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Cross-Dressing?

pannuckle

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I just found out the othre day that a friend of mine occasionaly wears girls clothing, just at home.

now this personaly didn't bother me, he's a guy i've known a long time and we're best friends. But i was wondering what you guys thought of it. i'm wondering if people think its bad, not in the sense of society (of course society hates it) but like, religiously, i figured man came into this world naked, but because of his own shame created clothing, and it is just clothing he's wearing.

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I don't see anything wrong with it. I've always hated "girls' clothes" and "boys' clothes". Why can't people just wear what they want? Like, what if I don't want to wear super tight jeans, and a tight, low-cut shirt that says "BRAT"? Why even bother with signs in clothing stores, and just let people buy what they want. Will they accidentally buy the wrong underwear or something? Clothing sections just make me uncomfortable.
 
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pannuckle said:
I just found out the othre day that a friend of mine occasionaly wears girls clothing, just at home.

now this personaly didn't bother me, he's a guy i've known a long time and we're best friends. But i was wondering what you guys thought of it. i'm wondering if people think its bad, not in the sense of society (of course society hates it) but like, religiously, i figured man came into this world naked, but because of his own shame created clothing, and it is just clothing he's wearing.

thanks
If he wants to, then fine. Gender stereotyping to me seems irrational. Although it is a taboo in modern society, I am not bothered by those who do so. I have one male friend who routinely wears a dress in public, occasionally accompanied by boots and a handbag, and I would not call him a transvestite for doing so. If it was done for the purposes of exhibisionism, then it would irritate me, as all forms of exhibisionism do. I see no moral reason not to do so, because it does no harm to anyone, and obviously provides satisfication for those who do so.
 
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pannuckle said:
I just found out the othre day that a friend of mine occasionaly wears girls clothing, just at home.

now this personaly didn't bother me, he's a guy i've known a long time and we're best friends. But i was wondering what you guys thought of it. i'm wondering if people think its bad, not in the sense of society (of course society hates it) but like, religiously, i figured man came into this world naked, but because of his own shame created clothing, and it is just clothing he's wearing.

thanks

To be perfectly honest, and I know this is going to sound odd coming from a conservative baptist, but I don't really see that big a deal about it.

The only admonition I can find against it in scripture isn't referring to crossdressing, itself, but male prostitution and crossdressing in order to appeal to other men for that purpose.

While crossdressing may be a little unusual, I don't see anything inherenty immoral about a piece of cloth.

For many years, I was on a fire department honor guard. We would accompany funeral processions (we did four after 9/11), march in various parades, etc. You've may have seen us or honor guards like us on TV when a firefighter or police officer dies in the line of duty.

Part of my uniform was a kilt. Why would it be morally different for me to wear a kilt than to wear a skirt? There isn't. It's all a matter of culture and context.

Now, all of that having been said, why does he do this? Is it a fetish? Does it just feel more comfortable? Are there gender issues?

While it may not necessarily be wrong, there may be some issues behind it and it might be a good idea for him to talk to someone about it for his own well being.
 
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I agree with others.

What defines "boys" clothes and "girls" clothes. Basically its society and that definition changes all the time.

In the past, pants were Guys only clothes, now there are plenty of womens pants.
As was mentioned a kilt is basically a "skirt" which is often considered womens only clothes. Yet a Kilt is considered a mens outfit, matter of fact I have heard men make fun of women for wearing a kilt, because its only for men and women shouldn't wear them (I had to laugh).

So basically its all based around popularity and there are no set guidelines except a belief that no one should step out of line.
There are plenty of other things that have been like this in the past. Short and long hair used to be seperated, now it's rarely a big shock to see a guy with long hair or a girl with short hair.

On a side note, when it comes to clothing designs, guys really get the short end of the stick.
 
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It really depends on what your friend is doing. Did he just wake up one day and say, "Hey, I think it'd be cool to wear a bra while I balance my checkbook?" Is it part of a role-play between him and his wife? Does he wear, say, panties simply because they're more comfortable on his body? I agree that men's clothing, particularly underwear, sucks. It's functional, perhaps gaudy, but certainly not pretty. That is a function of the 20th century marketing machine; I guarantee you Victoria's Secret wouldn't sell many G-strings in Jesus's time.

I don't mean that to say that society is EVER always right; there are many double-standards that deny equality to our brothers and sisters, which is wrong in the eyes of God. Society brings shame on those who violate its tenets. My only concern is that he is doing it not for purely aesthetic reasons, but because he may have some underlying psychological issues, or that he may be using it as a sexual stimulus outside of a relationship. Most men who cross-dress do so because they feel less like men and more like women. God created you the way he wanted you to be, I believe, and there isn't anything you can do to change that. Your friend has to remember that while there are things that may be hid from men, nothing can be hid from Him.

Personally, though, I have no problem with it as long as he's still a good Christian despite it. I used to cross-dress for Halloween (and yes, I went to church parties). It was a lot of fun. But I still can't see why Victoria's Secret charges $15.00 for a pair of underwear.
 
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Taipan said:
Personally, though, I have no problem with it as long as he's still a good Christian despite it. I used to cross-dress for Halloween (and yes, I went to church parties). It was a lot of fun. But I still can't see why Victoria's Secret charges $15.00 for a pair of underwear.

used underwear at that lol, for a while they were putting returned undewear back up on the shelves until they got caught
 
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I agree women started wearing pants back in the 40s (i think) and everyone went. "Ah! Stop it! You crazy....things!" and they said "No, we want to wear pants!" and they did and it was cool. Sooo why can't guys wear skirts/dresses/girl stuff? Frankly I think nail polish, eye liner, and a skirt can look pretty good on a guy! ;)
 
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I have thought about this issue a lot. I can't find anything in the Bible that tells us not to do so. I agree that it is simply a cultural thing, most people don't accept it and think those that dress in female clothing are freaks with mental problems. I agree with what some have said before, they are just clothes.

Personally I don't like the feel of tight jeans, but lots of my friends do. Does that mean they are weird and I should love them less. NO!!!
Now I don't dress this way in public, but just like this guys friend I will sometimes try on girls clothing while at home alone. I see nothing wrong with it.

Just my 2 cents.
 
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I've got no problem with it. When men cross-dress, people tend to have a gut-reaction, and can often form their opinions just on that. But when women wear clothes intended for men, nobody seems to mind much, at least, not in modern times. It seems like a double-standard to me.
 
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