Dating

[beetlequeendiva]

I was talking to a friend last night about dating. I know this guy who is interested in me and everyone thinks I should date him - I'm not interested in him. And when I was asked why I wouldn't date non-christians, in particular him I got mad and said because I'm scared that I will get hurt (physically hurt i mean). does anybody else feel like that? I want to beable to put the barriers down but it's really hard.

 

[goldenviolet]

you are 100% right! trying to get you to date before you want to, and to date a non-christian. huh!?!
sweetheart, you are smart. that's not fear, that's prudence. that's your comfort zone that's your choice to make you go girl

God will help you bring your walls down when the time is right. and that Mr. Right out there is going to have so many Godly traits that you'll feel safe too.

 

[Febe]

you are 100% right! trying to get you to date before you want to, and to date a non-christian. huh!?!
sweetheart, you are smart. that's not fear, that's prudence. that's your comfort zone that's your choice to make you go girl God will help you bring your walls down when the time is right. and that Mr. Right out there is going to have so many Godly traits that you'll feel safe too.

Just what I would like to say, also!

 

[cruztacean]

Nothing says you should date anybody, Christian or not. Keep the barriers up as long as you need to. God will guide you by His Spirit and let you know when you're ready. Someone also told me once that we should never date someone we would not consider marrying, and since God doesn't want us to have an unequal yoke with non-believers.... well, then, we probably shouldn't date them either.

I need to point out, though, that just because a man is, or claims to be, a Christian does not mean he will not abuse. There are those who misuse the Scriptures about the husband being the head of the wife, and therefore see the wife as his property for him to treat as he pleases. I say this not to frighten you further but to urge you to pray for discernment. The misusers of those Scriptures should pull out the second half of those verses, which tell the man to love his wife and treat her as he would his own flesh. And certainly no one in his right mind would abuse his own flesh....

Please, when you are ready to date, hold out for truly Godly Christians.