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Dare to Be Alone

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Dare to Be Alone

"Yet I am not alone, because the Father is with me"
(John 16:32).

It need not be said that to carry out conviction into action is a costly sacrifice. It may make necessary renunciations and separations which leave one to feel a strange sense both of deprivation and loneliness. But he who will fly, as an eagle does, into the higher levels where cloudless day abides, and live in the sunshine of God, must be content to live a comparatively lonely life.

No bird is so solitary as the eagle. Eagles never fly in flocks; one, or at most two, ever being seen at once. But the life that is lived unto God, however it forfeits human companionships, knows Divine fellowship.

God seeks eagle-men. No man ever comes into a realization of the best things of God, who does not, upon the Godward side of his life, learn to walk alone with God. We find Abraham alone in Horeb upon the heights, but Lot, dwelling in Sodom. Moses, skilled in all the wisdom of Egypt must go forty years into the desert alone with God. Paul, who was filled with Greek learning and had also sat at the feet of Gamaliel, must go into Arabia and learn the desert life with God. Let God isolate us. I do not mean the isolation of a monastery. In this isolating experience He develops an independence of faith and life so that the soul needs no longer the constant help, prayer, faith or attention of his neighbor. Such assistance and inspiration from the other members are necessary and have their place in the Christian's development, but there comes a time when they act as a direct hindrance to the individual's faith and welfare. God knows how to change the circumstances in order to give us an isolating experience. We yield to God and He takes us through something, and when it is over, those about us, who are no less loved than before, are no longer depended upon. We realize that He has wrought some things in us, and that the wings of our souls have learned to beat the upper air.

We must dare to be alone. Jacob must be left alone if the Angel of God is to whisper in his ear the mystic name of Shiloh; Daniel must be left alone if he is to see celestial visions; John must be banished to Patmos if he is deeply to take and firmly to keep "the print of heaven."

He trod the wine-press alone. Are we prepared for a "splendid isolation" rather than fail Him?

-- by Mrs. Charles.E.Cowman
 

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relate to this thread. It is in isolation that God teaches me, removing all distractions (whether I like it or not sometimes). He indeed knows what's best for me even if I do not. It is only after the 'settling in' to the isolation that I can see how necessary it is.

Frustrating for me has always been how man is un-able to meet my needs. Time after time, it's so clear. Disappointing as it is, I learn yet one more time that God seeks me to learn. To learn that He is my all. It is during those times of extended stillness that His peace comes. Those are epiphany moments.

I relate to the eagle. For it is in isolation that I fly highest, have the most clarity, and release unrealistic expectations of others. It is at those times that I am truly free.
 
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To be Christ like is to accept that it will have to happen to be alone. Yet the true believer is never alone as with Jesus who was and is forever with the Father. Be still and KNOW that I am God. I get impatient sometimes to get to heaven, yet I am corrected on a dailey basis that my purpose has not been totally served yet.
 
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vinc said:
Dare to Be Alone

"Yet I am not alone, because the Father is with me" (John 16:32).

... the life that is lived unto God, however it forfeits human companionships, knows Divine fellowship.
I have never been very comfortable in big crowds. I love to read and write and thoroughly enjoy the time alone needed to do these things. But this 'isolation' that I found myself in when I came to Christ ... well, it was more than I expected.

I've been single and living for Christ now for over 8 years, and although I have lonely times, slowly but surely I am coming to understand and appreciate all this time alone. God has said to 'come out and be seperate', and I realize this is what is needed if I am to grow and study and process the lessons I am learning in Christ. And actually, this solitary life is not really one of isolation, because I am shut up with Him - enclosed and constantly enveloped in His presense. It is the most precious of times because I can sit quietly at His feet with no fear of disturbance, listening to the words of my King ... rather than the roar of the crowd.

Lamentations 3 says ... it is good to wait quietly for the salvation of the LORD. It is good for a man to bear the yoke while he is young. Let him sit alone in silence, for the LORD has laid it on him.

In these times of isolation, we can either choose to be unhappy, resentful and discontent, or ... we can choose to see that we are walking in the footsteps of Christ - "Yet I am not alone, because the Father is with me."

 
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I know something about being alone and in isolation...due to physical health problems, I have been very isolated since early summer. This thread grabbed my attention because of the mention of the eagle...the Lord gave me a vision of an eagle after I had been "sick' for about 5 weeks.

