Cursed by parents = Doomed?

[BrokenContriteHeart]

Hi all, I am in a particularly dark and lonely time in my life, and would appreciate some Christian encouragement, advice and prayers.

I come from a broken family. Both my parents would profess to being strong Christians but fight often with each other and pretty much non stop spout venom about their other half, or venom about other people, or about how the world has mistreated them...kind of like what you are about to hear in this post...I am sorry but I have to state what happens to get advice and prayers for it, but everyone is anonymous here.

For example, I have tried to get my parents to focus on and talk about positive things for just one day (like their birthday) or even 30 minutes....but they are unable to do so. It seems almost like a spiritual wall; after I complete the sentence they would immediately be talking about how someone wronged them, or somesuch.

Both my parents committed adultery to get together and I was their first son as a result of it. Could I have been doomed from birth like David and Bathsheba's firstborn son because of this? My parents became Christians after they divorced their first partners and married.

At various points in my life, my parents have cursed me, for example saying that I am a bad seed, a wicked person, will never amount to anything good or have never brought them good news. Like a piece of paper cut by a pair of scissors, I remember the events although for some of them my parents claim they do not remember.

My life itself has been that of an afflicted Christian, so the words of my parents if they did not already cut deep, resonate in my life like an echo chamber because of the evidence I see of how my life is.

For example, I have had multiple near death experiences in my life since I was a baby (choked, drowned, many different accidents, attempted suicide, etc.). I was falsely accused and ended up in prison with a criminal record for crimes I did not do. I have been unemployed for a few years already, despite having a PhD. I am in my early 40s and have no family of my own. When I see my other siblings and friends have happy families, jobs and moving forward career-wise, it saddens me because I think about the life I could have had if things were different.

I try to read the Bible every day, and pray, and thank God for giving me life despite my circumstances, and saving me from all my trials and tribulations. I always try to give credit to God for any accomplishments I do, and I pray that God would exonerate me from false accusers, show kindness to me in the land of the living and to prove wrong people who condemn me on the basis of my life's afflictions.

It does look like my life is cursed. In Genesis we see Jacob curse some of his sons. Also, we see in Isaac/Esau/Jacob that the blessings of our parents are irrevocable, likewise the curses?

What do you suggest I do in the circumstances? My parents are in their 80s. I feel like I have to honor them while they are still alive but the whole relationship is toxic.

Is my life doomed because of the curses of my parents upon me?

Please pray for me.

 

[Reluctant Theologian]

Curses exist, but deliverance those is also possible ... talk/ask to a Pastor or someone with experience in praying for deliverance for these issues.

For your current situation it seems personally you already do the right thing - but to understand how to move forward with your life it may help to ask a Christian coach to give advice on certain areas of your life: finding work to get the bills paid, finding a partner, finding purpose in ministry possibly? A coach can ask the hard questions, bring your attention to your blind spots, challenges, etc. ....

You're in your early 40's but your profile on the left mentions 24 - have you been blessed with an age altering experience?

 

[BrokenContriteHeart]

Curses exist, but deliverance those is also possible ... talk/ask to a Pastor or someone with experience in praying for deliverance for these issues.

For your current situation it seems personally you already do the right thing - but to understand how to move forward with your life it may help to ask a Christian coach to give advice on certain areas of your life: finding work to get the bills paid, finding a partner, finding purpose in ministry possibly? A coach can ask the hard questions, bring your attention to your blind spots, challenges, etc. ....

You're in your early 40's but your profile on the left mentions 24 - have you been blessed with an age altering experience?

Some of the people who judge my family and me the most are...Christians. The pain is worse when it happens from this quarter because it falls short of Jesus' example.

Fortunately despite my trials and tribulations, two things have been relatively unscathed - my health and my finances. Last attempted suicide about 20 years ago over something that seems trivial now. What I can say over all the years is that I have grown in spiritual endurance.

