Dealing with a Difficult EX

[jenptcfan]

I can tell you from experience that a stalker does not heed warnings.

I was stalked for months by an ex-girlfriend. I blocked her calls, she found a payphone and called. She wrote me letters. She called my friends and asked them about me and asked them to check up on me. She went by the house.

I called her parents and told them what was happening. They tried to get her to stop, but she wouldn't. We did everything in our power. I called the police. The police talked to her three times but couldn't get her to stop. We were on the verge of having her arrested, but I just didn't have the heart to see her arrested and go to court for it, even though the likelihood was that she would go through the court process with a mere slap on the wrist anyways. Likely it would be a "Don't do it again.. You can go now".

Harrassment is an extremely difficult thing to prove and make stick in a Court of Law unless they are repeat offenders, and a couple of emails don't cut it unfortunately. Going to your pastor probably won't solve it either. If anything it will exacerbate it.

How did you eventually get her to stop?

I don't think this guy is at the point of "stalking" me per se...I just think he's socially inept and doesn't realize that being annoying isn't funny or effective communication.

 

[SirKenin]

How did you eventually get her to stop?

I don't think this guy is at the point of "stalking" me per se...I just think he's socially inept and doesn't realize that being annoying isn't funny or effective communication.

I don't know what happened to be honest. She just quieted down after I got mad at her a couple of times. My one friend started yelling at her and slamming the phone down every time she called, he got so mad. I hung up on her every time she called. The last police call might have helped, because they were ready to arrest her. They'd had enough.

However in the end I'm not exactly sure what made her stop. Now we're down to just once a month or so.

Just filter your email for starters, and see where that takes you...