Crushed

[AlohaAquamarine]

You will forgive when you are ready to forgive. I haven't read a scripture yet that puts a time limit on it.

I too have experienced this and although not particularly helpful all I can say is that time and working through the hurt etc is what is going to help.

A lot of prayer ( for you, about you and by you ) is the best thing you can do.

Eventually you will thank God for it all being revealed, at least you know what you could've been married to. God has used your ex's selfishness for His good in your protection I think.

Hope ur ok today.

 

[Im_A]

So last week I started a thread about how I am newly single. I said I had ended my relationship with my fiance. Well last night he told me that during our relationship, he had been keeping some secrets from me about things that we had previously agreed upon. He betrayed my trust and I'm really hurting right now. I thought that the break up was going well, but now I'm just crushed. I am so angry and I don't want to talk to him or be friends with him. I'm just hurting a lot, and right now, I can't forgive him. I know we are supposed to be forgiving as Christians, but right now, I just can't.

one way you could look at it is, there's no real logical reason to stay in this hurt of yours if you have any control of how it is affecting you. i don't mean that as a slam but now that the relationship has ended, the betrayl has ended and it's all over and done with. the relationship is done with correct, and the betrayl has finally ended.

and about the forgiveness, i think one can forgive and not give their pearls to swine. plus forgiveness can be a process, so there's no reason to feel bad about where your at with such a bad thing happening to you.

hope the best for your situation.

 

[frenzy]

The thing is, we were going to eventually work on being good friends like we were before we started going out. This whole new angle of betrayal, however, makes that very hard, if not impossible. So despite the fact that the relationship is over, the betrayal is just as valid as it was when we were together. Also, I didn't even know about it until after we broke up, so it's still a fresh wound. What does "give their pearls to swine" mean?

one way you could look at it is, there's no real logical reason to stay in this hurt of yours if you have any control of how it is affecting you. i don't mean that as a slam but now that the relationship has ended, the betrayl has ended and it's all over and done with. the relationship is done with correct, and the betrayl has finally ended.

and about the forgiveness, i think one can forgive and not give their pearls to swine. plus forgiveness can be a process, so there's no reason to feel bad about where your at with such a bad thing happening to you.

hope the best for your situation.