreme faction.

Debating- right or wrong?

CShephard53

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Is it right to debate when you know the debate will be heated? Is it right to debate knowing that you can sometimes get too angry with people for their posts and lash out?
The point of this thread? Discuss the ethics and morality of debating, both from a Christian and nonChristian perspective. No fighting. Go.
 

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I think debating is fine because you are trying to sway the opinion of someone else towards something you believe is better. If I never said, "this is a better way" you wouldn't know it and be worse off.
Now, you can easily hurt someone's feelings and that's wrong so you have to control yourself and also try to read the other person. I really offended a brother in law because I assumed he had the same thick skin as his brother, he didn't and left in a huff. It took a while to repair that I still simply won't debate him because I don't want to hurt him again. I assume people here are here for debate. Even though some are terrible at it, if it's wrong to debate then this site may as well shut down.
So, debating is ok. Insulting is not.
 
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There are times when I am debating someone and I quickly find that they are not going to change their position no matter what, for whatever reason. If I am debating them 1 on 1 in private I would stop right there. There is no point since one or both of us is intractable. But in a forum like this I would try and keep debating for the people reading the debate. Who knows, I might help someone to change their mind.

To me debating without willingness to give and take is counter productive and bad, but if your willing to at least check the other guys points out and conceder them, it can be good.
 
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quatona

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Is it right to debate when you know the debate will be heated?
As long as my contributions don´t get heated...
Is it right to debate knowing that you can sometimes get too angry with people for their posts and lash out?
I don´t get angry. Discussion and debate is for arguments, not for emotions.
I think these virtual online discussions are a great exercise for that.
The point of this thread? Discuss the ethics and morality of debating, both from a Christian and nonChristian perspective.
Never argue ad hominem;
don´t knowingly use flawed arguments;
listen to what the person opposite has to say;
keep in mind that a word never means the same to any two persons;
for an offense to be successfully inflicted on you, you have to take offense; if you don´t take offense there is no offense.
if tempted to interprete something the person says as offensive, try to find a more positive interpretation and ask what he really meant to say.
If the other person doesn´t get what you say, work from the assumption that you have explained yourself poorly (don´t assume that the other person is dense or even misrepresents you intentionally).
If you don´t get what the other person says work from the assumption that you are missing something.
If you are not sure you understand correctly, paraphrase what you have understood the other person saying and ask her whether this paraphrasing is accurate.
Often and early ask for definitions of the terms the other person uses. Consider her statements by applying these definitions, rather than yours.

These are some of the basic guidelines which I found helpful for discussing productively, and which I try to keep in mind (but sometimes forget about).

For me it´s got nothing to do with ethics or morality, but rather with being aware of my own best interests.

I have no idea what your religion might have to do with it.
 
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