Dating once-married guys

[savedchickonatrain2heaven]

I never thought I'd be the type to even be thinking about this issue, but I was wondering what you gals' thoughts are on this. I met this guy recently and he is divorced and has a two year old boy. The more I think about it, the more I think there's nothing wrong with dating a guy like this especially since he is a Christian. But I was wondering, why is it so hard for some people to date single parents?

 

[speechless]

There isn't anything wrong with it at all. I'm in love with a man who has a two year old girl. The only thing that bothered me at fist was the issue of purity.

 

[martinluther2003]

OK the thread is titled "once married guys" and the poll refers to single parents (doesn't say if they are married or not).

If you have relations with a divorced man, you are an adulterer just as much as he is.

 

[savedchickonatrain2heaven]

My mom has been divorced more than once and is married now. Does that make her an adulteress? Or my stepdad (who's also been married before) an adulterer? She became a Christian after she married my stepdad, so wouldn't that mean she's been forgiven for that? God forgives all sins, correct?

 

[speechless]

I so agree! Relationships don't always work out the way we have hoped, even marriages. A broken relationship shouldn't condemn both parties to live in solitude and misery for the rest of their lives....

 

[savedchickonatrain2heaven]

Okay, well, he got a divorce because his wife was being unfaithful, wanting to party all the time and she is not a believer. But, I was just wondering what you're guys' opinions on the topic were. So...anyway, thanks for the responses. Oh, and he's taking me out on a date this weekend. I'm so excited.

 

[KeepTheFaith15]

personally girl im behind you 100% you are an adult and a mature one at that i believe whatever you think is appropriate and what God thinks is all that matters. God bless at whatever happens.

 

[hollygirl]

Both my parents and the people they are married to have been divorced. Do I agree with my mother's re-marrying? Yes. She married a man who was left. My mother was also left by my dad. Do I agree with my real dad's marriages? Not really. Although he does have a pretty nice wife this time.

I guess my who deal would be the following:
Did he/she leave their former spouse? Why? If it were me and I were looking at dating a formerly married man (with or without children) I would definately want to know if he left his wife...and if he did why. There would be an issue of trust if I knew that he left his wife because he was bored or didn't "feel in love anymore" or she was depressed or she complained too much or....... Do you see what I'm saying? Assuming the person left his or her wife, would he/she leave you for a stupid reason. That's my only reservation about dating a divorced person.

If the person was left....why? And they didn't choose to get "left" so I can justify that one a little more.

Good luck in your decision.

 

[LAMan4Him]

I agree, you need to look at the bible for answers... Paul goes into this alot... if they were an unbeliever and go away, you are free... if they commit adultery,etc. There are many reasons for divorce... also many times a person gets divoreced before committing their life to Christ and they then find the person God has in store for them.
Over all, we are all fallen.... so we need to rely on God's mercy and Word for our teachings and direction.

Good luck with this person...

 

[Memory's Flame]

Neither my boyfriend nor I believe in divorce. Our parents are still together and we have both decided that we will never get a divorce; it goes against our beliefs.

But; My grandmother (my mom's mom) married my mom's "sprem donor" who turned out to be a horrible father and husband. She took her kids, and left them. She then met my mom's father... they married and joined their families. My grandfather (her 2nd husband) was the most amazing man in the world and a huge influence in my life! So 2nd marriages can work out for the better.