But being told by my mum yesterday that I have never brought the family good news was awful.

I don't mind listening to Christian advice here for now. I am moving countries soon so probably don't want to invest in building a relationship with a Christian coach or church until I resettle in a new place.

I really am in my early 40s. Made a slip of the mouse during registration.

 

[Reluctant Theologian]

Words from loved ones that bring you down are terrible indeed, I'm very sorry to hear that. Why would they say things like that? Your Christian attitude would try to bring blessing to your family members I presume?

Do you live on your own? Where will you be moving to? Just curious ... What brings you joy in life at the moment? It's good to focus on that and also realise it's obedience that counts ... not your 'success' in your own eyes.

 

[BrokenContriteHeart]

Words from loved ones that bring you down are terrible indeed, I'm very sorry to hear that. Why would they say things like that? Your Christian attitude would try to bring blessing to your family members I presume?

Do you live on your own? Where will you be moving to? Just curious ... What brings you joy in life at the moment? It's good to focus on that and also realise it's obedience that counts ... not your 'success' in your own eyes.

I was trying to help my mum by telling her to try to speak about something positive for just 30 minutes. Because my parents always dwell on negative things, like how others have hurt them or mistreated them.

It's very visible especially since we don't see each other very often, practically everything they say is negative in a bitter way. When I meet them it is one complaint after another.

So I suppose my mum said that because she wants to justify her complaints, or blame someone else, or both. Like everything in my life is not going well, including you (me).

I try to honor my parents. But I am minded to disappear from their lives because the relationship is just so toxic.

I live by myself, I have had girlfriends in the past but I think the imperfection and ensuing toxicity of my parents' marriage makes me expect my other half to be unrealistically perfect.

The only thing that brings me "joy" is walking with God, but under the current circumstances it isn't really joy but a kind of sad serene peace in the midst of a troubled heart.

 

[Maria Billingsley]

Hi all, I am in a particularly dark and lonely time in my life, and would appreciate some Christian encouragement, advice and prayers.

I come from a broken family. Both my parents would profess to being strong Christians but fight often with each other and pretty much non stop spout venom about their other half, or venom about other people, or about how the world has mistreated them...kind of like what you are about to hear in this post...I am sorry but I have to state what happens to get advice and prayers for it, but everyone is anonymous here.

For example, I have tried to get my parents to focus on and talk about positive things for just one day (like their birthday) or even 30 minutes....but they are unable to do so. It seems almost like a spiritual wall; after I complete the sentence they would immediately be talking about how someone wronged them, or somesuch.

Both my parents committed adultery to get together and I was their first son as a result of it. Could I have been doomed from birth like David and Bathsheba's firstborn son because of this? My parents became Christians after they divorced their first partners and married.

At various points in my life, my parents have cursed me, for example saying that I am a bad seed, a wicked person, will never amount to anything good or have never brought them good news. Like a piece of paper cut by a pair of scissors, I remember the events although for some of them my parents claim they do not remember.

My life itself has been that of an afflicted Christian, so the words of my parents if they did not already cut deep, resonate in my life like an echo chamber because of the evidence I see of how my life is.

For example, I have had multiple near death experiences in my life since I was a baby (choked, drowned, many different accidents, attempted suicide, etc.). I was falsely accused and ended up in prison with a criminal record for crimes I did not do. I have been unemployed for a few years already, despite having a PhD. I am in my early 40s and have no family of my own. When I see my other siblings and friends have happy families, jobs and moving forward career-wise, it saddens me because I think about the life I could have had if things were different.

I try to read the Bible every day, and pray, and thank God for giving me life despite my circumstances, and saving me from all my trials and tribulations. I always try to give credit to God for any accomplishments I do, and I pray that God would exonerate me from false accusers, show kindness to me in the land of the living and to prove wrong people who condemn me on the basis of my life's afflictions.

