dateless waif club

[wildthing]

Stand at ease Lbiagm and Private Blissfully. I feel that at anytime there might be an eruption of the Dating Volcano. We must all be ready. Hey did you make 6 flags Private???

 

[Living4Him03]

Sir, Yes Sir! I made the mission to six flags sucessfully...it was a lot of fun

Goat, I don't know what to tell you. You will eventually lead those girls on and the best thing to do for them is to help them grow in Christ, not party with them! I have just realized the importance of Godly friendships with the opposite sex. You really really should try it.

 

[Out of the Flames]

Sir, Yes Sir! I made the mission to six flags sucessfully...it was a lot of fun

Goat, I don't know what to tell you. You will eventually lead those girls on and the best thing to do for them is to help them grow in Christ, not party with them! I have just realized the importance of Godly friendships with the opposite sex. You really really should try it.

Actually, I agree with Goat on this one. You don't have to be dating anyone to enjoy your singleness. There's NOTHING wrong with partying with members of the opposite sex. There's nothing wrong with partying, period. It's one way of building fellowship, for one, and if he's up front about not wanting a girlfriend, it's not leading them on.

When someone expresses their joy at being single and unattached while having encounters with the opposite sex we need to work a little harder at sharing in their joy and not jumping to unfounded conclusions. Bitterness is not a good color on people.

 

[Living4Him03]

wow, that was a blow. Luckily I still agree with my position. Blissful singleness is great, but playing with hearts and having a dating free for all is not a good idea, I don't care what you say about it. It sounds as though someone else has some bitterness or anger hidden there. Have your opinion as you will. I wasn't condemning Goat, I was encouraging him to do the right thing.

 

[goat37]

While appreciate your concern for doing the right thing... I am not playing with hearts at all...the girls know upfront what they are getting into, and we have a good time.

I mean... I've already been married, so it's not like I can really 'wait til marriage' anymore, y'know?

I'm 21, will be 22 by the end of the month... this is the time of my life to have 'dating free for alls', get to know as many people as I can... have fun, party, enjoy being young. (while of course being safe)

I can't wait til Spring Break though out on Padre Island... wow...

 

[Lbiagm]

I shall wait but their is this girl in my biology class i am really starting to like a lot.

 

[wildthing]

I shall wait but their is this girl in my biology class i am really starting to like a lot.

Hey Lbiagm please talk to her. Who knows she might be a sweet thing. After all if you don't talk, you will never know, will you?

 

[Lbiagm]

true and I do talk to her and she is cool and sweet because we are in the same lab group.

 

[wildthing]

true and I do talk to her and she is cool and sweet because we are in the same lab group.

This is cool I hate to talk about baseball but I will. Many times a batter goes up to the plate many times he strikes out or gets a base hit, but sometimes he hits a Home run. It only by practise that this player can hit a homerun. I hope that this works out for you.

 

[jenptcfan]

While appreciate your concern for doing the right thing... I am not playing with hearts at all...the girls know upfront what they are getting into, and we have a good time.

I agree with this too. If the girls are told (up front,on no uncertain terms) that they're dating a guy who is not going to commit to them, is dating other people now and will date other people in the future, and is pretty much only dating them for recreation, I don't see how that's playing with anyone's heart.

I think if you come across this kind of guy and it doesn't mesh with what you want, you have the obligation to say "no thanks" and walk away...at the point where he voices his intentions, if you don't walk away, you've played with your own heart and can't pin it on anyone else.

 

[jenptcfan]

true and I do talk to her and she is cool and sweet because we are in the same lab group.

Go for it, Lbiagm!

 

[Out of the Flames]

I agree with this too. If the girls are told (up front,on no uncertain terms) that they're dating a guy who is not going to commit to them, is dating other people now and will date other people in the future, and is pretty much only dating them for recreation, I don't see how that's playing with anyone's heart.

I think if you come across this kind of guy and it doesn't mesh with what you want, you have the obligation to say "no thanks" and walk away...at the point where he voices his intentions, if you don't walk away, you've played with your own heart and can't pin it on anyone else.

Jen, my dear, I know I can always count on you to be level headed. Now if only I could rep you...

 

[jenptcfan]

Jen, my dear, I know I can always count on you to be level headed. Now if only I could rep you...

Imaginary rep accepted, Flames!

Me level headed? Not compared to you!

 

[Lbiagm]

i will on monday gang.

 

[goat37]

I agree with this too. If the girls are told (up front,on no uncertain terms) that they're dating a guy who is not going to commit to them, is dating other people now and will date other people in the future, and is pretty much only dating them for recreation, I don't see how that's playing with anyone's heart.

I think if you come across this kind of guy and it doesn't mesh with what you want, you have the obligation to say "no thanks" and walk away...at the point where he voices his intentions, if you don't walk away, you've played with your own heart and can't pin it on anyone else.

Thank you! that was my thought exactly!

Plus... these girls... not exactly looking for the settle down type of relationship at this point either... Two of them actually know each other and work together and know that each of them parties with me... (which could potentially work out really well for me)

If I thought for a minute that any of these girls wanted to be in a serious committed relationship with me, I would break it off with them and explain to them why... because I DON'T want to play with hearts.

 

[Lbiagm]

amen goat.

 

[Living4Him03]

everyone wants a serious relationship, few truly believe they deserve it or that God loves them enough to give them His best.

 

[goat37]

I do want a serious relationship... but not anytime soon. And these girls feel the same way...

We are having too much fun enjoying our youth, partying, being responsible to no one but ourselves. When we stumble into our beds at 3 am, we don't have to worry about waking anyone else up... hearing about it the next morning...

This is the first time in my life that I have been completely free to do what I want... and I am taking advantage of it...

The serious relationships can wait until I am good and ready, which I am happy to say - will not be for a long time.

 

[Out of the Flames]

everyone wants a serious relationship, few truly believe they deserve it or that God loves them enough to give them His best.

BUZZ! Wrong! But thanks for playing anyway.

There are actually several people out there who don't wish to be in a serious relationship, whether it's because they choose to be single or simply don't wish to commit. That's a pretty broad statement.

 

[jenptcfan]

everyone wants a serious relationship, few truly believe they deserve it or that God loves them enough to give them His best.

I think that most people want to be in a serious relationship at some point in their lives. But I wouldn't say everyone wants a serious relationship at any given point in their lives. Some people just aren't ready for a commitment until they're older and more mature. Some people aren't ever ready for commitment.

But not everyone wants a serious relationship all the time.