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Dealbreakers
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Apollo Celestio
Deal with it.
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Sex is icky. D:
And I'm not good at feelings.
Otherwise I can't see any "deal breakers" unless she's a real neat freak.
And I'm not good at feelings.
Otherwise I can't see any "deal breakers" unless she's a real neat freak.
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white dove
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All of the following are things that can either be taken as a dealbreaker... or is something that past men in my life have enjoyed/respected about me. In other words, they can be taken either as a positive or a negative:
- I'm intelligent.
- I'm bold.
- I speak up and am not quiet when I see, hear or read something that is unjust or morally questionable.
- I am stubborn. S-T-U-B-B-O-R-N
- I'm goofy.
- I LOVE to dance!
- I have relatively-high standards -- when compared to the "norm."
- I'm a Christian who doesn't believe that Christ is only for Sundays.
- I, sometimes, don't know when to keep my mouth shut until it's too late.
- I'm sarcastic. S-A-R-C-A-A-A-A-A-A-S-T-I-C.
- So is my family.
- Speaking of which, I'm pretty close to my family.
- I'm open-minded.
- I consider myself a conservative liberal at best because I refuse to align myself, politically, with any particular party.
- I'm a pacifist, but even so, I support my troop (ie. my brother).
- I enjoy music you're probably afraid to listen to.
- I'm a bit scrappy, but a bit of a princess. I have a love/hatred with the concept of camping. "Roughing it," to me, means being without moisturizer for a day or 2.
- I mess up on baked goods.
- I am consistently late - or barely on-time - for things.
- I have horrible sense of direction.
- I am proud of my cultures and embrace others', as well.
- I'm opinionated.
- I question people... a lot. I want to learn about - and from - others. I want them to learn about - and from - me, as well.
- I'm long-winded.
- I suck at birthdays.
- I care "too much," sometimes.
- Respect is huge for me.
- I'm giving.
- I'm a bit of a free spirit.
- I'm a chameleon.
- I'm moody. Sometimes I'm very energetic and other times, I want to be quiet and reflect.
- I own WAY too many books... lingerie... shoes... and recipe books.
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well it's nice to see there are a few christian women out there who don't plan on having children.
gives me some hope i'll find one since i'm fairly opposed to the concept myself but figured i'd probably have to have them anyway since most women seem to want them.
dealbreakers for me -
well i'm getting tattoos eventually, I know that is a dealbreaker for some people. Moreso christians it seems
i'm fairly tight with money. I'm not someone who is into spending heaps of money on an item just because it has a brand name like versace or something. just seems pointless, a shoe is a shoe.
I don't an interest in travel, most people want to see heaps of other countries, I don't
gives me some hope i'll find one since i'm fairly opposed to the concept myself but figured i'd probably have to have them anyway since most women seem to want them.
dealbreakers for me -
well i'm getting tattoos eventually, I know that is a dealbreaker for some people. Moreso christians it seems
i'm fairly tight with money. I'm not someone who is into spending heaps of money on an item just because it has a brand name like versace or something. just seems pointless, a shoe is a shoe.
I don't an interest in travel, most people want to see heaps of other countries, I don't
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white dove
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I forgot these:
- I'm tall and tend to wear high heels now and again.
- I have tattoos.
- The idea of having children interests me, but not as much as it does for some women. I feel like that sort of desire will come when I'm ready and am in a solid relationship, naturally wanting to have children together with my husband. Whereas now, I don't even like to think about it.
- I'm tall and tend to wear high heels now and again.
- I have tattoos.
- The idea of having children interests me, but not as much as it does for some women. I feel like that sort of desire will come when I'm ready and am in a solid relationship, naturally wanting to have children together with my husband. Whereas now, I don't even like to think about it.
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white dove
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You might be surprised at how many women want a big teddy bear to cuddle up to.
Just sayin'.
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Possible dealbreakers
-I'm stubborn
-Broken family history(some people see it as a dealbreaker, but why should they? that's always confused me...)
-Semi-hyper (not semi-homemade)
-i don't care about wealth...just thankful to have what i need and convinced "we" will when i get married and start a family. Always have, by God's grace, so why should I believe otherwise?
-I have a very narrow definition of "need".
-i am literally ready to move and go wherever needed to at the drop of a hat (more like, at the word of God, yes!), and my definition of home is very fluid. Some people have a very concrete definition of "home". I say, save the sweat and the cement for relationships, not homes and buildings. But that's my opinion.
-I tend to...be...very...ambitious. Several people have called me "superwoman". I tend to take things upon myself and work really hard. When I'm still, I feel a tad lazy. But this is not as bad as it used to be, it is improving. Thank God for that. Still, I get pretty busy. I like to do a lot of things and be pretty involved, especially with Bible studies and activities with my peers. However, if I were needed elsewhere, I would be there. It just so happens that my life is IN the busy-ness right now.
-I'm a day-dreamer
-I love to write and get distracted by blank paper and a pen often.
