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Those who know me know that I have occasional communication breakdowns with my husband. Keep in mind that I am disabled, and he's the only one with an income, so any expenditures have to go through him. Often the pattern is this:
1.) I ask for X.
2A.) He misunderstands and thinks I want X-plus. (Something much more complicated and expensive.)
2B.) Alternatively, he'll reason that if X would make me happy, then X-plus would REALLY make me happy. (I recognize that his goal is to make me happy. He's a good man.)
3.) But he can't afford X-plus, so he waits and waits until it's in the budget. It can sometimes take several years, and meanwhile I don't have the X I've been asking for all along.
The latest concerns over-the-toilet storage in the bathrooms, needed to manage clutter. This is the kind of thing I had in mind, and what I asked for at least three or four years ago. It costs less than $50. He's been putting it off and putting it off in favor of other things. Finally yesterday, when our handyman was here to replace the wax seal on our toilet, hubby asked him about putting in the storage. And they start measuring out the space, and stuff like that, and I'm wondering why. Turns out hubby has been under the impression all this time that I wanted full-blown cabinetry installed, like the upper cabinets in a kitchen. Much more expensive to begin with, and a far more complicated process. That's why he had been putting it off. I *finally* made myself clear, and over-toilet racks similar to the pictured one have been ordered.
Daughter (who understood all along what I was asking for, and also wondered why he was delaying it) suggests that the next time I ask for something, I have a picture ready to show him exactly what I want, and how much it would cost.
Good idea.
But how will it stop him from going to the 2B option, thinking that if X would make me happy, then X-plus would make me even happier?
1.) I ask for X.
2A.) He misunderstands and thinks I want X-plus. (Something much more complicated and expensive.)
2B.) Alternatively, he'll reason that if X would make me happy, then X-plus would REALLY make me happy. (I recognize that his goal is to make me happy. He's a good man.)
3.) But he can't afford X-plus, so he waits and waits until it's in the budget. It can sometimes take several years, and meanwhile I don't have the X I've been asking for all along.
The latest concerns over-the-toilet storage in the bathrooms, needed to manage clutter. This is the kind of thing I had in mind, and what I asked for at least three or four years ago. It costs less than $50. He's been putting it off and putting it off in favor of other things. Finally yesterday, when our handyman was here to replace the wax seal on our toilet, hubby asked him about putting in the storage. And they start measuring out the space, and stuff like that, and I'm wondering why. Turns out hubby has been under the impression all this time that I wanted full-blown cabinetry installed, like the upper cabinets in a kitchen. Much more expensive to begin with, and a far more complicated process. That's why he had been putting it off. I *finally* made myself clear, and over-toilet racks similar to the pictured one have been ordered.
Daughter (who understood all along what I was asking for, and also wondered why he was delaying it) suggests that the next time I ask for something, I have a picture ready to show him exactly what I want, and how much it would cost.
Good idea.
But how will it stop him from going to the 2B option, thinking that if X would make me happy, then X-plus would make me even happier?