It does look like my life is cursed. In Genesis we see Jacob curse some of his sons. Also, we see in Isaac/Esau/Jacob that the blessings of our parents are irrevocable, likewise the curses?

What do you suggest I do in the circumstances? My parents are in their 80s. I feel like I have to honor them while they are still alive but the whole relationship is toxic.

Is my life doomed because of the curses of my parents upon me?

Please pray for me.

Cursed? Absolutely not! I assume your are not living at home since your parents are in their 80's? Or are you dependent on them because of your circumstances? Much more detailed information is needed to give you some advice. Meanwhile, continue your love for your parents, pray for them and begin to see them through compationate eyes. They are elderly and need help finding their first Love Jesus Christ of Nazareth.
Be blessed.

 

[BrokenContriteHeart]

Cursed? Absolutely not! I assume your are not living at home since your parents are in their 80's? Or are you dependent on them because of your circumstances? Much more detailed information is needed to give you some advice. Meanwhile, continue your love for your parents, pray for them and begin to see them through compationate eyes. They are elderly and need help finding their first Love Jesus Christ of Nazareth.
Be blessed.

No, I am not living with them or dependent on them. I am a free person, trying to honor God's commandment to honor my parents so that things will be well with me. If it was my selfish choice I wouldn't want to see them again, but I keep going back and reliving the trauma and toxicity because God commands us to honor our parents.

 

[mourningdove~]

Hi all, I am in a particularly dark and lonely time in my life, and would appreciate some Christian encouragement, advice and prayers.

I come from a broken family. Both my parents would profess to being strong Christians but fight often with each other and pretty much non stop spout venom about their other half, or venom about other people, or about how the world has mistreated them...kind of like what you are about to hear in this post...I am sorry but I have to state what happens to get advice and prayers for it, but everyone is anonymous here.

For example, I have tried to get my parents to focus on and talk about positive things for just one day (like their birthday) or even 30 minutes....but they are unable to do so. It seems almost like a spiritual wall; after I complete the sentence they would immediately be talking about how someone wronged them, or somesuch.

Both my parents committed adultery to get together and I was their first son as a result of it. Could I have been doomed from birth like David and Bathsheba's firstborn son because of this? My parents became Christians after they divorced their first partners and married.

At various points in my life, my parents have cursed me, for example saying that I am a bad seed, a wicked person, will never amount to anything good or have never brought them good news. Like a piece of paper cut by a pair of scissors, I remember the events although for some of them my parents claim they do not remember.

My life itself has been that of an afflicted Christian, so the words of my parents if they did not already cut deep, resonate in my life like an echo chamber because of the evidence I see of how my life is.

For example, I have had multiple near death experiences in my life since I was a baby (choked, drowned, many different accidents, attempted suicide, etc.). I was falsely accused and ended up in prison with a criminal record for crimes I did not do. I have been unemployed for a few years already, despite having a PhD. I am in my early 40s and have no family of my own. When I see my other siblings and friends have happy families, jobs and moving forward career-wise, it saddens me because I think about the life I could have had if things were different.

I try to read the Bible every day, and pray, and thank God for giving me life despite my circumstances, and saving me from all my trials and tribulations. I always try to give credit to God for any accomplishments I do, and I pray that God would exonerate me from false accusers, show kindness to me in the land of the living and to prove wrong people who condemn me on the basis of my life's afflictions.

It does look like my life is cursed. In Genesis we see Jacob curse some of his sons. Also, we see in Isaac/Esau/Jacob that the blessings of our parents are irrevocable, likewise the curses?

What do you suggest I do in the circumstances? My parents are in their 80s. I feel like I have to honor them while they are still alive but the whole relationship is toxic.

Is my life doomed because of the curses of my parents upon me?

Please pray for me.

Sometimes when we have endured an abusive childhood, it is hard for us to move forward in life because of hidden childhood wounds in our soul.

Ongoing mental and emotional abuse can be traumatizing to a child, and the effects of that trauma can continue to influence our life into adulthood, without us even realizing it.

