Dating or Marrying someone of a different race

[angelT17]

In a recent thread on this forum persons said that them dating someone from another race would be an issue.
Some said only their parents would have an issue?
Some said their immediate family only would have an issue?
Some said their extended family would have an issue?

What about you guys? Are you dating or married to someone from another race? Would you date or marry someone from another race? Would your family approve? or Is it that you wouldn't care if they approved or not?

 

[Supreme]

Not only would I consider it, I am actively trying to pursue a relationship with a black girl right now. I'm just working my way up to asking her out, although she seems to like me a lot. My family are liberal and open minded- they don't give a monkeys whether or not I would date a black girl. They've known for some time now that black women are really the only type of women I'm attracted to, and they look forward for the prospect of having a black woman (and God willing, mixed race children) in the family- it makes a nice change from the generations of exclusively white people that I am descended from. So, in response to your answer, yes, I love black women. And my family would not mind one bit.

(If you want, I can move this to Singles, as I noticed so far it hasn't had a lot of replies, but singles is a very busy forum. It's just a suggestion, but I would think this thread matched the criteria for the Singles forum very well).

 

[angelT17]

Actually, I got this idea from 'Singles'. I decided to put it here due to 'race' issue. Thanks for responding.

Ps. good luck with the young woman your currently pursuing *hugs*

 

[JESUS<3sYOU]

I don't believe that race is something that unites people, and neither do I think that it should divide people.

 

[angelT17]

That's right Niko!!!

 

[Jay217]

It's odd for I am one of the most 'conservative' of most of my friends but yet I am probably the one who cares least about race. We had a discussion and ya I was the only one out of like 20 guys who would ever go out and date a black woman.

I don't really understand the issue of race. just hope that more people can move past from it.

 

[Rao]

What's race?

You may have additional problems if you marry someone of a very different culture, because there will be differences in values and ideas, or someone of different religion or even political area. But why should there be a problem if only the colour is different?

 

[korn1]

Hmmm well im currently dating someone from my own "race" (hate that word) but I would if I liked the person.My parents...hmmm errr don't think they would care if I did. My one mate has to avoid his gf's parents....now that sucks.

 

[QueenMommy]

I have been married for 12 years to my husband - I am black and he is white. We have two beautiful sons.

We met in Bible study, believe it or not.

His father, a minister (now retired), married us and baptized our children.

Both of our parents had no problems with either of us marrying. So we've really been blessed in that regard. And we've been welcomed in every church we've attended.

And thankfully we live in a rather diverse city, so we see interracial couples of all combinations, and mixed kids all the time. Metropolitan DC is like a miniature United Nations

(I do find it interesting though, that when people talk about this subject, they almost always refer to black/white. Of course there are many different ways to combine...)

When you meet the one the Lord has for you, you'll know it - and their race, colo(u)r or ethnicity won't matter. When I was growing up my father didn't want me to date outside my race, not because he had prejudices, but because he didn't want me to get hurt. He grew up during Jim Crow in the South and the Civil Rights Movement, so he didn't want his daughter to become the subject of some hormone-driven white guy's experiment or curiosity about what it'd be like to date "the other side."

But when he met the man who became my husband, he not only took to him right away, he thoroughly embraced him. He knew he was sincere, and respected me. And my husband asked my dad (and my mom, and my brother!) for permission to marry me, before he proposed to me. For my dad to have given his blessing meant a lot to me, especially knowing how he felt during the time I was growing up. That's why I think God had a hand in it - 10 or 15 years prior, my dad would have never allowed it. God softened my dad's heart over time, just in time for God to bring the right man to me.

So just keep an open mind and heart, seek God's will, and He will direct you to the right person, no matter who they are.

(Oh, and be sure you know Numbers Chapter 12 backwards and forwards for the haters you may run across, LOL. If it was good enough for Moses, it's good enough for you. God don't like ugly.

 

[Run to Jesus]

Although I'm not dating or married yet I would date or marry someone from another race.
I don't have a problem with it and I don't think my family would have a problem either.

 

[Albania1]

i am not really all that attracted in black women in particular. some are beautiful of course, but its just my opinion that they aren't as attractive as per say asian women or white women

however i couldn't date black/latin/asian girls even if i wanted to lol - my parents would be so angry at me. we aren't racist or anything, but they want me to date my own kind [as in european]. plus, we don't really have black people or asians were i come from. though we are fond of chinese people, because of past relations. old fashioned

 

[mandyangel]

In a recent thread on this forum persons said that them dating someone from another race would be an issue.
Some said only their parents would have an issue?
Some said their immediate family only would have an issue?
Some said their extended family would have an issue?
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If YOU don't have an issue there is not a problem. If you've got parents, immediate 'family' or extended 'family' that don't support blacks marrying whites or viceversa, that is THERE problem, THERE issue. Not yours.

Its really sad but you can't let THEM be a roadblock in your life. All colors are = in the Lord. Hes the only father that we have to answer to. JMHO

 

[jcyami27]

"All colors are = in the Lord." I like the statement

 

[bobsterInJapan]

The greater the gene pool the merrier!

It's not about race (everyone's pink on the inside of their skin), but rather culture that should be more the issue. Cultures sometimes clash, but such things can be overcome.

 

[Creech]

I would not date outside my race

 

[Timahani]

I am all for it. I would not limit the dating pool. Its hard enough finding a true man of God ...your soul mate...why place more limits on yourself.

My family would not approve but they are crazy themselves so their opinion would not matter. The only opinion that would matter is that of the Lords.

 

[Run to Jesus]

So has any one met any one from an other race yet?

 

[motherprayer]

In a recent thread on this forum persons said that them dating someone from another race would be an issue.
Some said only their parents would have an issue?
Some said their immediate family only would have an issue?
Some said their extended family would have an issue?

What about you guys? Are you dating or married to someone from another race? Would you date or marry someone from another race? Would your family approve? or Is it that you wouldn't care if they approved or not?

Interesting. I'm married to a black man, but I would NEVER consider marrying someone from another race. I've only ever dated members of the human race. But that's just me ;-)

 

[Run to Jesus]

I was so looking forward to hearing the testimonies. I guess we can all keep on praying. Though if you don't mind telling us all... How did you meet your husband Motherprayer?
I'm excitedly curious. May be because am African African.

 

[motherprayer]

I was so looking forward to hearing the testimonies. I guess we can all keep on praying. Though if you don't mind telling us all... How did you meet your husband Motherprayer?
I'm excitedly curious. May be because am African African.

We met at a train station, best day of my life!

What kinds of testimonies were you looking for?