In the beginning days of attraction (or matching if you will) and interest has been piqued, nearly all women, whether they openly admit it or not, will look past certain non-negotiables the man may have. Their theory is that as they grow to know each other better, she'll either actively shape his feelings on the non-negotiable(s) she's concerned about or passively allow time to work on his emotional connection with her and lighten up on the specific non-negotiable.
This all sounds very shady, I know. But it's purely human, and really both sexes can be guilty of this if we're really honest here. ...I don't see anything wrong with your standards, personally, but I will say that the challenge you're facing in finding a partner who shares your views on alcohol won't get better...the vast majority of people, professing Christians or not, consume a lot of alcohol and enjoy a lively bar scene. And they straight up do not see an issue with this. So again, while there's nothing inherently wrong with your standard, you will very much limit yourself. The same can be said about strictly not wanting children, but that's a whole discussion in itself.
I, too, can't be with someone who is insistent on having children as that's not a particular desire of mine. I won't become involved with a decent person who wants to be a father and rob their future of being one. That would be wrong on all levels. Unfortunately for me, in my own pursuit for companionship, I've found that most professing Christians men want kids (or at least one kid) - so naturally I'm limiting myself on a potential future with someone.
It's going to be harder for those of us who choose specific non-negotiables in a relationship and are adamant at keeping to them. But I don't believe it's impossible. We're in pursuit of a person who belongs to a minority group of people in this world, so it will take time and patience. You could literally bump into this person tomorrow at the grocery store. Or it may take another 5 years. But it's not impossible.