Medical experts today refer to this kind of childhood trauma as C-PTSD (Complex PTSD, or Childhood PTSD).

Pete Walker wrote an indepth book on the subject: "Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving"

Anna Runkle calls herself "The Crappy Childhood Fairy". She has an extensive collection of informative videos on her YouTube channel (Crappy Childhood Fairy) in which she explains the causes and effects of C-PTSD and what she's done to overcome the negative effects of it on her life. She largely recommends something she calls the Daily Practice, in which one daily addresses their fears and resentments, and releases them daily to God. (IOW, she teaches how to 'do the work' for one to find healing from childhood trauma.)

You may not be interested in any of this ... I realize it does not sound deeply spiritual ... but since you appear to be trying so hard to move forward in your Christian walk, and yet continue to meet with defeat in some areas, it may be because of childhood trauma that you keep finding yourself stuck in old patterns.

God is our Healer. In my experience, He sometimes does use the things of this world to help lead us to our healing.

God bless.

 

[BobRyan]

Hi all, I am in a particularly dark and lonely time in my life, and would appreciate some Christian encouragement, advice and prayers.

I come from a broken family. Both my parents would profess to being strong Christians but fight often with each other and pretty much non stop spout venom about their other half, or venom about other people, or about how the world has mistreated them...kind of like what you are about to hear in this post...I am sorry but I have to state what happens to get advice and prayers for it, but everyone is anonymous here.

For example, I have tried to get my parents to focus on and talk about positive things for just one day (like their birthday) or even 30 minutes....but they are unable to do so. It seems almost like a spiritual wall; after I complete the sentence they would immediately be talking about how someone wronged them, or somesuch.

Both my parents committed adultery to get together and I was their first son as a result of it. Could I have been doomed from birth like David and Bathsheba's firstborn son because of this? My parents became Christians after they divorced their first partners and married.

At various points in my life, my parents have cursed me, for example saying that I am a bad seed, a wicked person, will never amount to anything good or have never brought them good news. Like a piece of paper cut by a pair of scissors, I remember the events although for some of them my parents claim they do not remember.

My life itself has been that of an afflicted Christian, so the words of my parents if they did not already cut deep, resonate in my life like an echo chamber because of the evidence I see of how my life is.

For example, I have had multiple near death experiences in my life since I was a baby (choked, drowned, many different accidents, attempted suicide, etc.). I was falsely accused and ended up in prison with a criminal record for crimes I did not do. I have been unemployed for a few years already, despite having a PhD. I am in my early 40s and have no family of my own. When I see my other siblings and friends have happy families, jobs and moving forward career-wise, it saddens me because I think about the life I could have had if things were different.

I try to read the Bible every day, and pray, and thank God for giving me life despite my circumstances, and saving me from all my trials and tribulations. I always try to give credit to God for any accomplishments I do, and I pray that God would exonerate me from false accusers, show kindness to me in the land of the living and to prove wrong people who condemn me on the basis of my life's afflictions.

It does look like my life is cursed. In Genesis we see Jacob curse some of his sons. Also, we see in Isaac/Esau/Jacob that the blessings of our parents are irrevocable, likewise the curses?

What do you suggest I do in the circumstances? My parents are in their 80s. I feel like I have to honor them while they are still alive but the whole relationship is toxic.

Is my life doomed because of the curses of my parents upon me?

Please pray for me.

saints like Jacob and Noah inspired by God predict the future of the their children in the cases you mentioned.

It does not appear from anything you have said that your parents are at all inspired by God.

Choose God and you are not cursed - but rather blessed.

What others do cannot touch you according to Ezek 18.

Numbers 23 does not even allow others to curse you

Numbers 23:8 Like a fluttering sparrow or a darting swallow, an undeserved curse will not land on its intended victim. An undeserved curse will be powerless to harm you. It may flutter over you like a bird, but it will find no place to land. Like a sparrow in its flitting, like a swallow in its flying, a curse that is causeless does not alight.