-I can be fairly adventurous
-I absolutely love the outdoors and rough rough camping.
-I'm stubborn
-Broken family history(some people see it as a dealbreaker, but why should they? that's always confused me...)
-Semi-hyper (not semi-homemade)
-i don't care about wealth...just thankful to have what i need and convinced "we" will when i get married and start a family. Always have, by God's grace, so why should I believe otherwise?
-I have a very narrow definition of "need".
-i am literally ready to move and go wherever needed to at the drop of a hat (more like, at the word of God, yes!), and my definition of home is very fluid. Some people have a very concrete definition of "home". I say, save the sweat and the cement for relationships, not homes and buildings. But that's my opinion.
-I tend to...be...very...ambitious. Several people have called me "superwoman". I tend to take things upon myself and work really hard. When I'm still, I feel a tad lazy. But this is not as bad as it used to be, it is improving. Thank God for that. Still, I get pretty busy. I like to do a lot of things and be pretty involved, especially with Bible studies and activities with my peers. However, if I were needed elsewhere, I would be there. It just so happens that my life is IN the busy-ness right now.
-I'm a day-dreamer
-I love to write and get distracted by blank paper and a pen often.
-I can be fairly adventurous
-I absolutely love the outdoors and rough rough camping.
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Luther073082
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The biggest one is probably this. . .
I insist that anyone I marry be in or join the Lutheran church and study at the very least the small catechism. Plus I am extremly serious about my children knowing their catechism.
The second I think is that I make very little money. (At least right now)
I refuse to go into more debt unless it is A. Absolutly necessary. B. For a house or C. For a useful education. Other then those reasons I am done with debt.
I no matter what the income I view new cars as a waste of money.
Especially in long term partners I'm extremely open about everything in my life. Its just sort of how I grew up in my family. So you may have to deal with some over-shares.
I can find a lot of things interesting when 90% of the rest of the world thinks its boring.
I insist that anyone I marry be in or join the Lutheran church and study at the very least the small catechism. Plus I am extremly serious about my children knowing their catechism.
The second I think is that I make very little money. (At least right now)
I refuse to go into more debt unless it is A. Absolutly necessary. B. For a house or C. For a useful education. Other then those reasons I am done with debt.
I no matter what the income I view new cars as a waste of money.
Especially in long term partners I'm extremely open about everything in my life. Its just sort of how I grew up in my family. So you may have to deal with some over-shares.
I can find a lot of things interesting when 90% of the rest of the world thinks its boring.
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lostaquarium
Quite flawed
- I didn't realise I had any dealbreakers until I started thinking I guess that's a dealbreaker - I'm often unaware of my own flaws.
- I don't show feelings or emotions well, and I don't ask for help. I have an idea that nobody's interested enough to hear me vent.
- I'm selfish. I'm not good at remembering others, but this is something I'm working on very hard.
- Sometimes I skip church when I'm sad.
I guess that's a dealbreaker - I'm often unaware of my own flaws.- I don't show feelings or emotions well, and I don't ask for help. I have an idea that nobody's interested enough to hear me vent.
- I'm selfish. I'm not good at remembering others, but this is something I'm working on very hard.
- Sometimes I skip church when I'm sad.
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Mrs. Luther073082
Commit to the LORD whatever you do - Proverbs 16:3
I'm agoraphobic. While I am considerably high functioning for someone with an anxiety disorder like that, I am because I put a lot of work into fighting against it for years. It has occurred to me that no matter how much progress I make, I don't think I will ever be done "recovering" from this. I will be fighting it my entire life. A lot of things that are easy for normal people are not ever going to be that easy for me although they may be tollerable for me with effort and desensitization (or as a last resort, drugs -- flying for example is one of those things that requires drugs).
I have plenty more things that could be dealbreakers for other people, but I'll just stick with that one because it is pretty major. If a person can't understand and deal with me being an agoraphobic then they don't need to be with me and I definitely don't need to be with them.
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CrusaderKing
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Do we really need to list all the deal breakers about me? That would be a thread by itself. Let's just scratch the surface. I've got loads of skeletons in my closet and I'm a bit of a drinker. According to some people, I'm probably the biggest jerk that you'll meet. Let's just leave it at that.
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LostFound1986
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It all depends on who you are. People find different things attactive. I have many flaws and quirks. Hopefully, I don't have a major general dealbreaker...
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lozzie
Just me...
I'm sure someone will feel very lucky and privileged (sp?) one day to be your first!
~*~*~
My dealbreakers:
- I'm messy and hate cleaning - however in saying that I basically let the place get messy throughout the week and tidy up every saturday...
- I'm pretty careful on what I spend my money on
- Somehow I have a lot of junk? Urgh... and I moved a month ago - meaning I chucked out stuff too
- I need alot of 'me' time - huge introvert
- I'm a huge chatterbox and will ramble just to hear the sound of my own voice. Sometimes I don't even care if the other person is listening or not
- I talk to myself
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