Unfortunately, I live in what's got to be one of the WORST places for a single guy and that town would be CO Springs, CO. There is a huge military presence in this community which equals TONS of married couples with family. I am ex military myself, but I really believe that living in this town is killing my chances of finding a mate. Most young women here in this town end up marrying some guy that they met in high school and will NOT date outside of the people they went to high school with. I am originally from the southeastern U.S. and will be moving back there this year. With that said, do you all think that my chances of finding someone would be better say in Nashville, Charlotte or even Knoxville, TN for that matter. Guys, I am honestly SICK and TIRED of being lonely all the time and it is getting so bad that it is affecting my quality of life. So, could it simply be my location that is keeping me single?
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Could my location be what's keeping me single?
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KandiJo
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Just remember being single is not a curse. You are not alone, God is with you. Our time of singleness is a great time to grow in God and do things you can't do when married. (Last minute mission trips, volunteer work that takes a lot of time, building up finances, buying a house, etc). I think that you should use this time to your advantage!
Yes there are blessings to both being single and being married. However, don't think one is a curse because you want the other one. Marriage is also tough work, more than you will know while single. You can keep saying you are prepared, but you literally have to sacrifice yourself in a marriage for your partner. You become ONE with that person. It's not you doing what you want with a companion, its about the two of you intertwining your lives together forever. So it wont be a piece of cake.
Yes there are blessings to both being single and being married. However, don't think one is a curse because you want the other one. Marriage is also tough work, more than you will know while single. You can keep saying you are prepared, but you literally have to sacrifice yourself in a marriage for your partner. You become ONE with that person. It's not you doing what you want with a companion, its about the two of you intertwining your lives together forever. So it wont be a piece of cake.
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Actually military towns typically have a good number of single women who like military men. I would suggest looking at yourself rather than your location.
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Being a baby sitter would be a good start. Every person knows 100 more people.
If you get the reputation as a dependable guy who is good with kids, the girls
will flock to you, even if you have an arm missing.
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I live right next door to Fort Hood.
We've got a lot of single soldiers with steady paychecks flooding the local dating scene, and so if you can't make it rain money then you've got pretty slim pickings.
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In today's age, we are given so many tools for us singles to meet other singles that I doubt location is that big of a distance anymore. There is always ways to meet new people, just now we are chatting from thousands of miles away. Granted however we won't bump into each other at the supermarket. That being said, I think its all about patience, If you go out looking thinking you'll never find that special someone you may look right past them. There are great singles in every city, and in every town. The trick is to find them not when you think you are ready, but when God lets you know you are ready. Also you never know where a hello, nice day today may lead. That is how my friend met his wife. They were waiting for a cab at the airport then ended up,sharing it back to town. Be yourself, and if God is telling you you are ready just keep your eyes open, and he will guide you to a great person.
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I remember stopping downtown Chicago. The line was pretty long for tourists for McDs. I naturally just started talking with people in line. A very attractive young woman took notice and we talked about whatever. Put that in Date Material 245. I was into her, maybe, but I never got around to calling. But my point is how hard or easy things can be. Same thing in Indiana, but I knew that I would not be going through her town again. Felt kindof bad.
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I disagree there, we can travel thousands of miles in hours now. It just takes some planing.
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If I was near a military base I do think I'd move to get away from all the guys there.
That said I do think its good to intentionally go out and learn some conversation skills so that one can talk with who ever once wants to talk with.
I've done that over the years. Its made life more enjoyable.
That said I do think its good to intentionally go out and learn some conversation skills so that one can talk with who ever once wants to talk with.
I've done that over the years. Its made life more enjoyable.
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I definitely think moving can be a good thing. It's just like when you're looking for a job and can't find it in your hometown, you might have better chances of finding one in another city.
If there're personal issues keeping someone single, though, I doubt moving would help, but if you're fully ready to be in a r/ship and just can't find someone suitable or there aren't many singles where you are, you might have better chances elsewhere...
Anyway, location aside, it will happen when and where it's meant to happen. I guess I should keep this in mind and stop feeling bad too...
If there're personal issues keeping someone single, though, I doubt moving would help, but if you're fully ready to be in a r/ship and just can't find someone suitable or there aren't many singles where you are, you might have better chances elsewhere...
Anyway, location aside, it will happen when and where it's meant to happen. I guess I should keep this in mind and stop feeling bad too...
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None of us know exactly what God has in mind for the OP, yet generally speaking we know that people sometimes have to relocate in order to meet the person God has in mind for them.
An example from Scripture; we know that there simply wasn't any girls suitable for Isaac among the locals, they had to go all the way to Mesopotamia in order to find the girl God had in mind for him. (See Genesis 24.)
I'm not saying that this necessarily is the case for EricL81, but he should trust that God has a plan for his life and wants nothing but happiness for him. God's timing is perfect!
An example from Scripture; we know that there simply wasn't any girls suitable for Isaac among the locals, they had to go all the way to Mesopotamia in order to find the girl God had in mind for him. (See Genesis 24.)
I'm not saying that this necessarily is the case for EricL81, but he should trust that God has a plan for his life and wants nothing but happiness for him. God's timing is perfect!
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I have questioned that myself as I live in the state of Maine, which is actually dialect for Marriedland (kidding, but not really). Maine is where people move to give their kids a better life. Not many single folks move here, which is sad because it has the best hiking and coastal lands in the country, maybe the world, and very few critters who will eat you while you're hiking, 'cept 'skeeters.
Online dating is basically a scam from my experience, and I don't want to move from a nice place for a mythological guy who may or may not show up. So, I've decided to trust God and do what and go where He would have me go; use my gifts and just maybe I'll bump into someone using his and we'll ride off into the sunset on whichever coast God would have us ride to.
I realize people say we have to take this area of life into our own hands. the benefit I found in doing that is that I exhausted my resources and myself and got looking out of my system. Now I can just live, follow the Lord, get closer to him, have a blast on my own and be ready to welcome my mate when God chooses to lead me to him. It's a lot more peaceful than apologizing to online guys because I'm not seventeen, 5'9'" and fully photoshopped. Know what I mean?
Online dating is basically a scam from my experience, and I don't want to move from a nice place for a mythological guy who may or may not show up. So, I've decided to trust God and do what and go where He would have me go; use my gifts and just maybe I'll bump into someone using his and we'll ride off into the sunset on whichever coast God would have us ride to.
I realize people say we have to take this area of life into our own hands. the benefit I found in doing that is that I exhausted my resources and myself and got looking out of my system. Now I can just live, follow the Lord, get closer to him, have a blast on my own and be ready to welcome my mate when God chooses to lead me to him. It's a lot more peaceful than apologizing to online guys because I'm not seventeen, 5'9'" and fully photoshopped. Know what I mean?
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miss-a ... I lived single in Maine for many years, then decided to go off to Bible college in PA to get a wife. Which I did.
Moved back to S. Portland, Maine and had a great life for 14 yrs till I got downsized and ended up in MA of all places with a new job.
Anyways I've lived from Portland area to Presque Isle in Maine. As you say a great place to live ... when married ... lol
Moved back to S. Portland, Maine and had a great life for 14 yrs till I got downsized and ended up in MA of all places with a new job.
Anyways I've lived from Portland area to Presque Isle in Maine. As you say a great place to live ... when married ... lol
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