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Eight Complex Rules For Dating My Adult JW Daughter
JW Behavior
(1) You can only date her with “a view to marriage” with no way out if it doesn’t work out between you once you are married. It’s all or nothing--so you better take it dead serious.
(2) You better be a baptized JW in good standing because marriage is “only in the Lord”. Otherwise, if you are “worldly”, she’ll get marked (light shunning).
(3) Since dating is with a view to marriage, you better be old enough to marry, preferably in your twenties at least, be able to fully financially support a wife and children, and be the head out the house and “take the lead” spiritually.
(4) No pre-martial hanky-panky, not even second base! You cannot determine compatibility in this area before your wedding night! Mess up on this and you land before a judicial committee. Holding hands and kissing on the cheek? Don’t push your luck!
(5) You better not go on a date with her alone and get to know her one on one. Date in a group—or bring a chaperone (a friend, maybe a parent!). This applies even if you are in your fifties. God forbid you ride alone in the car together before you are married!!!!
(6) If you are regularly talking on the phone with her, emailing, texting THIS IS DATING. Serious business! Wait a minute, didn’t you sit near her during the meeting?
(7) You will conform to a ton of unwritten rules in the JW community that cannot be found in the Young People Ask book, Awake, or any publication. Therefore, you better pass a “background check” with each other’s elders before declare your interest to go on the first date. If you’re in your twenties, you better at least be a ministerial servant or the marriage is doomed. You are a ministerial servant? Why aren’t you an elder? You are an elder? Why haven’t you been to MTS school? Why haven’t you been to Bethel? You aren’t a regular pioneer? Why can’t you take a part-time job, pioneer, be an elder, and still be able to financially support a wife and children?
(8) The entire JW community will micromanage your relationship. They will watch, judge, and report back on your dating activities (even when there is nothing against the rules to report). Of course, that assumes they approve and will not work against the relationship or try to stop it before it starts.
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I have to say, dating as a JW is very stressful and full of drama! As a young teen, not being able to talk on the phone with a girl or go out on an innocent date leads a person unable to communicate or date later in life when one is finally ready for marriage. The cycle of trying and failing when you are young, enables a person to make better decisions later in life. Most of the stuff in the Young People Ask book is simply bad advice!
Eight Complex Rules For Dating My Adult JW Daughter : exjw
JW Behavior
(1) You can only date her with “a view to marriage” with no way out if it doesn’t work out between you once you are married. It’s all or nothing--so you better take it dead serious.
(2) You better be a baptized JW in good standing because marriage is “only in the Lord”. Otherwise, if you are “worldly”, she’ll get marked (light shunning).
(3) Since dating is with a view to marriage, you better be old enough to marry, preferably in your twenties at least, be able to fully financially support a wife and children, and be the head out the house and “take the lead” spiritually.
(4) No pre-martial hanky-panky, not even second base! You cannot determine compatibility in this area before your wedding night! Mess up on this and you land before a judicial committee. Holding hands and kissing on the cheek? Don’t push your luck!
(5) You better not go on a date with her alone and get to know her one on one. Date in a group—or bring a chaperone (a friend, maybe a parent!). This applies even if you are in your fifties. God forbid you ride alone in the car together before you are married!!!!
(6) If you are regularly talking on the phone with her, emailing, texting THIS IS DATING. Serious business! Wait a minute, didn’t you sit near her during the meeting?
(7) You will conform to a ton of unwritten rules in the JW community that cannot be found in the Young People Ask book, Awake, or any publication. Therefore, you better pass a “background check” with each other’s elders before declare your interest to go on the first date. If you’re in your twenties, you better at least be a ministerial servant or the marriage is doomed. You are a ministerial servant? Why aren’t you an elder? You are an elder? Why haven’t you been to MTS school? Why haven’t you been to Bethel? You aren’t a regular pioneer? Why can’t you take a part-time job, pioneer, be an elder, and still be able to financially support a wife and children?
(8) The entire JW community will micromanage your relationship. They will watch, judge, and report back on your dating activities (even when there is nothing against the rules to report). Of course, that assumes they approve and will not work against the relationship or try to stop it before it starts.
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I have to say, dating as a JW is very stressful and full of drama! As a young teen, not being able to talk on the phone with a girl or go out on an innocent date leads a person unable to communicate or date later in life when one is finally ready for marriage. The cycle of trying and failing when you are young, enables a person to make better decisions later in life. Most of the stuff in the Young People Ask book is simply bad advice!
Eight Complex Rules For Dating My Adult JW Daughter : exjw