I was just waking up from a nap and as I opened my eyes I "saw" an eagle...just a large head and it was like staring me in the face...almost nose to nose with me. It was startling, and as the months have passed that vison has been a comfort to me...He is watching me...His eye is upon me...I can't miss Him.

I would never choose this isolation...it is crucifying at times...but one breakthru after another has been happening in my spirit. He keeps carrying me in prayer and in His word to a place I never thought I could go and we are not finished yet.

I have "no man" to lean on...yet I am provided for...His word of course and some very good books written by seasoned saints who went on before me in the faith. Actually, the internet "church" has been a provision and I thank Him for it.

It is comforting to meet others on the same road.
 
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yeah, its just that there are seasons of being alone with the Lord, where God pulls you to himself for a while.... but most of the time it isnt like that.
like there are 4 seasons.... yeah the winter is cold, but its only cold like that one quarter of the year, ya know?

most of the time we are supposed to supporting and thriving in and amoungst the body of Christ, becuase the bible gives very clear warnings about people who walk alone becuase if they fall theres no one to pick them up... solomon said that.
God does at times pull you away, but there are no lone rangers for God.
we are all fitly stones in the house or body of Christ, you cant fit into your whole, if the guys under you and around you arent in their places....
yeah God may pull you aside to scrap and cut and reshape you, but he always intends to place you back into the space in the wall, supported by and supporting the rest of the body of Christ. like a man pulling a brick aside to shape it and change it, but he always intends to place it back in the wall hes building, and the brick is no good alone and the rest of the wall needs it too.

if you dont have someone with you generally, you wont make it.
paul was a great man of God, but he often emplored the church to pray for him.
Jesus' disciples couldnt bear with Christ and pray with him in his hour of need, but you see how the bible says God sent ministering angels instead, we need people... we can be drawn away by God at times, but its only for a season.
it is the exception, but its not the rule.
 
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I feel very alone all the time. A year and a half ago i moved from Connecticut to Tennessee with my husband. We left with hardly any money and didn't know anyone. we pulled into this little country town with $20 and a church let us live at their emergency housing facility. Now a year and a half later we have a baby girl, 2 houses, and my husband has a great job as a supervisor at a youth care facility.
The problem is that because of the cultural differences where i live i really haven't made any friends. I just don't connect with anyone around here. especially not anyone i have met in church.
its gets really depressing. not having anyone to call and just chat with or go to wal-mart with or something. I've tried making friends. Like there is another girl my age who just had a baby also that lives near me but we just don't connect. after talking about babies and pregnancy, etc etc....we really don'thave anything to say to each other. We just aren't "attracted" to each other. i know that sounds wierd. i don't mean it in like a gay way...but like the feeling you get when you meet someone you relaly like and want to hang out with them more and hte feeling is mutual.
anyways...i've tried to make friends online but then when i instant message the people they seem like they don't want to talk to me. It gets so depressing
sometimes ijust feel like i hate myself so much b/c i don't understand why i don't have friends. i feel like no one likes me. and then that makes me more socially awkward. its like a vicious cycle.
i've been alone for almost a year now. except for my husband who works a lot and i know he gets sick of me always talking to him. i feel so stupid like i just keep talking on and on about nothing. i just wnat to have something to talk about. Man i'm SO depressed. i mean i'm thankful for everything God has done for me. Still it is hard being so lonely all the time
 
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Its just so hard. the last year i was in CT, i had tons of friends. always had people around. people i really liked a lot too. but things were just to terrible up there to stay. now here, i just don't connect with anyone. i haven't found a single person whocan at all relate to me or understands me at all. and i don't understand them either. I'm an artistic, well educated hippee surrounded by a bunch of rednecks and hillbillies. i've traveled up and down the east coast and most of these people have never left middle tennessee. I was delivered from witchcraft and most people went to church their whole lives.
I try not to limit myself. i try so hard. I can't wait until i can move. start all over again. I just started going to a new church that is more similiar to what i'm used to and has more people that seem familiar. hopefully i'll make some friend.......find someone that makes me feel not so alone in this world...
thanks for you encouragement. it made me feel a little bit better
 
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I agree with you endure2...isolation is not a choice of "life" to be lived forever. I did not choose what happened to me....but I am seeking the Lord in this time and finding Him...it is much better than watching TV all day or doing "other" destructive things.

