Conundrum

[gjeste]

Does anyone else face this problem?

I'm single and I work full-time. I volunteer at a heritage village on the weekends and play keyboard at my church. When I meet a guy and he finds out how 'busy' I am he assumes that I wouldn't have time for a relationship. But part of the reason I'm so 'busy' is because I have the time to do it.
Or even worse. I'm single and work full-time and take care of myself. yet I'm a complementarian, meaning I believe that if I get married I intend to raise my kids at home and take care of the house. But any complementarian guys see that I'm financially independent and successful at my job and thus don't think I could ever be 'submissive.' Guys who are more egalitarian are scared off because I am willing to give up my career for family.
Basically it means I'm euchred. Add to the fact that I'm intelligent and educated, and it equals me 'intimidating' guys.
Blah!!!!
Perhaps we should return to the time old tradition of arranged marriages.
This is my rant.

I think you are overanalyzing your situation a bit too much.

I think you just need to go out there, get involved, and start approaching some men. If they dont like you, then thats their problem. Eventually you will find a guy who likes you for you, and will want to be with you. Just keep trying, and get yourself out there.

 

[seangoh]

Well, you better hope that the guy helps out at a hertiage village and does similar things as you. It means higher chances that you'll both get together and less complications as you have lots in common. Also, it also means the guy will understand you better since he's as busy as you..haha..just my 2 cents.