Hello All,
I had been dating this girl for over 5 months. In that 5 months I discovered the happiness that I have always desired in life. We fell deeply in love with eachother and wanted to spend every second with eachother. I would buy things for her, always take her out to dinner. She lived in an apartment with her roommate and didn't have a lot of money. So whenever she couldn't afford groceries I would bring some over for her. We both had the gut instinct that we were truly meant for eachother. I always thanked the lord for bring her into my life and would pray for her safety. She promised me she would never leave me and would never hang around with another guy she thought would jeopardize our relationship. I also swore to her I would never leave her and would never do her wrong. I stuck to it. On occasion she would cry because she was worried I would leave her. I knew that I would never do that and swore I never would. I also had my insecurities every once in a while. She liked to hang with guys a lot. A lot of those guys wanted more than friends. I trusted her, but I didn't trust other guys. So, I would always let her do her thing. About 2-3 weeks ago she met this new guy at her work. She bragged about him and told me how much they had in common. That set off an alarm, but I was calm and cool with her about it. She continued to hang with him and they started to get close. I started to get worried, but I was ok. My girlfriend encountered car problems that either her or I could afford to fix. Out of the clear blue sky the new guy offered to pay for it. Right then, I flipped my lid. That was like walking into another dogs yard. You just don't do that. We argued about it and I tried telling her that he wanted more than friends. She was naive and swore she would never leave me for him. She started throwing the guilt trip on me on how I didn't trust her. So I felt bad and apologized. I was cool with her hanging out with him. Things went smoothly for a week or so. The week after we had the arguement I took her out her our 5 month anniversary and it was a great time. It was as if our love was renewed. The week went by and we spent time with eachother. I left on a Thursday night and later on she sent me a text message asking me if I really did love her. I said of course I always will. I told her that I may think differently about her if she cheated on me or got into drugs or lied to me. She understood. I smelt something very fishy and asked her what was wrong. She just said she wanted to make sure. She told me she loved me so much. Friday went by and I never recieved a call or text message from her. I found it really fishy. So I texted her and told her to let me know when she went on break for work. She said shed let me know. Hours went by and I never heard from her. I live 30 minutes away. So I headed out myself. She texted me when I got there and said that she was on break then. I thought, "Why didn't she let me know earlier?" I got there and she said she had to eat and would be a "minute". So a minute turned into an hour. So I went in and asked her what was going on? I started to get ignorant because I knew something wasn't right. She said she called me four times and my phone went to voicemail. My phone was on the entire time and I have no record of her calling me. So I just sighed and said alright goodnight I love you. I texted her later on that night and apologized for being ignorant. I told her it felt like she was trying to avoid me. I never got a text back. Saturday went by..nothing. So i called her Sunday after she got off of work in the morning and asked her what was going on. I told her she was acting really funny. She just said she was stressed and had a lot going on. I knew deep down she was lying. But I said, "ok babe, that's fine. Did you still want me to come over and watch movies with you tonight?" She immediately said, "NO, I'm coming by your place." I knew right then something wasn't right. So after work I decided to drop by her apartment when she wasn't there. I walked in her room and found the guy laying in her bed. I was devestated. I had never been so upset in my entire life. She found out I stopped by and she said she needed to talk to me. So she stopped by my house and told me the news. I was crushed..absolutely crushed. That Thursday night she said she had sex with him. I lost it. Everything came crashing down. It was as if my life ended right there. I told her I would give her a second chance because I truly loved her. She said she couldn't because she was in love with both of us. I went ballistic. There's no way you can truly love two people in the same way. She started making up excuses such as, "Your insecurity with dan scared me away." And we all know, any guy offering to pay for your girlfriends car when you've known them 2 weeks wants something. I had every right to be concerened. She thought that we weren't right for eachother "right now". I told her to make her choice. She told me she didn't want to lose either of us. I told her she could only want one. We both got upset with eachother and she left. The next day one of her close friend IM'ed me and told me how shocked and sorry she was. She said she was over her place that night and the Dan guy was over there. She said she seemed "very close" to him. That set me off and I called her that night I demanded all of my stuff back. We talked for another two hours on the phone and I was drowning in tears. She just kept saying, " I wish you knew how I felt." She kept saying that she still wanted me in her life. I asked her what if she meant friends or relationship? She didn't give me a straight answer. She said she didn't think we were meant for eachother right now. I told her I that I loved her so much and would do anything for her and wanted to be with her. She said, " Love just isn't enough." I ended the call in tears spilling my guts to her and told her I loved her with all of my heart. She came by the next day to give me my belongings back. I didn't know she came by because my mom happend to be standing outside waiting for her. My mom took everything. She asked if she could see me. My mom said, "No, he's in bad shape." My mom came back in to give her some of her belongings. My mom came back out and my mom came back out and saw her in tears. I haven't talked to her in a couple days. I've been asking the lord for direction. I asked the lord to bring her back to me. These past few days my gut has been telling me that the relationship wasn't over. I want to give her that second chance and prove to her I love her. A lot of people tell me to just forget about her, but I know deep down we are still meant for eachother. How should I go about getting her back? Can someone else help analyze what she may be thinking? Much help appreciated. Thank you so much.