I believe the Lord may heal me...but until that happens I will do what I can to maintain my life in Him.

I miss the congregation a lot...especially worship...yet, I have had some wonderful worship by myself with Him.
 
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wow...ya know, thanks. i thought i was being innapropriate, and i still think i was a little off from the real issue, but thanks. your so nice. i took one sentence and assumed incorrectly, it doesnt seem like your what i thought you were.

i do pray God brings you someone to be friends with, so you dont have to talk your poor mans ear off haha... so like where on the east coast do you live?
i live in Ga. i take it you live in tennessee, atleast the leaves are pretty this time of year right? but then again the dang tourists mess that up.... haha
 
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im sorry, i didnt read what you said to me well enough to see it is only appropriate to reply, im sorry i missed what you meant the first time i read it.

well i understand that,
and praise God for what God is doing in your life by his self sufficiency, i think your in a season of this, though i believe God does want to bring you out oneday by his miracle working power so that you can bless the rest of the body of Christ and be blessed aswell.
i agree there are some ifs ands or buts, but the the normal standard of Christianity is not isolation, and i know you already know and agree with that.

and im not trying to attack your walk with God, i think your right on with where God has you.

oh, and i didnt reply to this thread becuase i thought the poster of this thread was wrong about anything, i was just commenting, i think what he said is about the same as what i think, just focusing on a diffrent aspect of it. but i agree with him, we do need to be willing to sometimes be mocked and scoffed and maybe even rejected by the majority of christians (and end up isolated for a time) who probly mean well but just arent in me and Gods walks with us to really know. there are times for it.
i was just reiterating the truth that the standard is more communion with the body than it is isolation from it.
 
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Endure2 said:
angelwind
im sorry, i didnt read what you said to me well enough to see it is only appropriate to reply, im sorry i missed what you meant the first time i read it.

well i understand that,
and praise God for what God is doing in your life by his self sufficiency, i think your in a season of this, though i believe God does want to bring you out oneday by his miracle working power so that you can bless the rest of the body of Christ and be blessed aswell.
i agree there are some ifs ands or buts, but the the normal standard of Christianity is not isolation, and i know you already know and agree with that.

and im not trying to attack your walk with God, i think your right on with where God has you.

oh, and i didnt reply to this thread becuase i thought the poster of this thread was wrong about anything, i was just commenting, i think what he said is about the same as what i think, just focusing on a diffrent aspect of it. but i agree with him, we do need to be willing to sometimes be mocked and scoffed and maybe even rejected by the majority of christians (and end up isolated for a time) who probly mean well but just arent in me and Gods walks with us to really know. there are times for it.
i was just reiterating the truth that the standard is more communion with the body than it is isolation from it.

Endure, isolation is sometimes imposed by God. It happened with John in the New Testament and various other Christians. It's not a punsihment. It's not out of the 'norm' for a Christian. God uses the isolation He imposes on us as a learning tool. He 'hones' us during those times.

I've found that sometimes He removes all 'help' from me from others, and it's as if no one can understand what I'm experiencing. At those times I learn He really is saying to me....Why are you looking to 'man' for help? Look at Me!

Job was surely isolated, wasn't he? He wasn't being punished by God. Yet his friends misunderstood. Thay made his suffering even worse. They were picking him apart trying to 'help' him figure out what sin he had committed that would bring on such suffering.

Isaiah 48:10 tells us: Behold, I have refined thee, but not with silver; I have chosen thee in the furnace of affliction. There are various forms of affliction. Isolation is one of them.
 
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brinny said:
Endure, isolation is sometimes imposed by God. It happened with John in the New Testament and various other Christians. It's not a punsihment. It's not out of the 'norm' for a Christian. God uses the isolation He imposes on us as a learning tool. He 'hones' us during those times.

I've found that sometimes He removes all 'help' from me from others, and it's as if no one can understand what I'm experiencing. At those times I learn He really is saying to me....Why are you looking to 'man' for help? Look at Me!

Job was surely isolated, wasn't he? He wasn't being punished by God. Yet his friends misunderstood. Thay made his suffering even worse. They were picking him apart trying to 'help' him figure out what sin he had committed that would bring on such suffering.

