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Couple communication
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Mskedi
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All the time?
If anything's weighing on either person's mind, they should talk about it.
If you're talking about just talking and not deep communication, then as often as is comfortable for each partner. People need their alone time, obviously, but they also need to know their partner is thinking of them and values sharing things with them. I think it varies with every couple -- there's no set "normal" amount.
If anything's weighing on either person's mind, they should talk about it.
If you're talking about just talking and not deep communication, then as often as is comfortable for each partner. People need their alone time, obviously, but they also need to know their partner is thinking of them and values sharing things with them. I think it varies with every couple -- there's no set "normal" amount.
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kopilo
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This is relative to your life, to who you are, to whom you are invovled with including their life and to the dynamics of your relationship (If you can't tell all these things change with time).
There is no straight answer, you have and your partner will proberly have to work this out.
There is no straight answer, you have and your partner will proberly have to work this out.
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Inperfected
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As per above....
Now seriously, jsut communicate when it is needed... If she's struggling, talk to her, if she's happy talk to her, if she's stoked about something, talk. And if the same goes for you, then tell her!
Communication is all about talking!
Now seriously, jsut communicate when it is needed... If she's struggling, talk to her, if she's happy talk to her, if she's stoked about something, talk. And if the same goes for you, then tell her!
Communication is all about talking!
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kopilo said:As a dancer I can tell you there are other ways to communicate then talking. However talking is proberly the most relaxing form, especially it seems for females.
Active listening is tiring.
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Inperfected
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As a female, I can tell you that men often comunicate in other ways than talking... Infact most of the time. But like it or not, communication (IN WORDS) is one of the most important parts of a relationship...
i.e. ok so yes, kissing communicates love.... but what about "forgetting" to tell her of your $5000 grand debt before you get married, or that your parents have slpit up etc....
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lacedinlavender
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Communication is so, so, SO important in a relationship. It's absolutely key. IMO, a couple should be openly communicating every day; otherwise, I just don't see how it is possible to foster growth!
Jen
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kopilo
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*sigh* The $50,000 in debt thing can go two ways, how about a female that is in a relationship with you just because they are in love with being in love.... >.>Inperfected said:
Males are more likely to communicate otherways then talking and I don't mean just in kissing or things along those lines. Put it this way when a guy comes home from a long day at work, it seems rare for them to want to talk about it, generally all they want to do is to 'vege out'. Where are females tend to like to talk about their day (my mum sometimes wonder why I just leave the room after she has been talking around 3-4 hours in the evening)!
Where as I tend to write a lot of things to my gf partially because we don't see eachother on a day to day basis and it can be difficult to organise times for us to call eachother, and partically because writing/typing for me is relaxing.
Active listening can become rather tiresome but females need it so eh7 suck it up.
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lacedinlavender
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kopilo said:
Hm. How can communication suffocate a relationship? I honestly don't think there can be "too much" communication in a relationship. IMO, it is one of the building blocks--you have to have open and truthful communication to build a strong foundation.
Jen
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Inperfected
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Mate just a little thing... effective communication will quite easily sort this out... You would be able to guess it...
This isn't exactly communication, but simple understanding of each other...
Hmm... yet again, this is actually communication in "words"...
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kopilo
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B.S. Not until the person dumps you and the worms come out of the wood. Your saying communication can see through a visarge, people change with time, maybe it doesn't for you but for me it takes time and effort just to workout if I 'love' someone.Inperfected said:
Just like forgetting to tell someone you are marrying them for citizenship?
I am merely remarking on the differences between the communication choices between (some) males and females.
Need I quote you on " Communication is all about talking!".
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lacedinlavender
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kopilo said:
Oh, I definitely agree with you that everybody needs their own space and time to themselves sometimes. I would feel very agitated and uncomfortable if I never had my "me" time. I think, though, that that isn't really having to do with communication, but with spending too much time together.
Jen
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YouthPastor
Name = Brett
First I think women need to realize that men are mostly bottom line communicators...."how was yout day?", the wife asks. "fine!" the husband responds.
Women are detailed communicators, "how was your day?", the husband asks. "First, I got into the car and you would never guess who I saw on the road on my way to work.........", "and then when I got to work....
I think you get my point.
Both need to realize that the other is different & then guys need to realize they need to give some details and the women need to realize they do not need to recite the whole day of events.
COmmunication is vital.
Women are detailed communicators, "how was your day?", the husband asks. "First, I got into the car and you would never guess who I saw on the road on my way to work.........", "and then when I got to work....
I think you get my point.
Both need to realize that the other is different & then guys need to realize they need to give some details and the women need to realize they do not need to recite the whole day of events.
COmmunication is vital.
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lacedinlavender
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YouthPastor said:
LOL, absolutely. That describes my boyfriend to a T. I am definitely the talker out of the two of us, whereas he would be perfectly fine if our conversations consisted of as few words as possible!
I think it kind of hit me one day that I probably talk too much when we had been on the phone for awhile, but I honestly couldn't remember anything that Joe had said about his day -- because he really hadn't had the chance to! I had been rambling on about my day, and when I realized that, I felt terrible!
I've learned to talk a little less, and Joe has learned to talk little more! I think we've reached a good balance.
Jen
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