I had been dating this girl for over 5 months. In that 5 months I discovered the happiness that I have always desired in life. We fell deeply in love with eachother and wanted to spend every second with eachother. I would buy things for her, always take her out to dinner. She lived in an apartment with her roommate and didn't have a lot of money. So whenever she couldn't afford groceries I would bring some over for her. We both had the gut instinct that we were truly meant for eachother. I always thanked the lord for bring her into my life and would pray for her safety. She promised me she would never leave me and would never hang around with another guy she thought would jeopardize our relationship. I also swore to her I would never leave her and would never do her wrong. I stuck to it. On occasion she would cry because she was worried I would leave her. I knew that I would never do that and swore I never would. I also had my insecurities every once in a while. She liked to hang with guys a lot. A lot of those guys wanted more than friends. I trusted her, but I didn't trust other guys. So, I would always let her do her thing. About 2-3 weeks ago she met this new guy at her work. She bragged about him and told me how much they had in common. That set off an alarm, but I was calm and cool with her about it. She continued to hang with him and they started to get close. I started to get worried, but I was ok. My girlfriend encountered car problems that either her or I could afford to fix. Out of the clear blue sky the new guy offered to pay for it. Right then, I flipped my lid. That was like walking into another dogs yard. You just don't do that. We argued about it and I tried telling her that he wanted more than friends. She was naive and swore she would never leave me for him. She started throwing the guilt trip on me on how I didn't trust her. So I felt bad and apologized. I was cool with her hanging out with him. Things went smoothly for a week or so. The week after we had the arguement I took her out her our 5 month anniversary and it was a great time. It was as if our love was renewed. The week went by and we spent time with eachother. I left on a Thursday night and later on she sent me a text message asking me if I really did love her. I said of course I always will. I told her that I may think differently about her if she cheated on me or got into drugs or lied to me. She understood. I smelt something very fishy and asked her what was wrong. She just said she wanted to make sure. She told me she loved me so much. Friday went by and I never recieved a call or text message from her. I found it really fishy. So I texted her and told her to let me know when she went on break for work. She said shed let me know. Hours went by and I never heard from her. I live 30 minutes away. So I headed out myself. She texted me when I got there and said that she was on break then. I thought, "Why didn't she let me know earlier?" I got there and she said she had to eat and would be a "minute". So a minute turned into an hour. So I went in and asked her what was going on? I started to get ignorant because I knew something wasn't right. She said she called me four times and my phone went to voicemail. My phone was on the entire time and I have no record of her calling me. So I just sighed and said alright goodnight I love you. I texted her later on that night and apologized for being ignorant. I told her it felt like she was trying to avoid me. I never got a text back. Saturday went by..nothing. So i called her Sunday after she got off of work in the morning and asked her what was going on. I told her she was acting really funny. She just said she was stressed and had a lot going on. I knew deep down she was lying. But I said, "ok babe, that's fine. Did you still want me to come over and watch movies with you tonight?" She immediately said, "NO, I'm coming by your place." I knew right then something wasn't right. So after work I decided to drop by her apartment when she wasn't there. I walked in her room and found the guy laying in her bed. I was devestated. I had never been so upset in my entire life. She found out I stopped by and she said she needed to talk to me. So she stopped by my house and told me the news. I was crushed..absolutely crushed. That Thursday night she said she had sex with him. I lost it. Everything came crashing down. It was as if my life ended right there. I told her I would give her a second chance because I truly loved her. She said she couldn't because she was in love with both of us. I went ballistic. There's no way you can truly love two people in the same way. She started making up excuses such as, "Your insecurity with dan scared me away." And we all know, any guy offering to pay for your girlfriends car when you've known them 2 weeks wants something. I had every right to be concerened. She thought that we weren't right for eachother "right now". I told her to make her choice. She told me she didn't want to lose either of us. I told her she could only want one. We both got upset with eachother and she left. The next day one of her close friend IM'ed me and told me how shocked and sorry she was. She said she was over her place that night and the Dan guy was over there. She said she seemed "very close" to him. That set me off and I called her that night I demanded all of my stuff back. We talked for another two hours on the phone and I was drowning in tears. She just kept saying, " I wish you knew how I felt." She kept saying that she still wanted me in her life. I asked her what if she meant friends or relationship? She didn't give me a straight answer. She said she didn't think we were meant for eachother right now. I told her I that I loved her so much and would do anything for her and wanted to be with her. She said, " Love just isn't enough." I ended the call in tears spilling my guts to her and told her I loved her with all of my heart. She came by the next day to give me my belongings back. I didn't know she came by because my mom happend to be standing outside waiting for her. My mom took everything. She asked if she could see me. My mom said, "No, he's in bad shape." My mom came back in to give her some of her belongings. My mom came back out and my mom came back out and saw her in tears. I haven't talked to her in a couple days. I've been asking the lord for direction. I asked the lord to bring her back to me. These past few days my gut has been telling me that the relationship wasn't over. I want to give her that second chance and prove to her I love her. A lot of people tell me to just forget about her, but I know deep down we are still meant for eachother. How should I go about getting her back? Can someone else help analyze what she may be thinking? Much help appreciated. Thank you so much.
bless your heart. trust is learned. even if you take her back, suspicious feelings will be there. only time can help you learn to trust her. but it doesn't sound like she wants this. are you unequally yoked? maybe, i'd offer to attend christian counseling with her. xo dee
Thank you for your input