Read Phil 4 to your parents whenever they will be still for a moment and tolerate it.

4 Rejoice in the Lord always; again I will say, rejoice! 5 Let your gentle spirit be known to all people. The Lord is near. 6 Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and pleading with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. 7 And the peace of God, which surpasses all comprehension, will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus.​

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8 Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, think about these things. 9 As for the things you have learned and received and heard and seen in me, practice these things, and the God of peace will be with you.​

 

[BrokenContriteHeart]

Thank you all for your advice, and Scripture. Ezekiel 18 and Numbers 23 were particularly helpful. After reading it, I felt a weight lift off my shoulders.

A question though, if God does not punish children for the sins of the parents, what about David & Bathsheba's firstborn son? Or the firstborn of Egypt?

 

[Maria Billingsley]

No, I am not living with them or dependent on them. I am a free person, trying to honor God's commandment to honor my parents so that things will be well with me. If it was my selfish choice I wouldn't want to see them again, but I keep going back and reliving the trauma and toxicity because God commands us to honor our parents.

From your post here it seems your motivation is based on fear ,"so that things will be well with me". Do you think our Father has a curse on you? Nothing is further from the truth ! Visiting your parents and enduring abuse is not some form of penance or even obedience of His command to love your parents, it is self harm motivated by fear.
Let us reason....
Our Father loves you as much as He loves your parents that being said, try stepping away for a while, repent from your thoughts about this curse idea, be filled with His Holy Spirit and put on the full Armor of God . Once you relinquish the idea that He has cursed you, He will give you the strength to endure and possibly change the direction of this relationship.
Be blessed.

 

[BrokenContriteHeart]

From your post here it seems your motivation is based on fear ,"so that things will be well with me". Do you think our Father has a curse on you? Nothing is further from the truth ! Visiting your parents and enduring abuse is not some form of penance or even obedience of His command to love your parents, it is self harm motivated by fear.
Let us reason....
Our Father loves you as much as He loves your parents that being said, try stepping away for a while, repent from your thoughts about this curse idea, be filled with His Holy Spirit and put on the full Armor of God . Once you relinquish the idea that He has cursed you, He will give you the strength to endure and possibly change the direction of this relationship.
Be blessed.

Not so much fear as pursuing a blessing, like Jacob wrestling with The Angel (Jesus): "I will not let you go until you bless me."

 

[CoreyD]

Hi all, I am in a particularly dark and lonely time in my life, and would appreciate some Christian encouragement, advice and prayers.

I come from a broken family. Both my parents would profess to being strong Christians but fight often with each other and pretty much non stop spout venom about their other half, or venom about other people, or about how the world has mistreated them...kind of like what you are about to hear in this post...I am sorry but I have to state what happens to get advice and prayers for it, but everyone is anonymous here.

For example, I have tried to get my parents to focus on and talk about positive things for just one day (like their birthday) or even 30 minutes....but they are unable to do so. It seems almost like a spiritual wall; after I complete the sentence they would immediately be talking about how someone wronged them, or somesuch.

Both my parents committed adultery to get together and I was their first son as a result of it. Could I have been doomed from birth like David and Bathsheba's firstborn son because of this? My parents became Christians after they divorced their first partners and married.

At various points in my life, my parents have cursed me, for example saying that I am a bad seed, a wicked person, will never amount to anything good or have never brought them good news. Like a piece of paper cut by a pair of scissors, I remember the events although for some of them my parents claim they do not remember.

My life itself has been that of an afflicted Christian, so the words of my parents if they did not already cut deep, resonate in my life like an echo chamber because of the evidence I see of how my life is.

