Should one be allowed to date again post divorce? I am recently divorced from a ten year marriage that was extremley abusive. I find myself stuck often in between two pholosphies - I know there are many - but these two stick the most (black or white as the grays are hard to see) - forget love, live loveless. Seek only God for love and find joy in that. OR, seek love on earth, and hope that it is okay to do so with God still present and loveing - as I feel if I seek love on earth, God will not love me anymore because I have sinned by being married once before. I know this sounds harsh, but my past church has identified me with the man who hurt me - as we became one flesh. They have me connected to him in such a way that I dont even have my own identity away from his. It is hard to find out when to break free, or how to break free. Help! Is there hope to once a gain find love on earth? God is always love - the utmost highest love at that, but for someone like me, should I just go on believing that love was once there, but I ruined it because I allowed myself to be abused for those ten years. I am torn between what is right from what is wrong. What do I look for? What do I hide from? What do I say, what do I not. I cam a confusing mess. lol lol lol
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Dating post divorce
- Thread starter loverofeternity
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Hi Anna!! 
It seems like you're pondering lots of thoughts here to help you make a choice. Should you date under God post-divorce, or should you stay single again and just pursue God alone?
Here's just a simple idea (if indeed not even a suggestion) to the dilemma: the word "freedom" comes to mind, namely "freedom of choice". Do as you will and God will equally support you. But never ever be constrained by the judgments and/or manipulations of others in such a situation. I'm assuming that your own personal choices can be trusted in matters which mostly just affect your own self.
PS. Take it slow
It seems like you're pondering lots of thoughts here to help you make a choice. Should you date under God post-divorce, or should you stay single again and just pursue God alone?
Here's just a simple idea (if indeed not even a suggestion) to the dilemma: the word "freedom" comes to mind, namely "freedom of choice". Do as you will and God will equally support you. But never ever be constrained by the judgments and/or manipulations of others in such a situation. I'm assuming that your own personal choices can be trusted in matters which mostly just affect your own self.
PS. Take it slow
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