Dealing with jealously?

[tsuanthony]

I think I have a bad case of it right now
happens when I compare myself with over-talented people
alot of negative bad thoughts pop up in my head
I want those successful people to at least "trip" in life, to taste the dirt, the dirt that everyone else has to go through, you can't live life with your head held up in the sky forever

so any tips dealing with Jealously?
im open to all suggestions


I know I shouldn't be jealous, God gave me my own talents, why should I begin to care about what other people have?
it's become a race between Me vs everyone
but it really should be me vs myself

 

[achristiantech]

I think I have a bad case of it right now
happens when I compare myself with over-talented people
alot of negative bad thoughts pop up in my head
I want those successful people to at least "trip" in life, to taste the dirt, the dirt that everyone else has to go through, you can't live life with your head held up in the sky forever

so any tips dealing with Jealously?
im open to all suggestions


I know I shouldn't be jealous, God gave me my own talents, why should I begin to care about what other people have?
it's become a race between Me vs everyone
but it really should be me vs myself

Why do you think these successful people haven't already experienced what you would like them to experience? They have, no one gets a free ride on this fallen planet. If not now, then in eternity.

Read what the Word says about your struggle in Matthew 7:1-5. Perhaps this will help clear up the matter for you. Also read and meditate on the 10th Commandment (Ten Commandments), it may open up your eyes to what you are dealing with.

We're praying for you buddy.

 

[wonderwaleye]

I think I have a bad case of it right now
happens when I compare myself with over-talented people
alot of negative bad thoughts pop up in my head
I want those successful people to at least "trip" in life, to taste the dirt, the dirt that everyone else has to go through, you can't live life with your head held up in the sky forever

so any tips dealing with Jealously?
im open to all suggestions


I know I shouldn't be jealous, God gave me my own talents, why should I begin to care about what other people have?
it's become a race between Me vs everyone
but it really should be me vs myself

NEVER JUDGE ANOTHER'S LIFE UNLESS YOU HAVE WALKED IN THEIR SHOES AND KNOW THEIR TRUE HEART AND THEIR RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD.

steven

 

[ChildOfGod97]

I think I have a bad case of it right now
happens when I compare myself with over-talented people
alot of negative bad thoughts pop up in my head
I want those successful people to at least "trip" in life, to taste the dirt, the dirt that everyone else has to go through, you can't live life with your head held up in the sky forever

so any tips dealing with Jealously?
im open to all suggestions


I know I shouldn't be jealous, God gave me my own talents, why should I begin to care about what other people have?
it's become a race between Me vs everyone
but it really should be me vs myself

Maybe look at what you really get for "winning". It generally is effectively nothing.

Usually in life if winning appears to be something, it really is an illusion, a trick of the senses.

Excellence is hard to find and something to appreciate and copy if you do find it.

My kids, when little, always have a problem with losing games, so I usually let them win... but if I never let them lose, they never learn their limits and try and surpass them.

You get nothing from winning, but a lot from losing. If one can handle losing gracefully, what can one not handle.

 

[tsuanthony]

Why do you think these successful people haven't already experienced what you would like them to experience? They have, no one gets a free ride on this fallen planet. If not now, then in eternity.

Read what the Word says about your struggle in Matthew 7:1-5. Perhaps this will help clear up the matter for you. Also read and meditate on the 10th Commandment (Ten Commandments), it may open up your eyes to what you are dealing with.

We're praying for you buddy.

okay thanks :o
and im talking about the "blessed" fortunate, born talented type of people
people should just be good at one particular thing
being good at several things, while one person is only good at one of those things that the successful person has isn't far
why must we have well rounded people? ":\

getting a bit off track but..
and since when did practice make perfect?
I find that phrase false, only a few people can make that true
someone can try as hard as they can and still not make it to whatever they planned..

right now I think the only way for me to prevent jealously is just shut myself up in a room for a while

but thanks for the support
and i'll read the passages

 

[tsuanthony]

Maybe look at what you really get for "winning". It generally is effectively nothing.

