My mother killed her self. If anyone can help me deal. I don't know how to get over it.
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Dealing with Suicide
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Im terribly sorry for your loss. 
There are so many incredibly strong and conflicting emotions that shift back and forth and one can feel terribly overwhelmed. The psychological steps of grieving apply to us all, and there are 5 stages: Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, and Acceptance. It isnt as though you complete one step and then move to the next. In time there can be shifts between each until there is real acceptance. But even after one reaches the point of acceptance in time, some of those old feelings come back; its just that in time they are less in severity and frequency.
What ever you choose to do is up to you, but I found great support through the guidance of a counselor. There may be a support group, or your community at church, people you can lean on. The point is that you neednt go through it alone.
Try to be patient with yourself, and as you live your life, make time to work out your feelings. Feeling your emotions as they come is healthy. Through grieving in my past, when I felt angry, but I had work to do, Id concentrate on my work, and know that when I got home I would get into what I was feeling. Journaling is another tool. Write your feelings down, or write letters to your mom, or to God; what ever youre thinking just to pour it out. Swallowing your emotions will only delay your healing and cause you more suffering, and through time you will see your progress as you reflect on old entries. Make this healing process a priority, and keep in check with your mental health. If you feel the need, go to a doctor for assistance.
Ask for prayers if you feel prompted. Lean on others, and on the Lord for strength, and do things to empower and comfort yourself. Plan some uninterrupted me time to be good to yourself, (both men and women need to do this), and to do some grief work, even if its only renting a movie that you know will make you cry, and when you do cry, let it all out; pound on a pillow if it helps. Tears produced from irritants, like onions, are chemically different in components than tears from sadness. Tears from irritants cleanse your eyes, while tears from emotions actually release toxins. Remember that there is no shame in what you feel, or in reaching out for help. Try to do whatever you need to do for yourself that is healthy, and dont neglect your physical needs, just like you wouldnt want to neglect your emotional needs. Eat healthy; rest well; take a multi-vitamin; exercise. Good health and healing requires a balance of the spiritual, physical and emotional.
May the Lord be with you and give you strength and guidance; may you have comfort and clarity as you process recent events, and come to a place of peace and understanding; may you be lifted from guilt and sadness, and have patience through the process; may many people of support be guided to your path; may you have courage, healing and peace. INJC
There are so many incredibly strong and conflicting emotions that shift back and forth and one can feel terribly overwhelmed. The psychological steps of grieving apply to us all, and there are 5 stages: Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, and Acceptance. It isnt as though you complete one step and then move to the next. In time there can be shifts between each until there is real acceptance. But even after one reaches the point of acceptance in time, some of those old feelings come back; its just that in time they are less in severity and frequency.
What ever you choose to do is up to you, but I found great support through the guidance of a counselor. There may be a support group, or your community at church, people you can lean on. The point is that you neednt go through it alone.
Try to be patient with yourself, and as you live your life, make time to work out your feelings. Feeling your emotions as they come is healthy. Through grieving in my past, when I felt angry, but I had work to do, Id concentrate on my work, and know that when I got home I would get into what I was feeling. Journaling is another tool. Write your feelings down, or write letters to your mom, or to God; what ever youre thinking just to pour it out. Swallowing your emotions will only delay your healing and cause you more suffering, and through time you will see your progress as you reflect on old entries. Make this healing process a priority, and keep in check with your mental health. If you feel the need, go to a doctor for assistance.
Ask for prayers if you feel prompted. Lean on others, and on the Lord for strength, and do things to empower and comfort yourself. Plan some uninterrupted me time to be good to yourself, (both men and women need to do this), and to do some grief work, even if its only renting a movie that you know will make you cry, and when you do cry, let it all out; pound on a pillow if it helps. Tears produced from irritants, like onions, are chemically different in components than tears from sadness. Tears from irritants cleanse your eyes, while tears from emotions actually release toxins. Remember that there is no shame in what you feel, or in reaching out for help. Try to do whatever you need to do for yourself that is healthy, and dont neglect your physical needs, just like you wouldnt want to neglect your emotional needs. Eat healthy; rest well; take a multi-vitamin; exercise. Good health and healing requires a balance of the spiritual, physical and emotional.
