Dating Non-Christians

[beetlequeendiva]

Would you ever date a non-christian? I have to say having had 2 AWFUL experiences dating non-christians I would not, however I'm basing that on a "relationship" when i was 13 that ended up being purely sexual and then he dumped me (got what he wanted) and then I dated another guy when I was 17 and it only lasted 2 weeks - he dated me for a bet, to see how far he could get (he didn't get far at all) anyway my experience tells me I should only date Christian men. What is everyone else's thoughts???

 

[fishstix]

Would you ever date a non-christian?

No, I wouldn't ever date a non-Christian.

And in case anyone is thinking 'But what if you fell in love with one' - I'm not ruled by my emotions. I don't have to do what my emotions/hormones want like some kind of robot. And that kind of 'falling in love' is generally nothing more than infatuation - which is not a solid basis for a relationship in any event. So even if at some point I thought that I was in love with a non-Christian, I wouldn't date them.

 

[Tink]

I will never date another man who is not after God's heart.

Been there. Done that. Bought the $12 t-shirt. Not EVER going back.

Not only is in unbiblical to be yoked with an unbeliever, I just know that it would never work.

In His love,
Tink

 

[simi]

I can honestly say no to that question. The reasons. until about 3 months ago i was engaged to a man who said he was a Christian, yet did not show it (sort of like a luke warm Christian in Rev 3:15)

15I know your deeds, that you are neither cold nor hot. I wish you were either one or the other! 16So, because you are lukewarm—neither hot nor cold—I am about to spit you out of my mouth.

It was such a struggle, he didn't understand things on my level and why i acted the way i did. For example when it came to sex, he wanted it and i didnt and well that was mega-frustrating because while i was saying no, he would pesist until i really had enough and just gave in =(

Other reasons were, I couldnt pray with him, I couldnt do things i felt God was leading me to do because he would get jealous of me being with other people etc. I longed to go on a mission trip, but that soon faded away because he would not allow it.

OK this i just my experiences and im not saying all men are like this but i guess it was a wakeup call to me. This is the verse that really got me thinking about the situation that i was in and it was what pushed me over the edge to end the relationship before i was stuck in it.

2 cor 6:14-15
14Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? 15What harmony is there between Christ and Belial? What does a believer have in common with an unbeliever?

I found this verse soo real in my life. When small and large oxen, or a strong and weak oxen were yoked together they suffered tremendously. The stronger one would pull teh other forward beyond its strength, The yoke became damaging to this weak one and ended chaffing at the skin and hair on the back of the neck, leaving an open red sore. It was clear that we were both suffering in this relationship and it was not Gods will for either of us.

SO i guess i just want you to thinjk about before you get involved with a non-Christian. things may not be as bad as they were in my case. God warns us about the consequences of being with an unbeliever i guess the choice is upto us to make the decision.

But if things go bad. Remember you were warned

God bless

 

[Tink]

I can honestly say no to that question. The reasons. until about 3 months ago i was engaged to a man who said he was a Christian, yet did not show it (sort of like a luke warm Christian in Rev 3:15)

15I know your deeds, that you are neither cold nor hot. I wish you were either one or the other! 16So, because you are lukewarm—neither hot nor cold—I am about to spit you out of my mouth.

It was such a struggle, he didn't understand things on my level and why i acted the way i did. For example when it came to sex, he wanted it and i didnt and well that was mega-frustrating because while i was saying no, he would pesist until i really had enough and just gave in =(

Other reasons were, I couldnt pray with him, I couldnt do things i felt God was leading me to do because he would get jealous of me being with other people etc. I longed to go on a mission trip, but that soon faded away because he would not allow it.

OK this i just my experiences and im not saying all men are like this but i guess it was a wakeup call to me. This is the verse that really got me thinking about the situation that i was in and it was what pushed me over the edge to end the relationship before i was stuck in it.

2 cor 6:14-15
14Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? 15What harmony is there between Christ and Belial? What does a believer have in common with an unbeliever?

I found this verse soo real in my life. When small and large oxen, or a strong and weak oxen were yoked together they suffered tremendously. The stronger one would pull teh other forward beyond its strength, The yoke became damaging to this weak one and ended chaffing at the skin and hair on the back of the neck, leaving an open red sore. It was clear that we were both suffering in this relationship and it was not Gods will for either of us.

SO i guess i just want you to thinjk about before you get involved with a non-Christian. things may not be as bad as they were in my case. God warns us about the consequences of being with an unbeliever i guess the choice is upto us to make the decision.

But if things go bad. Remember you were warned

God bless

Well said.

In His love,
Tink

 

[JPPT1974]

I would rather date somebody who puts God first and foremost in his heart and live than not at all. And that they put God on the list of priorities first and foremost as well.

 

[Tenorvoice]

This questoin has been asked alot here recently .....See here: http://www.christianforums.com/t1792576-dating-an-unbeliever.html

 

[Diane_Windsor]

The post above me is right-this topic has been discussed here a lot recently. You should really look beyond the first page

Here's my response from the other thread.

Diane

 

[london boy]

I wouldn't date a non-Christian - It would never work out - different aims, priorities, thoughts, worldview etc

 

[beetlequeendiva]

Sorry I didn't find that until later on last night!!

 

[Tenorvoice]

That's ok. I am just going to close this one down since there is already one being discussed.