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Dating is fornication; fornication is sin!

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How can you get to know that someone special if you don't date them. In the Song of Solomon it talks about courting (which is dating).

You can date without fornicating. If you don't date someone then you will never find that one that God has sent you because you never got to know them.
 
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WOAH! Quite a many posts ! Sorry I havn't kept it up. To answer Sister Maynered's first question : no, you are not wasting your time. By watching my older siblings, cousins, & watching movies & t.v. shows, sex is implied in a dating relationship. Courtship may very well be a good answer for some. Yet, if we have a good enough relationship with God, it would be like Jacob & Rachael at the well.
 
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Whilst I don't think it is my place to impose moral absolutes on consenting adults who aren't hurting anyone, I think what is 'wrong' is not allowing yourself as an intelligent human being to seek a compatible life partner but passing the buck onto a being that has so far not demonstrated his existence.

Personally, I think it is a recipe for unhappiness and divorce. But people can do what they like. I sincerely hope people manage to find happiness in such a way if they are going to use it to find a mate.

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Well it might not be fornication, but it opens the door to fornication.
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More often than not, it is drunk teenagers and twenty-somethings trying to get the key in the lock at 2.30am on a Saturday night that open the door to fornication.

I must take the oppurtunity to thank the religious for the term 'fornication'...making it sound so sordid makes it even more appealing.
 
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JESUSFREAK1354 said:
Soo... you're saying you are on "CHRISTIAN FORUMS", and don't believe in a God?
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Exactly. Although I did believe in God when I joined.*

*(Edit...yes I know how it sounds and I don't mean it that way )
 
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JESUSFREAK1354 said:
Yet, if we have a good enough relationship with God, it would be like Jacob & Rachael at the well.
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And I guess if you don't have a good enough relationship, it's more like Jacob and Rachel and Leah.

Those frisky Hebrews!
 
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Lynden1000 said:
And I guess if you don't have a good enough relationship, it's more like Jacob and Rachel and Leah.

Those frisky Hebrews!
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Indeed. If only they'd had Jerry Springer back then...

"Shocking Revelations: I got my father drunk and took turns getting pregnant by him with my sister!"

"Impregnate your dead brother's wife or I'll smite you!"

"Brothers to rapist...you raped my sister, now give us some money and marry her!"

"Moses reveal father-daughter incest isn't actually forbidden by the Law!"

"Don't have sex with angelic beings...gang rape my daughters!"

"Barren wives to polygamous husbands: I paid good money for that slave-girl, you're going to sleep with her if you like it or not!"
 
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JESUSFREAK1354 said:
Soo... you're saying you are on "CHRISTIAN FORUMS", and don't believe in a God?
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There are many of us on here who are not christian. I believe that there are many paths up the mountain. And that we will only have peace in this world if we all endeavor to understand each other.

As for dating, your experiences with your sibling's dating does happen sometimes with some people. But it doesn't have to be that way at all! When I started dating in college, for quite some time we only held hands. And I married my first serious date and he was my first in many, many ways. I won't go into details.

The key is to respect your own limits, and those of your friend. If you go out with a girl and don't want to touch, you can tell her you like her but want just to have some fun without the rest of it. Think of it not as dating, but going out with a friend if that makes you more comfortable. But you do have to get to know each other before marriage. The divorce rate is up to 50% or even 60%. And I think a lot of it is because people go into it with stars in their eyes, and not enough real information about who they're promising their lives to.

Good luck to you!
 
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RealityCheck said:
Go visit Teens 4 Christ and check out the site leader, Brother Randy.
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But be warned that doing so can seriously threaten your ability to sleep, your faith in humanity, your mental health and, in extreme cases of prolonged exposure, your will to live.
 
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Robbie_James_Francis said:
But be warned that doing so can seriously threaten your ability to sleep, your faith in humanity, your mental health and, in extreme cases of prolonged exposure, your will to live.
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Not to mention that it's like the Hotel California...
 
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There are too many sarcastic and demeaning posts being made.
All participants are at this point called to review the forum rules.

Probably beginning with 2.1. and 2.8. would be a good place to start. Please also note that flames do not necessarily require a true or false basis to still be considered flames.
 
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