Although it appears this OP is gone and may not come back, I just want address this.
And Godly way of handling things? No one has yet pointed out a single scriptural reference in this topic.
Really? Then you have not read with comprehension:
From post 18
And you as the husband are answerable to God for setting a loving, caring, accepting, safe, and self-sacrificial tone in your home and in your marriage. (Eph. 5) .
From post 22
Husbands and wives are both answerable to God. But I believe that just as Jesus answers to God for our sin and sets a loving and peaceful and joyful tone for the Bride, a husband is also responsible for his wife. And just as the church Bride responds in love, respect, and accepting that peaceful, joyful, loving tone, influencing her tone back to him as well as to others. (also ref to Eph 5) .
From post 25
In the Bible, we see a few places where a man is told to be satisfied with the wife of his youth, and may her "breasts satisfy you always" and that sort of thing
.kind of like Job, who made a "covenant with his eyes" to never look lustfully at another woman. .
From post 35
The Bible tells us that we do have the power to change - it tells us that we need to transform our hearts and minds to the likeness of Christ Jesus. It even tells us how - by taking every thought captive and making it obedient to Christ. It tells us to think of things that are lovely, right, pure, praiseworthy, etc, and you are not doing these things. .
From post 39
and it is all about becoming a more godly husband by learning to love your wife the way Jesus loves the church. Remember, he loved us while we were yet sinners. He loved us selflessly.
All of these are only from mine, let alone what godly advice you got from others here.
Especially when they've been put down since the time they were 5 effing years old and have lived an entire existence being defensive.
In that case, individual counselling would be beneficial, to help you deal with your childhood wounds. Seek healing for yourself first. The marriage can only be as healthy as the people in it. The same goes for counselling, too, though. It will only work as far as you are willing to do some soul searching and change the way you are.
I read through the other thread that was posted by MKGal, and there are certainly a lot of similarities. That poster was also given a lot of good advice and different ways to handle things. If you are the same person, it seems that you are simply unhappy with your life (which you admitted) and are looking for ways to adapt others around you in order to make you happy. But that will never succeed. Happiness comes from within. If you want to become a happier person, here are some things you can do (this comes from actual research, and is peer-reviewed):
Optimistic
Savor life
Spiritual
Have goals
Helpful
Have good social support
Gratitude
Some interesting facts about happiness:
50% of our happiness comes from genetics
10% of our happiness comes from circumstances
40% of our happiness is something
we can control!
Since only 10% of happiness comes from circumstances, it would be totally useless to change yours. Focus on the part that you can control the seven qualities I listed above are things you can control.