May the Lord be with you and give you strength and guidance; may you have comfort and clarity as you process recent events, and come to a place of peace and understanding; may you be lifted from guilt and sadness, and have patience through the process; may many people of support be guided to your path; may you have courage, healing and peace. INJC
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Thanks for your help I'll give it a try I think I will try the letters. God bless and thankyou
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ArmouredSaint
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because this is your time,i wont go into my loss but im right there with you grief wise. counseling for me was not helping,i had to seek a support group weekly with about 4 other people,plus some psych appts,meds,etc. you're going to feel a pit in your stomach and heart for awhile.the most important thing to tell yourself daily,is this is not your fault,they die once we die every day after the fact.dont be another statistic and turn the tables and do what they did.its very very mind blowing to go on.my talks with God usually bring relief
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There are alot of groups on the Internet which meet together with others facing the same loss as you.. It is amazing how much strength and hope we can gain from just knowing others know what we are going through.. It is a very very hard road you are going through..
But you don't have to go it alone.. I would search for a group on the Internet.. and pray too that God leads you to the right one..
Dear God, I pray for anotherdalejrfan who grieves the loss of thier mother.. Lord I don't understand the depth of their pain.. but You do.. I pray You comfort them and lead them to others who can support them and help them through this difficult time... I pray Your peace touches their life.. I thank You that even when we feel totally and utterly helpless, alone and in such pain we feel in utter darkness.. You are there.. You are able to help us.. I pray that anotherdalejrfan finds hope and the strength to face the days ahead.. I pray this through the name of Jesus.. Amen
But you don't have to go it alone.. I would search for a group on the Internet.. and pray too that God leads you to the right one..
Dear God, I pray for anotherdalejrfan who grieves the loss of thier mother.. Lord I don't understand the depth of their pain.. but You do.. I pray You comfort them and lead them to others who can support them and help them through this difficult time... I pray Your peace touches their life.. I thank You that even when we feel totally and utterly helpless, alone and in such pain we feel in utter darkness.. You are there.. You are able to help us.. I pray that anotherdalejrfan finds hope and the strength to face the days ahead.. I pray this through the name of Jesus.. Amen
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That is terrible! When Someone I know and love passes away I always try to rmember they are in a better place. O, Theotokos, Bring peace and understanding to anotherdalejrfan and help him through these times, Amen.
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ArmouredSaint
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hope you find your way back in here.looks as though you posted and left the forums.i share your grief,bless ya.
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Well anotherdalejrfan , a lot of darkness has been put in your life, which possibly will negatively effect the choises you make in the future. We need to help and encourage you to make the positive decisions you where going to make in life that you had before your mothers desperate attempt to escape.
Tell us what plans you had before this more then tragic event took place. So we can love you and help you bringing light and love back in your life, and to make the positive choises in life you where going to make.
My advice is to talk talk talk about it, you need to digest what has happend, and in a anonymous enviroment like this you can lift your heart as much as you need, and i would 'advice with stress' that you should do so. And we need to catch and repair the damage that your mother has inflicted upon you.
I advice you to do what previous poster said, namely to find a support group (including christian forums) to help you get back on your feet again. Take the time to go goto church think about your mom and how you love her. And pray pray pray for strenght and forgive your mommy for what she has done upon you ,herself and upon others.
Try to forgive her , her life must been really to hard for her to handle, and sometimes people go thru a dark area in there lives and forget that to see the light they only need to look 'up' in their lives.
I've was suicidal too in my life,(hence my name) :S i had no idea of the impact and horror i would cause upon others. When you are in that state of desolation, you feel incredibly alone ,unloved and are highly self-centered ,thinking and moaning about your own situation.
But i found it wasn't what we are supposded to be and i eventually found an way out,
We are here on earth to help and love eachother. That way we can find our happyness in life.
Find the support you need. And know that God loves you and your mother, and that one day you may understand ,and find the strenght to move on with your life.
Tell us what plans you had before this more then tragic event took place. So we can love you and help you bringing light and love back in your life, and to make the positive choises in life you where going to make.
My advice is to talk talk talk about it, you need to digest what has happend, and in a anonymous enviroment like this you can lift your heart as much as you need, and i would 'advice with stress' that you should do so. And we need to catch and repair the damage that your mother has inflicted upon you.
I advice you to do what previous poster said, namely to find a support group (including christian forums) to help you get back on your feet again. Take the time to go goto church think about your mom and how you love her. And pray pray pray for strenght and forgive your mommy for what she has done upon you ,herself and upon others.
Try to forgive her , her life must been really to hard for her to handle, and sometimes people go thru a dark area in there lives and forget that to see the light they only need to look 'up' in their lives.
I've was suicidal too in my life,(hence my name) :S i had no idea of the impact and horror i would cause upon others. When you are in that state of desolation, you feel incredibly alone ,unloved and are highly self-centered ,thinking and moaning about your own situation.
But i found it wasn't what we are supposded to be and i eventually found an way out,
We are here on earth to help and love eachother. That way we can find our happyness in life.
Find the support you need. And know that God loves you and your mother, and that one day you may understand ,and find the strenght to move on with your life.
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