Usually in life if winning appears to be something, it really is an illusion, a trick of the senses.

Excellence is hard to find and something to appreciate and copy if you do find it.

My kids, when little, always have a problem with losing games, so I usually let them win... but if I never let them lose, they never learn their limits and try and surpass them.

You get nothing from winning, but a lot from losing. If one can handle losing gracefully, what can one not handle.

guess I need to work on my self pride a bit
exactly I do I deal with self pride? "

 

[Jeffwhosoever]

I found that once I reached college, and found myself an a higher level of educated people, I knew far less than I had assumed during my high school days. I admire your self-evaluation of this topic, but the bible does deal with this issue in the four Gospel accounts - as well as other places. Look at the life of Jesus - where does he exhibit pride? And Jesus is God!

Jeffwhosoever

 

[achristiantech]

right now I think the only way for me to prevent jealously is just shut myself up in a room for a while.

Locking yourself up in a room for awhile will do little to help you unless you spend that time praying and listening for the Lord to speak to your heart. For the Holy Spirit indwells us and through Him you can and should receive guidance as He has already created in your conscious an awareness and conviction of the guilt that you feel currently. Let it not fester as it is you directly that will be impacted in a negative way, yet others are impacted in an indirect way. It's a good start what you have done by sharing your jealousy with other Christians here and more important hopefully with a local Christian that you trust and believe is walking closely with the Lord. Wise counsel is what you should seek and let the Holy Spirit lead you in how best to deal with your issue(s).

I have an accountibility partner and He has (we have) shared our battles with one another and Jesus has come through every time. There's someone in your life now or in the future that can likewise be there for you as well. Just remember, it's the Lord that is doing the doing.

Christian Words of Wisdom:

1) He who angers you, controls you!

2) The task ahead of us is never as great as the Power behind us.

 

[toprhi]

I think the best way to keep from being jealous is just not even to compare yourself with someone.

God has blessed you and He loves you just the way you are. No two people are the same and people have different gifts. It doesn't take away from your gifts or who you are as a person.

Try replacing the jealousy you feel towards that person with love and appreciation for them as a person.

Prayer helps in all situations.

 

[heron]

I am guessing that talented people treated you as though they were better. It is the arrogance that seeps through what they do that makes us squirm.

One time I heard a secular group sing gospel, and one woman stood out in the group so purely that she seemed to glow. I could tell that she carried the Spirit of God on her, and desired to bring God's presence wherever she sang.

The others in the group were very skilled, but did not carry that light.

Since then, I try to be more aware when I perform or speak publicly (erm... sometimes). You can do an incredible amount of good just being there, being the vessel for God's power. As you have seen, you (we) can also do a lot of harm, being a vehicle of competition and stepping on others to get ahead.

Where we are weak, He is strong.

 

[toolite]

I think I have a bad case of it right now
happens when I compare myself with over-talented people
alot of negative bad thoughts pop up in my head
I want those successful people to at least "trip" in life, to taste the dirt, the dirt that everyone else has to go through, you can't live life with your head held up in the sky forever

so any tips dealing with Jealously?
im open to all suggestions


I know I shouldn't be jealous, God gave me my own talents, why should I begin to care about what other people have?
it's become a race between Me vs everyone
but it really should be me vs myself

Praise God that you would just be honest! That's awesome within itself. It's best if you were to seek God for all the Good things God has given you.. Maybe certain things are being magnified to you - made bigger because you should really be wanting to know what God has for you. I think that once you begin to seek the Lord and ask with a good sincere heart you will be surprised as to what God has given you.. And once you are made aware and using it to benefit the Kingdom you won't be concerned about what others have because you will feel full of what God has put in you. Stay Blessed!

All The Glory Belongs To God Forever!

 

[miss-a]

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