Cousins liking each other?

[KGirl]

What are your views on cousins and dating? Ok, my mother says it's normal for cousins to be attracted to each other. My view is that it's not Biblically wrong, though it's way frowned upon. And it wouldn't make sense bc there are so many people in this world. Though if people did that I wouldn't get onto them.. I'd say "good luck" though, because of the bad opinions they'd be facing. I wouldn't do it.

I have a guy cousin who's attracted to me. I was trying to remind myself that he was my cousin as well.. How do you fight that feeling? And are we freaks? lol. I guess I'm brave for admitting this. I beat myself up for a good while though.

 

[hamster_head]

In a previous message you talk about a long distance relationship with a fiance? If you have a fiance, shouldn't your cousin know you're taken, and shouldn't that be enough in itself to fight any attraction you might have to him?

 

[KGirl]

It didn't help! I know.. I didn't think I'd need to state that, but it's just another reason why we shouldn't feel that way.. But see, I wasn't thinking as much about my guy subconsiously, bc it's been soooo hard being away from him, so when I think about him alot, I get really bummed or depressed. But also, it's easier to not be as sad when around family and such. But I was leaving the bf thing out of this problem, and having the cousin and me thing as the problem I'm discussing.

 

[KGirl]

I feel like such a freak now.. Maybe I feel so guilty about my guy that I'm try to not think about that part of it whatnot. Now back to the original question.. How do you make yourself not be attracted to someone that you shouldn't be attracted to in general? And am I a freak?

 

[hamster_head]

Attracted, used in this context, has a pretty vague meaning. If you could give more details on what your specific feelings/actions/thoughts are it may make it easier to offer advice that might have some use to you. (I like this face! He bounces up and down like Tigger!)

 

[KGirl]

It's not a problem now I think. I'm not around him at this point. It's more of that whole first meeting cute person reaction (not that it was only looks). Like the beginning crush feelings. I guess everything's all good. It would be nice to know still (how not to do that) for future reference. I don't like being attracted to anyone else when I'm with a guy. I give myself too hard of a time about it.

 

[hamster_head]

I guess it still means what you mean by attracted. If you mean, visually attracted, as in you find the person attractive to the eyes, you cannot stop that. I see both men and women that are good looking all the time, I see some with nice breasts and butts, and others who don't.

If you mean attracted as in mushy mushy feelings, well, you have to fight that problem in your mind. You have to rationalize what things are important in a mate, and when you see you can't possibly know any of these things about a person you just met, you will see your attraction really means nothing more than they look appealing to your particular eyes.

 

[roseofsharon83]

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[seebs]

The thing is, the Biblical prohibitions on dating cousins are in a section of the Bible most of which most Christians ignore. That said, it's biologically a bad idea.

 

[KGirl]

Ok, I'm not beating myself up anymore. Thanks for the responses.