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our daughter met a guy online. when he started calling she told us she met him locally at work. she claims she is in love with him. he came into town this week by bus (she paid for his ticket) with not a cent. he has no ids, no birth certificate, no social security number so he can't get a job.
she broughy him to our home at 11:00 p.m. on thursday and we allowed him to stay the night. (that's how we found out about no ids). we called his mom to see if she could help by getting him ids.
long story short, on friday morning our son dropped them off in town so he could look for a job while waiting for ids. somehow they got my bank card and took $400 that they used to buy 2 bus tickets to california.

this is so out of character for her. she volunteers in the community, never misses work,is a Christian. she told me that he promised that he'd go to church with her.

one of his friends from calif instant messaged us to look for this guy. i told him they left for calif and he said how this guy just uses girls to get their money and when they won't work for him anymore he moves on. matter of fact at any time he has 3 or 4 girls that he woos online. my daughter told him that she owns a house (but it's not yet in her name).

his mother called me to say the "kids" were coming to her house and that my daughter is pregnant whichi doubt. she only just met this guy face-to-face this week. his mom told me not to worry cause she'll get my daughter a "union" job at the grocery store so that she can have medical, etc. when I asked her what about her son working she told me he's just not a motivated person but if my daughter could get him to go to work that would be great.

our daughter is obviously confused by this man's advances and tricks. i am praying God's protection around her,that He would love her through me and that she will hurry up and come back home. she gave up her job, college, friends, family for this guy that she believes will marry her. when i asked him what his intentions were he said "i love her." when i asked if he planned on marrying her he replied "hey, we'll see what happens." she later told us that once she left the room she asked him why he said that and he told her he just didn't want to tell us.

this is so out of character for her. she is 21. i realize that legally she has a right to do as she pleases but we are still her parents and have an obligation to her. i can't have her arrested for using the bank card. that would no doubt alienate her even more and i don't want to leave her with a record.

please pray with me that the Holy Spirit will convict her to leave this situation and that Satan would take his hands off this beautiful child of ours. she knows we love her. thank you.
 

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Oh that is so sad. The internet can be such a dangerous thing if used wrongly and these men that prey upopn poor unsuspecting women just grate my nerves!! I join you in praying that God will wrap HIs arms around her and keep her safe and bring her back home. :pray:
 
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I will pray for your daughter, that she will see through this guy and come back home to her family that truly does love her. It is sad how some men prey on unsuspecting women. The internet can be a wonderful way to meet people as I have met so many great people through CF. But unfortunately, that isn't always the case. :(

Please keep us updated.
 
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why can't you have her arrested? are you saying that literally you cannot prosecute her, or that you don't have the heart?

If it's the latter, please listen to a young woman when I say DO IT!! It will get her home and away from that man. You can worry about the record (if any) later. She needs to get away from this guy before she's truly ruined, or worse. He could cause her bankruptcy, permanent emotional injury, pregnancy... or much worse. If I were you, I'd go straight to the cops and explain the situation... if they can't get a warrant for her, $20 says there's already at least one outstanding for him.
 
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WOW! for sure i will pray for you! however the daughter especially! Her emotions would be running hot at the moment and something like this will have a HUGE effect on her.

I would also like to pray for this unidentified male. Obviosuly he wants something and he is out to get it. I pray that his heart will be softened, he will become broken by this and realise what is wrong in his life, no doubt peaople who do this know that it is wrong, but they get caught up in satans trap and cannot be freed at an easy cost!

I pray that this man figures out what he is doing is wrong and that he turns to God to get out of the hole that he is placed within...All things are possible with Christ! and i feel that this man needs to be saved...we dont know how many other people he has hurt or is going to!
 
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my goodness, this is every parents nighmare concerning the internet. I know your daughter is much older than mine but it is so easy for men/women to lie about their situations/history etc.


I will definately pray for your daughter. I think goodgirls response should give you something to consider. At least it would get her home, but she's your daughter, you know better than a bunch of strangers like us! You and your family are in my prayers.
 
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