Crushes and distractions...

[mojoboy31]

I see it a lot around the site and in real life-- the idea that crushes aren't good because they're distracting you from where God wants you...

Doesn't anyone remember Jacob and Rachel? Jacob worked for seven years in her father's fields for her, and when he was tricked, he worked for seven more!

If he had taken the approach that time spent pursuing a mate was wasted-- he'd not have had Joseph, and Israel would not have survived the famine.... Food for thought...

 

[CodyFaith]

Oh man I love the story of Jacob working for Rachel a lot. I love Genesis.

Good points.

 

[CodyFaith]

I think the problem lies in the word crush... the word itself seems to have things childish attached to it.

Could just be being picky though. You like someone you like someone I guess.

 

[mojoboy31]

basically having a crush means you're romantically interested in a person. Right?

 

[CodyFaith]

basically having a crush means you're romantically interested in a person. Right?

Yup, I see no issue really, was just playing that side of the coin... seeing what could possibly be in people's minds when they see the thread name and such.

 

[ReesePiece23]

basically having a crush means you're romantically interested in a person. Right?

A futile interest, usually. And one that corrupts the mind in an unhealthy way.

Otherwise it's "I like her" - enough that you would talk to her and not feel any different than usual. Just a little more keen, I suppose. And you can walk away feeling positive and good inside. Not overly self-critical and feeling hopeless.

If you have a crush on someone to the point that the mere thought of them turns you into semi-functional mess, then you'd want to avoid pursuing anyway, for your own sake as well as theirs. Because that's not a good state to be in and it would only get worse.

But, that's just my take. Others may argue the point.

 

[timewerx]

If he had taken the approach that time spent pursuing a mate was wasted-- he'd not have had Joseph, and Israel would not have survived the famine.... Food for thought...

As I came to understand the causality of time, events are absolute (more or less), but the characters are replaceable.

If Joseph did not came to be, someone else would be fulfilling exactly the same role he did.

The bigger the magnitude of an event, that harder it is to change it (either through prophesies or by a time traveler).

The pattern is consistent with quantum mechanics. The bigger the scale gets, the more certain it becomes. The smaller the scale, the more uncertain and easier it is to change.

No one is indispensable. Many were called indeed. But only few are chosen. We can't just let fate to sometimes take its course but to take responsibility, accountability, and have full awareness of everything we do.

Now back to topic. It's probably okay to have a crush on someone on a healthy level. But if one were to take further actions about it like ask your crush out or catch their interest, take a look first and study carefully where it will lead.

 

[leothelioness]

I think the main issue is that when people say "crush" they usually mean a passing unrequited interest in someone that will likely lead nowhere and, yes, that can be a distraction.

A genuine interest in someone that is likely to reciprocate is another matter altogether.

 

[Travelers.Soul]

I see it a lot around the site and in real life-- the idea that crushes aren't good because they're distracting you from where God wants you...

Doesn't anyone remember Jacob and Rachel? Jacob worked for seven years in her father's fields for her, and when he was tricked, he worked for seven more!

If he had taken the approach that time spent pursuing a mate was wasted-- he'd not have had Joseph, and Israel would not have survived the famine.... Food for thought...

Nah I think God would have used Leah to produce Joseph. And just keep in mind Rachel traded her hubby off for some mandrakes.

 

[TheGirlOnFire]

Erm Rachel and Jacob was not a crush.
and as Traveller said he would have used Leah if that was the case, Jacob was suppose to produce 12 tribes, he was to be the father of Joseph.

May I remind you that Leah, not Rachel, was the mother of Judah, through whom the Savior would ultimately come

 

[Paulie079]

I think the crush thread isn't good, but I have no problem with crushes. And I agree that Jacob did not just have a crush on Rachel. His socks were knocked off.