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I also know that a lot of countries that we require visas from allow us without a Visa (your aunt's situation). It could change at any time if Americans started sneaking into other countries on a regular basis or became terrorist threats to those countries.
Unfair right?
It's not really about terrorist threat. Saudi Arabians are let off easy in the Visa program. THey still need to secure visas but securing them is A LOT easier and a lot faster than for us.
I worked in Saudi Arabia for a few years. They can get their visas cheaply and approved for a few days. Us will take weeks, months
No need to wonder how Saudi Arabian terrorists can easily get to USA...
I know that many people on this forum have talked about seeking spouses across country borders though international online dating. I was wonder if people research what it takes and costs to bring a non-citizen to your country or what it would take to move legally to theirs before you actually try this? I have immigrant friends and I know that it is an expensive undertaking to come to come to the US (they met their spouse in person and fell in love the old fashion way when the American was working in their country). And after watching some of the 90 day Fiance shows, it is seems like people who date online often are not financially stable enough and/or spend money they don't have to bring someone over here.
Anyone trying this route?
Do you have a specific place in mind? We don't have many hostels. And buses don't go near the campgrounds. And it is illegal to just sleep on a bench or a public park even if a lot of homeless people do do it some places.
Since Saudi Arabia is an actual Ally, it is sort of sad that there is enough problems that they aren't on the Visa-free program...but we do recognize that the area poses a threat to the US citizens.
Just around California, Las Vegas, and maybe around New Jersey. We have relatives in SF, LA, and New Jersey. If near relatives, they can let us stay with them.
I don't really plan on going all over USA and take many hours road trip, that's impossible, especially if I have to work too.
I have already semi-explored the eastern seaboard when I went to USA on a business trip several years ago. We did it only during weekends with friends.
There's lots of USA-haters in Saudi Arabia, not just terrorists, but even in the Royal Family too. USA knows this.
The alliance only exist because they benefit each other economically... Saudi Arabia is virtually visa-free. The visa only exists as a formality, they can get one so easily.
Because of money, they can turn a blind eye to the terrorist threat
SF to LA to LV is 653 miles via car. I do think there is a train you can take to those destinations. But that is still a lot of ground to cover. Good luck. I hope you make it here some day.
I don't think a person can just "buy" a Visa into the US by just being rich. Having money and connections probably allows it to be processed faster but it still has to go through the same channels. Most our government processes are pretty straightforward and everyone has to jump through the same hoops. No bribe and a wink to get around requirements.
Lots of American men who seek foreign women don't do well for themselves. They fall for scammers or fail to consider compatibility issues, and end up divorced a few short years later. Perhaps exposing the blind spot will help someone avoid this terrible fate.That’s pretty unflattering to American men. I guess they feel they’re pushovers.
Lots of American men who seek foreign women don't do well for themselves. They fall for scammers or fail to consider compatibility issues, and end up divorced a few short years later. Perhaps exposing the blind spot will help someone avoid this terrible fate.
My personal take is:
Only marry someone who is either an American citizen (born or naturalized), or who has had her permanent residence for at least two years. It takes 5 years as a permanent resident to become a citizen for someone who is not married to an American citizen, and 3 years as a permanent resident for someone who is married to an American citizen. Take away the possibility for a fast track to citizenship, and you cut down on fraud.
If she says she can't get a passport or a smartphone or plane tickets, don't believe her.
Many foreign women picked the US before they picked you. Consider why. Here's an example of why some women would prefer to marry American men:
So, to break it down:
1) Independence over being a housewife.
2) Don't have to cook/do laundry for him.
3) He's less likely to cheat.
4) Less complaints about being overweight.
5) We're more care-free than reserved.
6) We're more equality-minded.
In other words, if she wants more independence, and isn't gravitating towards being what is traditionally considered a good housewife (cooking/cleaning, etc), and isn't gravitating towards quiet men, and is likelier to let herself go in the weight department once married, and isn't as much of a "yes" woman with her husband, that's the kind of woman that wants to come here. What I have noticed about men who seek after foreign women is they want the opposite in a woman, and tend to be not the most social of men. So this can be a recipe for disaster.
The most serious of these of course, is the independence - an American feminist at least knows that marriage isn't a vehicle to independence, it's the opposite. Your spouse is at least as important as your dreams, and ideally, people would marry around compatible dreams. And they still have to give after that - if you have a relative that dies right when there's supposed to be an extended family visit to your in-laws that your spouse has been looking forward to for months, you two will have to give a bit on what to do and where to go. But consider the woman who wants independence and sees marriage to an American man as the fast track to getting it. She may or may not leave him right after she gets it, but what's going to cause real tension is she chose the US before she chose him, and she wants to study here and work there and live in this other place and the man she marries is along for the ride, or he's in the way. That's going to be a miserable marriage.
Also, let's not forget that culture clash as to how to live at home is a very real thing.
Most of this comes from different assumptions about what home life is supposed to be. The differences here seem more pronounced than what is normal between two Americans. Unlike this couple, a friend of mine married a Chinese woman for just under two years and then they divorced. I wonder how much of this was a factor in that.
They're Youtubers who want views, yes. But it all rings true when I consider the men I know and have known over the years who have married internationally and had it fall apart. If you know how to look out for yourself, you can do well when having an international relationship. Lots of men who seek them do not, much of what I posted never occurred to them. Had they been cognizant of these things when they were looking, they could have done much better for themselves.Also, can't help but to think the click-baity nature of those vids.
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