corporal punishment

[norbertxxl]

Perhaps someone can help me. (sorry for my bad englisch)
A friend of me was married and he was beating sometimes his children.
He did it not in a bad way. He did it to help his children. Then he gets problems with his wife.
She went against him and went to police that he has beaten the children.
Not long from now, he must go to court, where he shall loos his childs and gets penalized for beating his children.
He now looks for help. Does anybody know a big organisation which also say, that punish a child in love is a right which parents have when they bring there children up.
Especially he looks for some text of an organisation which goes in that direction, that he can show the court, that he is not one single person who think that corporal punishment is not destroying the life of the child.

 

[Beckijhn]

Norbert

I didn't respond before because I didn't know what to say, but here's what I think: If your friend spanked his children out of love AND he is not abusive, he should contact his pastor and round up anyone who knows him and has seen him with his children on a regular basis. They can give their testimony and it might help. It will depend on the lawyers, the judge, and a whole bunch of factors. I don't know of any organization that deals with the right to spank, but I'm sure there are parent-advocate, Christian people out there that can listen to both sides and give him advice.

Spanking is a hot subject and it is subjective. There is not a real way of breaking it down on a scale of not enough and too much. The people that try are the usually the ones that would rather no one ever get spanked. (I would rather no one ever NEED to be spanked)

It may be that he will need to take classes on alternative ways to discipline his children.

 

[norbertxxl]

Hello,

thank you for your replay. Yes, spanking (I think thats the better word, better than beating) ist a very hot issue.

Specially in Germany, where I come from.

You can even speak about it. We have a law that dont allows spanking. But this law is not old and the problem with my friend is bevor the law was made.

I think there are not many pastors here, who will help in this issue.

Because if it get known, the newspapers will run over the church.

Thats why we look for a big church or group which have in theire constitution something written about it.

But I know that is very difficult.

But thanks for your help.

Norbert

 

[Beckijhn]

I'm sorry I couldn't help more. I know homeschool is a big issue there as well. We are praying for your religious and parental rights over there.

 

[slightlypuzzled]

All we can do is pray. We are seeing it from a different country and a different culture. May God grant him peace and help in his time of need.