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Crazy Girlfriend

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Well why are you asking us? Like we will have all the answers? :p If your girlfriend acts crazy sometimes and you'd like to help her not act crazy then look at why she personally does act crazy. She's an inidividual. She'll have individual reasons as to why she does. And it could be millions of reasons! :p How would we know? :p

Talk to her, observe her, try to find out why she does what she does, if you two can compromise, and if not, your relationship can't work.
 
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Well why are you asking us? Like we will have all the answers? :p If your girlfriend acts crazy sometimes and you'd like to help her not act crazy then look at why she personally does act crazy. She's an inidividual. She'll have individual reasons as to why she does. And it could be millions of reasons! :p How would we know? :p

Talk to her, observe her, try to find out why she does what she does, if you two can compromise, and if not, your relationship can't work.
Do you have a boyfriend? Because it actually sounds like he would know :p
 
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My girlfriend is fantastic 85, 90% of the time. The rest of the time she is an insane banshee. I need a solution that does not involve a pipe, several garbage bags, and a river. Help me out here, guys.

Either the 85% of the time is worth the other 15% of the time... or it isn't. Decide, and choose to continue or end it. Seems simple enough.

For the record, I'm also an 85%-15% kinda girl. I have two anxiety conditions and a mood/depression disorder. I am a crazy banshee at least 10 to 15% of the time. It has ended in many failed relationships and I have never once made excuses for why they ended or for my behavior. However, eventually I found a guy where it just didn't matter because he thought the other 85% of the time was far more important.

So figure it out, and choose. Only you can do that.
 
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When you are in love with someone and they take away the stuff you think you don't like. You may find that it was what made them who they are. Thank God she is not the same as you and has her own mind. You could have lots of fun joining in the 'crazy'. Would be a shame to ask some one to be something different just because it dosn't quite fit you. I don't think it is your job to stop her being anything. If she wants too stop it however you could ask her if you could help and how.
 
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When you are in love with someone and they take away the stuff you think you don't like. You may find that it was what made them who they are. Thank God she is not the same as you and has her own mind. You could have lots of fun joining in the 'crazy'. Would be a shame to ask some one to be something different just because it dosn't quite fit you. I don't think it is your job to stop her being anything. If she wants too stop it however you could ask her if you could help and how.
I don't mean that she suddenly starts painting. I mean that she has wild mood swings and tiny things will set her off. She'll threaten to break up with me and stay mad for days, usually over nothing significant. If I joined in her craziness, you would learn about it on the news.
 
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Sound like she is (possibly) insecure. I have observed that people can have trigger points. What I mean by that is everyone has been on a journy to where they are now. Often through painfull stuff. If there are things in the past that have hurt your girlfriend she may have reactions to certain things that take her back to those places. Often when people are frightened they run and hide and close themselves away. She may not know she has trigger points if she has not explored things that scare her. And you certainly won't know where they are and what they are before she does. I understand the reactions you are describing now. Not well, and I could be completely wrong. Just sounds familiar. Hope thats helped. On the other hand she may just be eating too much sugar or something. My advice would be to tread carefully and be as supportive as you can. If you want to of course. Patience, reasurance and lots of love.
 
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