dealing with the parentals

[McDLT]

You're getting older might be a problem for your mom. Her baby boy growing up and all.

You really can't change your mom's attitude (although wouldn't that be nice , but the good thing is you can change your reaction to her attitude.

Maybe a few times you ask her for permission to do something be prepared for the no and then say "okay, thanks mom" and leave it as that. And as someone else suggested saying "I love you" is a good idea too.

Let us know how it's coming along.

 

[thepinkpencil3]

Hey rockinpaintballa, sometimes my mom and I go through the same stuff. I know with my mom, a lot of it comes from her working a full time job where she's on her feet for 10 or so hrs a day. Sometimes my mom will just yell at me for "nothing" but I mainly know what ticks her off, and I try to avoid it. You could try what Linnus suggested, writing the letter. Put it on her pillow or something, and just be as nice and sensitive about it as possible. You could also do something nice for your mom. You could try cleaning the bathroom or voluntarily emptying the trash or cooking dinner (that always pleases my mom!)
I hope everything works out for you, being a teenager can definitely be a bummer.

 

[Rockinpaintballa]

Haven't really tried anything besides just saying in a plain un attitudial [dunno if thats a word?]tone. "Mom why are you yelling at me and having an attitude I seriously didnt do anything but ask you a question or suggest something?" I cant help it you just get me so mad! Ok mom just dont talk to me then.

Another example the subject of dialects came up and it got around to me saying you dont speak proper english. Well she just wouldnt have that even tho she has a very bad southern/hick dialect. So she decides its time to start yelling I do speak proper english you talk the same way I do. I responded with no I dont speak like you I speak properly and she just keeps on with I'm tired of your ****y attitude I do talk right blah blah. So I was just like so why are you yelling again becuz I def didnt do anything but make a simple comment?

One time her recently I tried to prove to her shes the one who always gets an attitude starts yelling I stuck a digital camera in my pocket. Then when I proceeded to show her she was like I dont care what it shows etc. I was literally just like F it. I dont curse but thats literally my attitude toward this situation these days no other phrase can really describe it.

Please continue to keep me and my situation in your prayers.

 

[Kerouac71]

Wow man, that is really rough. Have you thought about maybe seeing a counselor at school or at your church at all. They may have some insight that we here do not.

 

[Linnis]

Get a job, save ever penny you can and move out when you graduate high school. I did it. Sometimes parents can just be impossible. They can be unwavering, the idea your my kid and my ideas right and that's it. It works with smaller kids but at some point teenagers have to take on the roles of an adult & there are lots of problems.

My parents yelled a lot too. So often that eventually my brother and I just stopped listening to it because it was the "I'm right your wrong" point of view.

As for telling your mother she doesn't speak proper English, you are just making matters worse for yourself and making her more frustrated and upset and will make her yell more. Besides that it's disrespectful. Her yelling is a totally differant matter than her Southern way of speak, bringing up a fault which isn't a part of the problem takes the attention from it and gets nothing done. Also it's rude and disrespectful to your parent. You may not agree and she may not respect you, but just because she lacks respect, doesn't mean you have to sink down to that disrespectful rude attitude too.

 

[BeanMak]

Having just finished getting 2 lovely young men through the teen years, I can relate to your mother and her situation.
After working all day, coming home to a mess, or a house full of kids, or getting asked, "what's for dinner" when they have been in the house all afternoon, or watching one of them do something they should know better than doing is REALLY frustrating. I am sure that having my grammer corrected/commented on by my all knowing 16 year old would have sent me through the roof. Talking nicely didn't seem to get anything through their thick skulls. Yelling, although it didn't help the situation, sure made me feel better, and you know, there is something to be said for that.
It is hard to live through this part of your life right, but it gets better. It is amazing how at in a few years, your mother becomes less ignorant.

 

[AimN]

Rockin,
You seems to be very bitter. This is not going to help matters at all!! Why are you insisting on having this power struggle with your mother? You're not making the situation any better by feeding into her anger. Try just not saying anything! Try and keep the peace in the house. Remember WWJD!
Aimee

 

[Rockinpaintballa]

The english thing was kind of a joke but yet i was serious if u know what I mean. Anyway thanks for everything things seem to have started getting better the pas umm 2 days? There has been no trouble but as all good things do I'm sure it will soon come to an end.

<3
Peace

 

[Kerouac71]

The english thing was kind of a joke but yet i was serious if u know what I mean. Anyway thanks for everything things seem to have started getting better the pas umm 2 days? There has been no trouble but as all good things do I'm sure it will soon come to an end.

<3
Peace

Hey keep the faith as we all pray for you and your mom.