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courting?

Cherub8

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tynessxoxo said:
will someone please explain to me the difference between dating and courting

Courting is dating with a purpose. Unlike serial dating, the purpose of courtship is to grow together towards marriage. So, before dating someone, see if you can picture yourself married to that person. :) If not, then don't date them. That is the philosophy of courtship.

Furthermore, there is more family involvement in courtship.
While a relationship is indeed a personal matter, it is not private.
 
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Yes, indeed, I agree with Cherub, your dating with the idea of marriage in your head... you don' date for the heck of it, or merely to have fun, not to say courting can't be fun of course, but it is more serious. I've also heard more intense definitions which is where, your are pretty darn sure your going to marry this person, and then you "court" them towards marriage. Personally, I just date with the thought that it could happent that I marry the chick I'm dating, which is what I'm doing now, we've been dating 6 montsh and 2 days, which is awesome, but we both know its serious, even if we aren't sure what is in store for us, and whether we are going to end up marrying each other, its definitly likely
 
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This is how it was explained to me: Dating is being romantically involved and may or may not be considered serious; Courting is dating with the intention of getting married.

Courting is not being engaged, but it is dating with the idea of staying together and preparing for marriage.

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I think that courting is dating with a purpose. You don't know if he is the one you are going to marry yet. You court with boundries, so that if you two decide that you aren't right for eachother, you haven't given your hearts away or gotten too involved physically. Generally, the courters involve family and/or church. When people are "in love" their vision is often clouded and it helps to have God-fearing people around to support you or give you a big kick in the bum, if that's what you need.
 
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Pope Gonzo said:
I've found that most often (but not in all cases), people say they are 'courting' so they don't have to say they are 'dating.' Such is the taboo that is Christian dating :)
Dating, courting - call it whatever you like. :) So long as you are behaving in a way that is honorable to the girl, to her parents, and to God, then nothing else matters.

If you are referring to serial dating, though, I would have to disagree. That is the world's way - we are not to partake in it.
 
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