For example, I have had multiple near death experiences in my life since I was a baby (choked, drowned, many different accidents, attempted suicide, etc.). I was falsely accused and ended up in prison with a criminal record for crimes I did not do. I have been unemployed for a few years already, despite having a PhD. I am in my early 40s and have no family of my own. When I see my other siblings and friends have happy families, jobs and moving forward career-wise, it saddens me because I think about the life I could have had if things were different.

I try to read the Bible every day, and pray, and thank God for giving me life despite my circumstances, and saving me from all my trials and tribulations. I always try to give credit to God for any accomplishments I do, and I pray that God would exonerate me from false accusers, show kindness to me in the land of the living and to prove wrong people who condemn me on the basis of my life's afflictions.

It does look like my life is cursed. In Genesis we see Jacob curse some of his sons. Also, we see in Isaac/Esau/Jacob that the blessings of our parents are irrevocable, likewise the curses?

What do you suggest I do in the circumstances? My parents are in their 80s. I feel like I have to honor them while they are still alive but the whole relationship is toxic.

Is my life doomed because of the curses of my parents upon me?

Please pray for me.

Hi @BrokenContriteHeart.
II was reading Ezekiel 18, yesterday, and I was really appreciative of how God gave his view, which many felt was not right.
Perhaps you can read it.

It basically says that God sees each person as they are, and judges them according to what they are, and not based on their parents' actions.

You probably know the account of Balak and Balaam.
Balaam was asked by Balak to curse God's people. His reply is recorded at Numbers 23:8

How can I curse whom God has not cursed? How can I denounce whom the LORD has not denounced?

If God has not cursed you, then do you think anyone can?
I think you are doing well.
You tried to be a peacekeeper between your parents.
You continue to endure trials and do not give up on God, despite these.

I try to read the Bible every day, and pray, and thank God for giving me life despite my circumstances, and saving me from all my trials and tribulations. I always try to give credit to God for any accomplishments I do, and I pray that God would exonerate me from false accusers, show kindness to me in the land of the living and to prove wrong people who condemn me on the basis of my life's afflictions.

You want to honor your parents.
That's exceptional!

It reminded me of Job, who was most miserable, after losing everything, but his wife, and still refused to give up his integrity.
Job 27:5

Far be it from me That I should say you are right; Till I die I will not put away my integrity from me.

This, despite his wife feeling so hurt at his suffering, she though it best he give up on God.
Job 2:9

Then his wife said to him, “Do you still hold firm your integrity? Curse God and die!”

Job wasn't even going to give that a thought.
Job 2:10

But he said to her, “You are speaking as one of the foolish women speaks. Shall we actually accept good from God but not accept adversity?” Despite all this, Job did not sin with his lips.

So, you are doing fine. Just keep doing what you are doing.
Whether or not, we are serving God, as long as we are in this sinful world ruled by Satan, we will be slapped - things will go against us. 1 Peter 2:20
That doesn't translate to being cursed.

It's just a case of unpredictable events.
Ecclesiastes 9:11

Here is something else I have learned: The fastest runners and the greatest heroes don't always win races and battles. Wisdom, intelligence, and skill don't always make you healthy, rich, or popular. We each have our own share of misfortune.

 

[Bobber]

Hi all, I am in a particularly dark and lonely time in my life, and would appreciate some Christian encouragement,

I'll do my best!

Both my parents committed adultery to get together and I was their first son as a result of it. Could I have been doomed from birth like David and Bathsheba's firstborn son because of this?

No, no ,no.

Is my life doomed because of the curses of my parents upon me?

Now. The moment you receive Christ you have a new identity . Your life is hid with Christ in God. When the devil sees you all he sees is Christ. The devil can't curse what God has blessed. Curses power has been broken and smashed off of you the moment you receive the Lordship of Christ. The power of life and death is in your tongue. You begin saying what God says who the Son sets FREE IS FREE INDEED, meaning there is no doubt about it.

 

[Godcrazy]

Hi all, I am in a particularly dark and lonely time in my life, and would appreciate some Christian encouragement, advice and prayers.

