Dealing with the affects of domestic abuse

[born2run]

He's being held in Dodge Co. evidently the place where they hold INS detainees for this state. For reasons Im sure you'll understand Im reluctant to say where Im at...nowhere, WI. I met him at my former place of employment.

 

[havana16]

understand completely when I left Chicago my familydid not know where I was untill I ws sure he wwas deported! keep me informed on how you are doing pm me if you want my e-mail address!

 

[born2run]

Im getting more than a little tired of constant nightmares whenever I sleep. Sometimes they include him, sometimes not, but it's always something bad and fearful. Grrrrr!

 

[Criada]

I'm sorry, sweetie... nightmares are horrible.
I find it helps to read the psalms before I go to sleep.
Praying for you.

 

[Ariel]

Im getting more than a little tired of constant nightmares whenever I sleep. Sometimes they include him, sometimes not, but it's always something bad and fearful. Grrrrr!

I used to have nightmares too of awful things that had happened to me.

Something that helped me was to write about it and pull the things I feared into conscious memory. Somehow facing my fears--recognizing things that had happened, getting angry, grieving--and finally forgiving and giving to the Lord--helped tremendously. Those dragons can't hurt as much when you have faced them squarely.

Praying for you!

 

[LovebirdsFlying]

I'm wondering whether moving might help. If he makes good on his threat to come back, he wouldn't find you. I don't know how feasible this is for you, but there might be a battered woman's shelter that could help you feel safer.

 

[born2run]

He called tonight, from jail. I missed the call, but one look at my phone and my blood ran cold. I recognized the area code, did a reverse number find, and bingo. Part of me was pretty curious as to what he wanted so I look up the detention center's number and talked to someone there who said they'd relay the message to him to have him call me back. So far nothing and I doubt it'll me tonight anymore. I'm fairly certain I know what he wanted, and I'll do it for him, only it won't be quite what he had in mind. I assume he wants me to testify at his deportation hearing. I will, but it won't be in his favor.

This call, even missed, puts me into an emotional tailspin. Things that I thought were cut and dried (for instance I hate him) come into question immediately. All I can think is how badly I miss him.

 

[rowrow]

Run, Run, Run Lady (metaphorically speaking) and don't look back. Plenty of other fish in the sea.