Isaiah 48:10 tells us: Behold, I have refined thee, but not with silver; I have chosen thee in the furnace of affliction. There are various forms of affliction. Isolation is one of them.
Wonderful! Thank you! :)
 
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I'm ok endure2...in fact one of my lessons is learning just that...to endure, with patience. My season of isolation has been indescribable in the Lord. [wonderful and crucifying] I am going to "go out" for a few days on a trip...I would appreciate anyone who feels led to pray. My problem has been...high sensitivities to the environment...breathing vapors that are toxic...almost everything is to me. [organic and chemical]

The Lord gave me a dream and my husband one also on the same night. I could be missing His direction..."I" think He is saying press in and on and this is the next step. It just seems the only way to go is "forward". This "seems" forward. It is truly a place in my walk that I have never been in before.
 
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i completely with everything you said,
im just saying isolation is not the norm for christian living, its is normal for it to happen, but its the not the normal place to be.
there is just a danger in focusing to much on isolation, becuase christians are to normally be in fellowship with the body. isolation is a Godly thing when it happens, im just saying it isnt the place where to supposed be the majority of the time, becuase its not. when God does that to us, amen, lets doit, otherwise were supposed to be a part of the fellowship of the body, and we cant make it alone, your theology and feelings become slightly strange, being in fellowship with the body keeps us in balance, but thats just one reason we need the body of Christ.

angelwind,
well amen, ill certainly remember to keep you in prayer.
 
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Endure2 said:
brinny
i completely with everything you said,
im just saying isolation is not the norm for christian living, its is normal for it to happen, but its the not the normal place to be.
there is just a danger in focusing to much on isolation, becuase christians are to normally be in fellowship with the body. isolation is a Godly thing when it happens, im just saying it isnt the place where to supposed be the majority of the time, becuase its not. when God does that to us, amen, lets doit, otherwise were supposed to be a part of the fellowship of the body, and we cant make it alone, your theology and feelings become slightly strange, being in fellowship with the body keeps us in balance, but thats just one reason we need the body of Christ.

angelwind,
well amen, ill certainly remember to keep you in prayer.

Endure, I'm not speaking of self-imposed isolation. It is when we find ourselves in situations of isolation beyond our control that I am speaking of. Those situations are God-imposed. Of course we prefer the fellowship of others. Sometimes even that is taken away.

I was referring to why this may happen. It is during these times that God takes us through a desert experience or His 'boot camp'. How horrendous and hard to understand by man's reasoning, yet it is not until mid-way does one see God's wisdom in it.

I am struggling with this right now. I've been in God's boot camp before, and I emerged from it a very different person. My 'shyness' and timidity had evaporated. I stepped out in faith into what appeared to be 'nothing' but those seemingly 'invisible' doors opened. Words poured forth from me that took a stand against injustice for others, and defended the defenseless. His 'boot' camp surely has a purpose to it.

As I said, I am struggling with this new 'boot' camp. This one is different. It's challenging me in much deeper ways, to the very core of my being. It's harrowing, but necessary, yet again.

See ya' when I get out ;)
 
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Ah, yes, isolation...I know it well... This is the first time it's happened to me that I've been content to be in it, although it is difficult to endure, and I understand the purpose of it this time around.

It's been a difficult year for me as my very closest friend moved to another state, then my sister moved to another state (clear across the country), then my pastor moved to the other side of the country, and now my parents are moving to another state as well. God is slowly removing everyone I am close to from my life. It's taken me the whole year to figure it out but I now know that it is so that I will rely on him alone and go to him with my troubles and not my friends/family. He speaks to me so clearly during this time that I feel it is almost audible (though I know it isn't). But it is a jolting experience when God speaks and I can't help but listen and obey. I am looking forward to the person I will be when I emerge from this isolating experience. Praise God for it!

Has anyone watched the Chronicles of Narnia movies? I've been renting them for my 4 yr. old and in one of the movies one scene really hit home for me. It was when one of the girls saw Aslan, telling her the path they were to take, but nobody else did so they wouldn't follow. Then Aslan came to her again and told her that if the others would not follow, she would have to follow him ALONE. That was powerful to me.
 
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