Considering Divorce

[qtpie71]

Hi all,

I hope I've posted this in the correct forum. I've checked them all to find the appropriate spot, but if I haven't, let me know.

I am unequally yoked with my husband. I suppose in a way I should blame myself for marrying knowing he wasn't a Christian but that was almost 2 years ago so there is no use in going there.

I'm considering divorce because he is mentally and emotionally abusive. He has also been physically abusive in the past. He is also my 3rd husband...a fact I am not proud of and feel ashamed about. I know there are some people that have told me divorce is wrong unless there is death or infidelity but I can't quite agree with that. Basically, this man has bled the life out of me emotionally, financially, mentally and I can't believe I've let it go even this long.

My question here is: what ARE my choices? IS divorce in this case wrong? How will I look to the Lord if I leave my husband.

I'm trying to get my life together and live the way the Lord wants us to live after being apart from him for a long time. I just want to do what is right.

Thank you for listening and I welcome any and all comments!

Blessings,
Kellie

 

[Steffenfield]

Hi Kellie.

Threads like yours always breaks my heart to read.

I'm so sorry for the pain you feel.

 

[Mayzoo]

I have no answers, sorry but I did want you to know I would pray for you.

 

[FaithPrevails]

I won't get on about divorce, per se. But, I do want to encourage you to consider your safety - emotional/mental/physical - first and foremost. Please do not stay just because you think it's a sin (or you are afraid of being told you are a failure) if you choose to leave. I cannot impress upon you enough that safety has to come first in a situation involving unhealthy behavior like abusiveness. If your safety is at risk, then take my advice prayerfully into consideration.

As for what your options are - they can/should include counseling, boundaries, possibly a period of separation...

Basically, you should do all you can to exhause all options with regards to trying to salvage your marriage. Then, if the relationship is still not healthy, you would want to consider permanent (legal) separation or divorce, IMO.

 

[2020lady]

hi,

I really feel for you as i am currently in a similar situation (i'm acutally seeing a solictor tomorrow)

I have also been under physical and emotional abuse & have a husband who is trying to control me.

The advice i can give as others have given me is protect yourself, but also seek help, counselling or similar. People can change but they have to want to and when they want to God can step in.

You need to prayfully consider if you can carry on & if there is anyway of making things work.

Sometimes we have to accept things wont change & have the courage to move on.

Dont forget Gods grace is enough for us all!

xx

 

[Softly]

You can seperate from him if he is abusing you but do not remarry. Get away from the abuser and dedicate your life to Christ and Him alone. If you do not remarry you will not be sinning and it is not a sin to live away from an abusive person.