Contacting a friend I havent talked to in a long time

Hi Lanae,

I don't know how old you are but you look fairly young in your picture. Let me share something with you that may help.

God will help and guide you if you are a Born Again Christian so just ask for guidance in prayer. But if you are not truly born again and baptized you will need to pray and ask others for prayers to receive Salvation from Jesus. Not everybody who thinks they are Christian has actually become touched by God and had a spiritual rebirth. A lot of people think they are Christian, but without this spiritual rebirth they cannot grow or receive guidance and support from God. It's a real thing to be Born Again. It's not a make believe thing. Not everybody who thinks they are Christian have had this happen and they have no idea that a person is not a real Christian until they have had the spiritual rebirth and become Born Again. There are even people on Christian message boards that think they are Christian but don't realize they are not because nobody ever explained this to them.

But once you receive Salvation and surrender your life to God...he will become your true parent and guide you to a successful life. Do a search on Google using the word " Born Again testimony Saved by Jesus " and then type in the word Youtube right next to that sentence. Hundreds of videos will show up with people whose lives have been totally transformed by God. Once you see and listen to their stories you will know that the Born Again Salvation in Christ is a real thing and it really does change lives. Jesus totally changed my own life because I grew up in a very unloving family and the things that I learned growing up caused me a lot of pain and suffering . But once I became saved God transformed over time and now I am healed and sane and living a good quality life.

If you think that you may not be truly saved then you have to make it your number one priority to pray and ask others for prayers until you start hearing Gods voice directing your life. Until you start knowing God in a real way you are not really Christian. So pray and ask for prayers and seek a real relationship with Jesus if that hasn't happened yet. And if your already sure that you are saved then just keep asking God for guidance.

Hope that helps.

Lanae said:

every time I contact someone on kakao, or other social media, they block me or ignore me.

I figured that we are not that close and one Asian girl cussed out me out all because I tried to contact her after I haven't talked to her on social media in a long time.

Maybe I should just talk to them in person and not message them on social media until I get closer to them like spending time with them in person. They think I'm a creep after I haven't talked to them in a long time

My other acquaintance I met at church got mad at me for acting like I'm close to him after I've talking to him on Facebook for a long time and told me that he doesnt want to associate with me.

The other girl told me to leave her alone and not contact her anymore after I sent her a message after a long time and it really [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse] me off

I don't have a car to go to another just to hang out with so I go by bus to get to another city

I got this book from Amazon called "Stop Being Lonely: Three Simple Steps to Develop Close Friendships and Deep Relationships" Nobody in my dad's family never told me this. I think spending with someone in person all the time will get me close to them. I thought maybe they would be happy to hear from me. That's just so depressing and makes me sick.

I think social media doesn't form a close friendship

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I would suggest concentrating on face-to-face interactions with people. Perhaps, from church, or from some other common activity. Look for groups of people who share a common interest with you.

We really haven't proved the effectiveness of social media to make good friends ...

Lanae said:

I know social media is stealing my friends.

I'm going to a dance work shop as hobby once a month starting April 21st. I'm origami, digital art, drawing chibis, and shoujo manga, volleyball and dancing as a hobby now a days.

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That sounds like you're taking some good and positive steps ...

Lanae said:

I'm origami, digital art, drawing chibis, and shoujo manga, volleyball and dancing as a hobby now a days.

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If you get a chance, head by the visual arts forum and post some of your work:

Community Sketchbook--post your sketches

If my friends don't seem to make any real effort to be with me then I take it as a sign they don't care about the friendship. Also it seems more and more people in todays world (or at least the USA) don't seem to invest as heavily into friendships like they used to.

Although not having myself it seems more people seem to avoid me. Maybe they see it as a burden that I can't drive to them or meet them somewhere. Though I do use the bus. But again it seems to be something people get weird about.

I'm glad you got a book on social relationships and hope you get a lot more such materials. You are also not reading, or accepting, very clear social signals from others and need to pray about that and work on that. There are people who are making it very clear that they don't want you in their lives yet you seem to feel there is something you can do to change their minds. No, that is incredibly doubtful. Move on to others.

I pray you will find some real, good friends.

Hi Lanae,

If you have a situation where multiple people are having the same reaction to your outreach, there must be something causing their reaction. This doesn’t mean there is something wrong with you. It does mean that you may be engaging in behaviors that are not well received.

So you need to re-trace those encounters and relationships and see if there is a common thread among them. Be honest with yourself. If you need help figuring out what it is, we can always take a look at it to see if we can’t identify the cause(s)

Lanae said:

OK maybe I'll see my brother in Christ's brother at my brother in Christ's college graduation and spend time with them like go out to dinner or something

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So for example, you said you hadn't spoken to some people in a while on social media and then tried to hit them up. Did you get off of social media for a while or were you on social media, but didn't hit those people up for a while?

So you met/knew people and everything seemed cool, but when you try to connect with them online, they don't want to connect?

Lanae said:

How can someone think I'm creepy after they haven't heard from me in a long time , blocks me on social media when I try reach out to them? I thought maybe they be happy to hear from me? Not cuss at me and want to report me. What is wrong is with these people these days?

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How we treat one another reveals what we think of one another.