I'm constantly worried about flaws and imperfections in my boyfriend of 2 months. Every week I have something new to obsess over. "What about this thing, what about that?" I'm bouncing around his different issues--many of which he's willing to talk about and make changes on, especially the bigger ones. I won't go into details. But basically he knows he's not perfect and knows there's areas of his life he needs to bring under God's will now he's a Christian.
And I know I'm not perfect. I have flaws too.
He tells me not to try to fix everything all at once. My parents (who live too far away to meet him right now) tell me to trust my instincts, but I'm constantly feeling like I need to just throw in the towel, instead of talking through things and working things out. Every time I talk to him about something, I tend to feel better, but the next day I either have a new issue or I'm doubting what we just talked about. This is my first relationship, too, and I just can't seem to figure out where the line is between healthy growth and change, versus "this is who this person is, I'd better run." And of course I have no close Christian friends to bounce this off of either.
And I know I'm not perfect. I have flaws too.
He tells me not to try to fix everything all at once. My parents (who live too far away to meet him right now) tell me to trust my instincts, but I'm constantly feeling like I need to just throw in the towel, instead of talking through things and working things out. Every time I talk to him about something, I tend to feel better, but the next day I either have a new issue or I'm doubting what we just talked about. This is my first relationship, too, and I just can't seem to figure out where the line is between healthy growth and change, versus "this is who this person is, I'd better run." And of course I have no close Christian friends to bounce this off of either.