How do you guys deal with Christians friends/family who are dating non Christians? What sort of things do you say to them to point out to them that their relationship with Christ is so much more important than any Earthly relationship?
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Dating non Christians
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Howard Cneal
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I mind my own business and let them do what they want. It's not my place to say anything.
Chances are, if they know me, they know my stance on... well, everything... so to harp at them is akin to wasting my time. Something I am loathe to do, frankly.
Chances are, if they know me, they know my stance on... well, everything... so to harp at them is akin to wasting my time. Something I am loathe to do, frankly.
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MyEverything
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If I knew them well, I might gently point them to where the Bible talks about being unequally yoked. If they didn't want to listen or didn't care, I wouldn't push it. I would simply pray for them.
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So no one would worry that they're not getting the same fellowship that they would in a Christian relationship, that their partner won't be as understanding of their faith and may pressure them into things they might not otherwise do?
Has no one considered that while we are told not to judge others, we should lovingly point out blatant sin?
Has no one considered that while we are told not to judge others, we should lovingly point out blatant sin?
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MyEverything
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You can lovingly point out sins, but you can't force others to give up their sin and repent.
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ChristoEtEcclesiae
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It would be very difficult for me to date a non-Christian.
I wonder if bishops grant marital dispensations for interfaith weddings too easily...
I wonder if bishops grant marital dispensations for interfaith weddings too easily...
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Like what, I wonder? I'm curious because, as an atheist married to a Christian, I don't pressure my wife to do anything, let alone get in the way of her faith.
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Obzocky
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Dating a non-Christian does not always result in walking the pathway of sin. For me it is something to merely be gently queried, conversations revolving around how supportive their partner is of their faith may crop up but it would not be pushed. It is quite easy to push others away when zealously trying to point out what they are doing is wrong, sometimes the right match for an individual really is the non-believer.
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This is true, it's up to them to repent and ask for forgiveness.
Part of having a Christian relationship is being able to build each other up in faith, have fellowship together, pray together and support each other in their walk with Jesus.
I can't comment for your specific relationship, but certainly for people not married, things like sex become a greater temptation if one of you is not convicted of sin or a person is weak in their faith for whatever reason, they could be made weaker or give up altogether if their partner is challenging their faith.
But surely that is a question of the Christian's trust in Jesus, if they can't trust him to provide a relationship, (if it is his will), how can they trust him for anything and have faith he will provide.
A non believer might be right for the early desires of a person who dearly craves a relationship, but is it really fulfilling the desires of God for us and his purpose for us?
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You say that like it's a bad thing.(Giving up the faith that is, not making them have sex with you!)
Well.....isn't it?
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christians are always wanting to be around other christians.... does a doctor only see people that are well?
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Howard Cneal
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No, I don't judge "sin."
Why are christians so afraid of this word "sin?"
And what exactly is the "sin" here anyhow...?
Dating (which to some christians is ALREADY a sin... :/ ) a person who is not a "Christian" (however you may choose to define the term) is not necessarily a "sin." (We all sin everyday anyway...)
I wouldn't worry about anything because 1) We're told not to worry and 2) Worrying is a fruitless exercise that will do nothing to improve the situation and it will only, most likely, worsen it, including your own health. Not worth it, IMO.
Another point to consider: Regardless of what label a person may wear, many a christian have persuaded others to follow them into "questionable" endeavors. Just because someone professes to believe something doesn't mean they will be a model exemplar.
Blatant sin to me would be, "Hey, go pay for that cookie! Don't steal!" But that's me.
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Obzocky
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I often wonder why anyone who supposedly loves another would challenge something that is sometimes considered an intimate part of them. Discussions, making them see issues from another point of view, opening up their eyes ... none of that is bad and can show just how much an individual truly knows about their faith. If someone can fall away because someone they love is calling them out on something, well, that's a bit like someone changing their favourite football team because their friends mock it. A very loose connection, but still valid.
If someone cares enough they wont fall away based off of what anyone, even a supposed lover, says. Or i'm simplifying it. Either way I don't think it's this big old bad thing so many people seem to paint it as being.
If someone cares enough they wont fall away based off of what anyone, even a supposed lover, says. Or i'm simplifying it. Either way I don't think it's this big old bad thing so many people seem to paint it as being.
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No. For me I wouldn't be in a relationship with someone who isn't understanding.
If anyone would point out the 'sin' of me loving someone who didn't the same faith as me - I would lovingly tell them to leave me alone and let me decide for myself.
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I guess the question to ask is, why do we date?
Is it to satisfy our own selfish human desires for love and affection, therefore, dating a non Christian is right?
Or.....
Is it to glorify and honour God and grow together in Him, becoming one flesh and living as He desires, to please him and raise children in a loving Christian home, therefore, Christian dating non Christian isn't so much wrong as simply isn't possible as how would the latter be true?
I refer you to 2 Corinthians 6:14-18 for a Bible reference to the issue.
Is it to satisfy our own selfish human desires for love and affection, therefore, dating a non Christian is right?
Or.....
Is it to glorify and honour God and grow together in Him, becoming one flesh and living as He desires, to please him and raise children in a loving Christian home, therefore, Christian dating non Christian isn't so much wrong as simply isn't possible as how would the latter be true?
I refer you to 2 Corinthians 6:14-18 for a Bible reference to the issue.
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kevlite2020
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well at the end of the day, regardless if you are right or wrong, or if you are for a worthy cause or not, you can't make someone think like you or do what you want them to do with their life... It's a tricky subject.
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it depends on how well I know them. I know from seeing others in relationships like that that they do know what the Bible has to say and they hear it quite often from others, sooo being one in a line of God knows how many people saying to them out of the blue, "you're doing it wrong" probably isn't going to help.
If they asked my honest thoughts? Sure I'd tell them exactly what I think and what the Bible says, but I doubt I would say anything unless they asked me upfront for my opinion.
If they asked my honest thoughts? Sure I'd tell them exactly what I think and what the Bible says, but I doubt I would say anything unless they asked me upfront for my opinion.
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