Dating and Discerning

[Addaperle]

Right... At the moment, I am trying to discern whether or not God is calling me to become a religious sister... While away at Summer Camp, I was at a workshop about dating and relationships, and it all made sense... However, I'm a bit confused...

If I shouldn't date unless I am discerning a marriage vocation, how can I date someone as part of my discernment process (to see that God isn't calling me to a relationship) without, in reality, using them? If a true relationship should be of mutual service, not mutual useage, what do I do? How can I discern without using anyone?

And if you can make sense of that, you're a better man/woman than I am...

Love and Prayers,
Clare xx

 

[God_follower]

go as a group, hang out, have fun, go places with them just to enjoy their company without expectations, which is what dating is, expectations. You expect it to increase, to get along swimmingly, to go crazy with love. If you go to get to know them then you arents using them. the relation should be based on edification, the building up of each other, not a relience on each other. when the world says dont just stand there, do something... do the opposite, see where God wants you to go. Dont just do something, stand there well hopefully this has been of some help.

 

[Addaperle]

Thanks... I've spoken to one of my closest friends and advisors since I posted the topic, and she gave me the same advice as you did! Obviously, that's what God wants me to do!

Clare xx

 

[God_follower]

glad i could be of some help. God bless