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Could Use Mental Strength, Wisdom & Maturity

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SoAG

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Hello,

I have faced a sort-of struggle that I could use some wise words for. I just joined Christian Forums, so we'll see how this goes.
Relationship/Sexual Purity Advice.

I am Christian, and I have a beautiful girlfriend whom I love very much.
Since starting our relationship she had told me of her sexual past: At a young age in high school she had sex a high number of times with a high-school boy.

At first, it did not bother me at all, knowing that although I had fought very hard to save my virginity I had still fornicated in my heat by lusting for many women and watching pornography, during that same age in high school as she had also fornicated.

Since high school, she has repented fully, has been forgiven (obviously wishes she has never had sex), and has moved on.

Now we're in a relationship. I love her, and the last thing I would ever want to do is hurt her by bringing back her past, though it does not always bother me.

Though I have fully forgiven her and myself after having been forgiven by God, either Satan or myself sometimes bring images/reminders to me of her past, which torment me.

My duty is to build my girlfriend into a stronger person, so she grows closer to God. If God wills I DO marry her in the coming years I will build something in our lives stronger than anything before/else.

Satan does not want that. He does not want us to love each other fully and be happy forever, so he tries to torment me and pain me inside, emotionally.

My girlfriend, God, and I already have the victory. My girlfriends past has been forgiven and forgotten by God. I too have forgiven her, but knowing of her past is what Satan tries to use against me at times.

So this is where I am today. I could really use some prayer to help heal the last little part of me which the enemy makes pain by reminding of my girlfriends past. The reminder does not make me love my girlfriend more or less ( I believe my love for her would not be any different had she or I never fornicated [in our hearts or flesh]) I know that in the end we will both be very happy.

There's a famous saying, "When Satan reminds you of your past, remind him of his future." Which is very true, yet sometimes a small part of me pains (which thinking about it right now as i am typing, is really absurd[I know that I will look back at this years from now and find it silly), which is why I Know that I need more mental strength, wisdom and maturity.
Your thoughts would be great too. :)
Thank you. God bless.
 

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I don't think you're looking at this from quite the right angle, SoAG. There was never any question of her needing your forgiveness. Truly, it has nothing to do with you. Of course, if you want to make an issue of it, well, that's your business, but, as you evidently realise, it's madness.

I think it might help you to take that on board, good and proper, and, instead, thank your lucky stars she fancies you and pray she continues to do so. My $002, matey.
 
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Eeek be careful praying for wisdom, perseverance and mental strength.

They are earned through unpleasant experiences.

Perseverence and mental strength come from overcoming difficult and often very unpleasant life situations.

Wisdom comes from reading the bible for solutions to life's problems and the memory of overcoming mistakes. It also comes from listening to older wise people.

Wisdom = reading the bible.

The prayer "lord give me wisdom and perseverance" = send me trials and tribulations so I may earn it.

I prayed for that once and got it in abundance shortly after.
 
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