- Sep 14, 2015
- 41
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- Country
- United States
- Gender
- Female
- Faith
- Non-Denom
- Marital Status
- Married
Hello! So my title is pretty self explanatory. I have a friend who complains just about everyday and she is always negative. I think a bit of a back story might help in this.
We have gotten to know each other only through my fiance, they were never close friends but in a way I feel that he introduced me to her so that she would have more friends in Christ that were women. So, we had gotten to know each other over time. Through those years, it seemed as if we had so much in common. We would always talk about our love for the Lord and how far He has brought us and how much we want to live and serve for the Lord, we had gotten to know about each others' families, and the things that we currently dealt with. So, I became familiar with things about herself. I knew that she dealt with a lot of rejection and past hurt that she still carried. I always tried to offer her a lending ear as well as give her encouragement and love in Christ and tried to speak things to her that would comfort her as well as give her sound advice, and for the most part she would partly listen...WELL, overtime it was as if it had gotten worse. The more we got to know each other, the more she came directly to me constantly complaining and going on these emotional rampages. It was like some days she would be in a place of truly following the Lord and talking about how much she knew she needed to change, then the next day she will literally blow up in her emotions saying things. She constantly says things like, 'I hate everyone','I don't know why I'm still alive', 'I hate my husbands family','I hate the way I look','I don't care about anything anymore' etc. and when she gets in those moods, she just vents and vents and spews out this negativity fueled by hatred, and she even admitted to having these things in her heart and how she didn't care, but then she will switch the next day?
This is just most of the story summed up, there is more. I honestly feel drained by talking to her. She just talks so negatively now. I have tried to reason with myself saying that maybe God has placed me in her life to help her, but I just end up feeling this huge burden when she calls to talk to me. I have even told her straight how she needed to seek God on renewing her heart and mind, but she basically blows it off.
I truly need sound advice on this matter. I don't want to be rude to her, but I am starting to become increasingly bothered by this situation!
We have gotten to know each other only through my fiance, they were never close friends but in a way I feel that he introduced me to her so that she would have more friends in Christ that were women. So, we had gotten to know each other over time. Through those years, it seemed as if we had so much in common. We would always talk about our love for the Lord and how far He has brought us and how much we want to live and serve for the Lord, we had gotten to know about each others' families, and the things that we currently dealt with. So, I became familiar with things about herself. I knew that she dealt with a lot of rejection and past hurt that she still carried. I always tried to offer her a lending ear as well as give her encouragement and love in Christ and tried to speak things to her that would comfort her as well as give her sound advice, and for the most part she would partly listen...WELL, overtime it was as if it had gotten worse. The more we got to know each other, the more she came directly to me constantly complaining and going on these emotional rampages. It was like some days she would be in a place of truly following the Lord and talking about how much she knew she needed to change, then the next day she will literally blow up in her emotions saying things. She constantly says things like, 'I hate everyone','I don't know why I'm still alive', 'I hate my husbands family','I hate the way I look','I don't care about anything anymore' etc. and when she gets in those moods, she just vents and vents and spews out this negativity fueled by hatred, and she even admitted to having these things in her heart and how she didn't care, but then she will switch the next day?
This is just most of the story summed up, there is more. I honestly feel drained by talking to her. She just talks so negatively now. I have tried to reason with myself saying that maybe God has placed me in her life to help her, but I just end up feeling this huge burden when she calls to talk to me. I have even told her straight how she needed to seek God on renewing her heart and mind, but she basically blows it off.
I truly need sound advice on this matter. I don't want to be rude to her, but I am starting to become increasingly bothered by this situation!