My family was always very active in church and we were taught to carry ourselves a certain way. My family rarely (if ever) cursed when I was growing up. In fact, when I was about 11, my cousins and I were at my grandmother's house and apparently we were being disobedient. My grandma ended up saying a bad word while reprimanding us. I told my mom later that day and she called her siblings and they had a family talk with us because they had NEVER heard my grandmother cuss before and knew that meant we must have really been misbehaving for her to get to that point. It was a BIG deal.
I say all of that to say, cursing was never something I was accustomed to growing up. And when someone did curse, it was usually after something very bad or unfortunate happened. However, my husband's family is the exact opposite. When we visit, every other word is a curse word. And not the short, "mild" words. I mean the worse of the worse. I was actually shocked the first time I heard how they speak because these are church going people. But when they are outside of the church, they cuss like sailors so to speak. I've always been uncomfortable by it but I just sucked it up for the occasional visits, especially because I was in their home and wasn't going to tell them how to speak.
Recently, they came to our new home. I have scriptures and prayers written all throughout our home. You'd think they would respect that but they came in with their same rhetoric, cursing after every word and I felt extremely disrespected and uncomfortable.
I'm currently 6 months pregnant and the thought of them speaking this way around my child makes me extremely angry. I'm not sure how to handle this. I've been praying about it and I try not to be judgmental but it really bothers me, especially with not wanting to raise a child around people who speak so harshly. I've mentioned to them how shocking some of the stuff they say is but it's like they're amused by it and it's really the norm to them.
How would you handle this? Any advice?
I say all of that to say, cursing was never something I was accustomed to growing up. And when someone did curse, it was usually after something very bad or unfortunate happened. However, my husband's family is the exact opposite. When we visit, every other word is a curse word. And not the short, "mild" words. I mean the worse of the worse. I was actually shocked the first time I heard how they speak because these are church going people. But when they are outside of the church, they cuss like sailors so to speak. I've always been uncomfortable by it but I just sucked it up for the occasional visits, especially because I was in their home and wasn't going to tell them how to speak.
Recently, they came to our new home. I have scriptures and prayers written all throughout our home. You'd think they would respect that but they came in with their same rhetoric, cursing after every word and I felt extremely disrespected and uncomfortable.
I'm currently 6 months pregnant and the thought of them speaking this way around my child makes me extremely angry. I'm not sure how to handle this. I've been praying about it and I try not to be judgmental but it really bothers me, especially with not wanting to raise a child around people who speak so harshly. I've mentioned to them how shocking some of the stuff they say is but it's like they're amused by it and it's really the norm to them.
How would you handle this? Any advice?