I am in my first relationship in Bible College. I have had two other relationships before in high school but God was not the center of those. I want to know what are some guidelines I might want to follow so to keep God at the center instead of the other person. I want this relationship to be a God honoring thing and I want to go about it in the right way.
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It works out the same way as any other relationship. Pick your boundries and stick to them, If your planning to make this the one, then think about what sort of issues you may need to deal with in achieving such a goal.
(also worth making sure both of you are on the same page as to what you want to get from a relationship together.)
God honoring.. church, bible study, pray together and don't go around breaking any of the religious guidelines that your supposed to follow.. nothing that really unexpected.
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I would say talk to your partner and the two of you should make a commitment to pray for each other. Second I would set up a regular time when the two of you pray with each other! Like once or twice a week get together and do so. It could be after a date or something. Ever heard of of the phrase "if you pray together you will stay together". I can't stress how important that is and would be in your life. Also just remembering to make time for yourself without your partner. You dont want to make your partner your entire life. If you have a life of your own and then allow he/she to be apart of it, that is more healthier than not doing anything for yourself that you like to do or being around yoru friends. Couples need time to recharge and get different perspectives from others. And the same goes for your partner. Encourage he/she to go out with their buddies. It would give them a sencse of freedom and make the time they have with you even more special.
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Live your life by God and Jesus. Pray together. Your man if he is good one will do the same. Fornication is sin. Only after blessing and marriage love and children is acceptable. God bless you.
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This is a great concern that you have, you two will definately be in the right direction with all of the advice everyone has given you.
Praying with each other is probably the most powerful action you, as a couple, can initiate. Praying tears down every barrier and builds strong bridges. Also, make sure that she and you, both have the same desire and zeal for the Lord, that in itself will do mighty works. Never never <i>never</i> give way for the Devil to come in between and bring discord, and you know the answer to that. Prayer.
Finding a Bible study group wouldn't hurt either, you two may enjoy interracting with other Bible-believing couples and singles.
I hope for the best.
Praying with each other is probably the most powerful action you, as a couple, can initiate. Praying tears down every barrier and builds strong bridges. Also, make sure that she and you, both have the same desire and zeal for the Lord, that in itself will do mighty works. Never never <i>never</i> give way for the Devil to come in between and bring discord, and you know the answer to that. Prayer.
Finding a Bible study group wouldn't hurt either, you two may enjoy interracting with other Bible-believing couples and singles.
I hope for the best.
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PRAYER
It also puts things in better perspective. When praying, the two of you are working toward something together, and express your hopes and dreams.
Even though it makes you feel very vulnerable at first, it leads to less actual vulnerability, because competition lessens. You see each other protecting the relationship and caring for others through prayer.
GROUP FELLOWSHIP
Another thing that can help -- get involved with a support group, like a Bible study fellowship, where you have other people you can lean on and interact with. When you're so busy with school, it is tempting to want to use every bit of spare time to spend with the other person. But clinging can feed fear-based thinking (will I lose them if I'm not with them).
With a group, you have someone to talk with if things aren't going well.
REAL LIFE PROJECTS
Relationships can get very inwardly-focused, and fermented. If you continually breathe new life into your lives with fresh input, the relationship will feel a lot healthier.
Do some service projects together, babysit relatives, serve on a committee, play sports or music ... do something together that moves your life forward, and takes the focus off the relationship itself. Then it will also be easier to see who the other person is, not just who you want each other to be.
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