confused...

[chloeobrien]

For the longest time I considered myself bisexual. I liked both men and women, I dated both and had sexual relations with both. Now that I have found the person I want to be with the rest of my life, I no longer want to be with women and am unsure if I'm straight or bi. Sometimes i still look at women and am attracted to them but I don't go looking at lesbian porn anymore, or try to find a girl to be with or want to have a three some or anything. I am attracted to them but don't want any of the things I used to want. I don't know if I'm bi and just finally settling down, or if my fiance is right and that I only went to women because I couldn't get that kind of love and comfort and support form a man. I don't know. If anyone can help I would greatly appreciate it!

 

[tapero]

bump

 

[BelindaP]

Sexual orientation is defined as your attraction to a given sex, regardless of the reasons. Under that definition, you would be described as bisexual. Even so, you have chosen a heterosexual lifestyle, and the label doesn't even matter. You have also shared it with your fiance, which is great.

My sexual inclinations are also in the middle of the continuum between homosexuality and heterosexuality. Nevertheless, I am perfectly content in my marriage and don't even entertain those thoughts anymore. The longer you go, the easier it is.

 

[Johnnz]

Seems to me that you had a less than direct road towards intergrating your sexuality into your life. That is not altogether uncommon, and a young woman may get into some same sex attraction while she is coming to grips with her new feelings.

If you love a guy and are comitted to him I am sure you wil find that you will become a sexually satisfied heterosexual woman. Put the past behind you, and move on. You seem to be looking pretty normal to me.

John
NZ