Um... you're not going to study the effects of spanking in a group of people who rarely spank (upper-middle class), because you're not going to get good results. So no, the research is not biased or framed.
Re-read your paragraph and tell me the research isn't biased again. What if I asked the question "what's your approval rating for Obama" but I only asked republicans? The stats would be skewed.
Well Preachers Wife i am expressing my views based on experience and personal observation perhaps you overlooked the subject heading which says ''my views ''?. I am not asking you or anyone to accept them i believe that people should think for themselves do their own research pray and then trust God and themselves to do what is right ..
Please do not take me unkind but i am extremely ill i am suffering from migraine and i am not really in the mood to answer questions but when i feel better ill be happy to ...
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when you use numbers like 90%, it usually indicates there's empirical evidence to follow. How can you know that 90% it fails? Maybe with you and your system of punishment it might fail, but doesn't necessarily mean it's that way for the rest of us...
I was not offering statistics, i was saying that in my view 90% are useless that is based on my experience and personal observation i have no citations and i did make that figure up which i have a perfect right to do seeing that i am expressing an opinion and not an objectively verifiable fact ..
Then you need to qualify and say that 90% in your experience. That makes a huge difference.
I would without reservation .
That's great and good for you.
Then i think you would be acting irresponsibly but again that is my opinion ,, And this a hypothetical situation so please refrain from taking offense when none is intended .
If removing a privilege stops the offending behavior, then I wouldn't call it acting irresponsibly. Spanking should be reserved for offenses that deserve it, not just the everyday nuances of a kid being a kid. Understand that me saying I don't spank =/= I don't punish.
I dont see it that way Becky I dont think that any form of punishment is a solution .. That means tyranny not loving correction .
What i have said is rather plain I cannot help you further .
Yeah, I'm still confused. You said spanking shouldn't be used as a first resort or a last resort. So it should be used as a middle resort? Let me ask you this, what would you consider to be spankable offenses? And who said anything about tyranny?
I did not say that Becky you are trying to bait me for an argument here and it isnt going to work .
No, I'm not trying to bait you into an argument. Asking questions to try to clarify what you are saying is not baiting. I was trying to make sense of what you said. I still haven't been able to. You said spanking shouldn't be used as a first resort or a last resort, but yet in the same post you said you would spank a 9 year old without reservation. That's a bit confusing.
I disagree with the experts then .. I dont think will loose sleep over it and neither will i .
This I can understand because there are time that I disagree with the experts.
I think i have answered your questions
Well, except for the "first resort/last resort" part. That's still throwing me for a loop. Maybe someone else can explain what you meant.
That is an excellent point! And so true. It's mostly the poor and working class that "spank". Less and less so the further up the socioeconomic scale you go.
Why do you think that is?
Well, when you think about kids like the Kardashians, the Richies, the Hiltons, it's fairly obvious to see that their kids aren't punished at all.