I come from a broken family. Both my parents would profess to being strong Christians but fight often with each other and pretty much non stop spout venom about their other half, or venom about other people, or about how the world has mistreated them...kind of like what you are about to hear in this post...I am sorry but I have to state what happens to get advice and prayers for it, but everyone is anonymous here.

For example, I have tried to get my parents to focus on and talk about positive things for just one day (like their birthday) or even 30 minutes....but they are unable to do so. It seems almost like a spiritual wall; after I complete the sentence they would immediately be talking about how someone wronged them, or somesuch.

Both my parents committed adultery to get together and I was their first son as a result of it. Could I have been doomed from birth like David and Bathsheba's firstborn son because of this? My parents became Christians after they divorced their first partners and married.

At various points in my life, my parents have cursed me, for example saying that I am a bad seed, a wicked person, will never amount to anything good or have never brought them good news. Like a piece of paper cut by a pair of scissors, I remember the events although for some of them my parents claim they do not remember.

My life itself has been that of an afflicted Christian, so the words of my parents if they did not already cut deep, resonate in my life like an echo chamber because of the evidence I see of how my life is.

For example, I have had multiple near death experiences in my life since I was a baby (choked, drowned, many different accidents, attempted suicide, etc.). I was falsely accused and ended up in prison with a criminal record for crimes I did not do. I have been unemployed for a few years already, despite having a PhD. I am in my early 40s and have no family of my own. When I see my other siblings and friends have happy families, jobs and moving forward career-wise, it saddens me because I think about the life I could have had if things were different.

I try to read the Bible every day, and pray, and thank God for giving me life despite my circumstances, and saving me from all my trials and tribulations. I always try to give credit to God for any accomplishments I do, and I pray that God would exonerate me from false accusers, show kindness to me in the land of the living and to prove wrong people who condemn me on the basis of my life's afflictions.

It does look like my life is cursed. In Genesis we see Jacob curse some of his sons. Also, we see in Isaac/Esau/Jacob that the blessings of our parents are irrevocable, likewise the curses?

What do you suggest I do in the circumstances? My parents are in their 80s. I feel like I have to honor them while they are still alive but the whole relationship is toxic.

Is my life doomed because of the curses of my parents upon me?

Please pray for me.

No you're not cursed I believe, you believe in God so any curse has broken.
Their behaviour is abusive, as you say. You will suffer more staying in it. You have to get away somehow. Maybe another country could help you start again.
At some point a criminal record should fail to show in the paper. Check that
As well maybe start for yourself
You can pray for your parents. But you can't change them only God can. They have been living in these patterns for a long time, fueled by what only they know. Many times there are trauma behind or even mental health issues or oppression even. Or even mental health disorder. It's definitely not normal to criticise and pull you down like this. Many that do are narcissist personality disorder. I speak from experience
A healthy person have no need to criticise, blame, shakr, attack like this.
Constant negativity is a hall mark for something spiritual going on like pores. They have invited it in by not resist it and by not treating people with love like the Bible say. So their minds just going further down. Until the entities start to opress and they can't get out.
They have to turn to God.
If you stay any longer in this your mental health and physical health will suffer.
You can love them and protect yourself.

 

[Godcrazy]

I grew up with parents like this. They were are narcissist. You should read up on narcissistic personality disorder. Dr Les Carter and Dr Ramani on YouTube. You might have an eye opener.
I can't be near my mother for long or it becomes like this. Not done anything, but the need to pull me down, to criticise, to blame.. You name it.
We have to value our mental and physical health.
I am still nice, and I send flowers and call. But I know nothing changes.
And also most people that haven't experienced this can not understand.
You risk be more traumatised by telling those people who don't

 

[Godcrazy]

Sime, are opressed/demonised influence or it plays a part. I can say that when my mother and brother almost almost killed me age 12 and strangle me I saw my mother eyes turning snake like