When I try to manage others, Im not in control but out of control. Anonymous
My wife Evelynn used to tell me all the time that I was a control freak. Of course I didnt believe her. I kind of thought that just because things werent going the way she thought they should, she would lay this guilt trip on me about not having any freedom, and blame things on me. I could not at all see how I was trying to control her life. After all I had responsibilities. I was responsible for the cars and anything that ran by gasoline engines, and I made sure that she knew how to check the oil and all fluid levels, when to check them, and even how to drive them. We lived in the country and had well water, and I was responsible for that system, and made sure she knew when to turn it on and when to turn it off, how much pressure, and how to use all the faucets. The same for the septic system, and the of course the electrical power supply, when to turn it on and off, and how not to overload and so on. I was not a CONTROL FREAK!!!! I just had responsibilities. We split up and divorced in 1994 and of course it was not my fault. I had responsibilities to tend to. And I did, for another four years. I tried to control my drinking and drug use and everything else around me. And everything kept getting a little more out of control. I finally reached a point were I had control over very little. I could not control my friends, people were hanging around with me I didnt even know or like. I could not control my money it just flowed out like water running down hill. My life was totally unmanageable and I was in the grips of a progressive problem with alcohol and drug addiction. And I was insane. My mind was holding on tight to controlling all aspects of my life, but most of it had slipped away. Only when I surrendered and gave up was I able to release the grip of control, and Let go and let God. I am learning to trust God more each day as I realize that I have only total control over what goes on inside of me, and sometimes its out of control too. I am learning, God may I draw closer to you, for you are my refuge and my strength. God is doing for me what I could not do for myself .JRE
Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:4-7 NIV
AA Step 2: Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
My wife Evelynn used to tell me all the time that I was a control freak. Of course I didnt believe her. I kind of thought that just because things werent going the way she thought they should, she would lay this guilt trip on me about not having any freedom, and blame things on me. I could not at all see how I was trying to control her life. After all I had responsibilities. I was responsible for the cars and anything that ran by gasoline engines, and I made sure that she knew how to check the oil and all fluid levels, when to check them, and even how to drive them. We lived in the country and had well water, and I was responsible for that system, and made sure she knew when to turn it on and when to turn it off, how much pressure, and how to use all the faucets. The same for the septic system, and the of course the electrical power supply, when to turn it on and off, and how not to overload and so on. I was not a CONTROL FREAK!!!! I just had responsibilities. We split up and divorced in 1994 and of course it was not my fault. I had responsibilities to tend to. And I did, for another four years. I tried to control my drinking and drug use and everything else around me. And everything kept getting a little more out of control. I finally reached a point were I had control over very little. I could not control my friends, people were hanging around with me I didnt even know or like. I could not control my money it just flowed out like water running down hill. My life was totally unmanageable and I was in the grips of a progressive problem with alcohol and drug addiction. And I was insane. My mind was holding on tight to controlling all aspects of my life, but most of it had slipped away. Only when I surrendered and gave up was I able to release the grip of control, and Let go and let God. I am learning to trust God more each day as I realize that I have only total control over what goes on inside of me, and sometimes its out of control too. I am learning, God may I draw closer to you, for you are my refuge and my strength. God is doing for me what I could not do for myself .JRE
Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:4-7 NIV
AA Step 2: Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
