Confused if its God's will?

[kton16]

So, Im talking to this female, a strong Christian indeed! But, i know her ex is trying to be in her life now. And NOW says hes a christian. But he has treated her wrong and mistreated her, cheated on her also. But she prayed one day to God which guy he wants her to be with. She asked God to have that guy text her within 5 minutes. Her ex texted back right at the 5 minute mark. =\ im like ohhh snap! She also got confirmation by her friends texting her about him and asking how he is right after that. So would God draw her closer to her ex although the wrong he done and lies? Or am Im denial? Opinions please ! Me and her are friends, close friends but i love the fire for God she has and i do like her a lot!

She also spinned the bottled to and landed on his name.... Ha
She never did this before either. But she prayed im Jesus name.
Me and her have so much in common and we do bible study, she also helped me in my weak areas and me in hers vice versa! She a superb female.

 

[joey_downunder]

Hmmmm.... that sounds more like fortune-cookie thinking than wise thinking on her part.

I bet she would have ignored that result if she secretly didn't want that relationship to continue. I think you should back off until she's made up her mind properly and for good. Her behaviour says it's not over.

 

[kton16]

I agree! Very much so, but she used the scriptures about casting lots for answers or different things like that. Also the story about abraham and him finding a wife for him and God gave him a clear answer so she said "Why not I need direction so lets see"

 

[REPHAIAHPEDAHEL]

Does she know that you want to be more than close friends?

 

[Hospes]

So, Im talking to this female, a strong Christian indeed! But, i know her ex is trying to be in her life now. And NOW says hes a christian. But he has treated her wrong and mistreated her, cheated on her also. But she prayed one day to God which guy he wants her to be with. She asked God to have that guy text her within 5 minutes. Her ex texted back right at the 5 minute mark. =\ im like ohhh snap! She also got confirmation by her friends texting her about him and asking how he is right after that. So would God draw her closer to her ex although the wrong he done and lies? Or am Im denial? Opinions please ! Me and her are friends, close friends but i love the fire for God she has and i do like her a lot!

She also spinned the bottled to and landed on his name.... Ha
She never did this before either. But she prayed im Jesus name.
Me and her have so much in common and we do bible study, she also helped me in my weak areas and me in hers vice versa! She a superb female.

Like lots of times, it's difficult to see what God is up to in your friend's life. Who knows, it could be to show her using "signs" as a way of finding his will can lead off in some really stupid directions. I'd advise you continue to strengthen her regardless of her direction. Lay down your life for her without any earthly expectation. At least you will be pleasing God, which is not "least" at all.

 

[paul1149]

You have to be careful with fleeces, because unless we are truly open to the Lord's will and are walking circumspectly they can be deceptive. We are obligated to walk in wisdom: "the spirits of the prophets are subject to the prophets". As far as the adultery, the marriage could overcome it if there is GENUINE repentance, but if not, she is under no obligation to him.

For both of you, I would advise taking whatever time is needed to prove the sincerity of what's going on ("judge no thing before it's time... make sure of all things, hold fast to what is fine"). It's an easy situation to be caught on the wrong side of the Lord's will on, and you don't want to be there. Guard your heart and walk circumspectly in wisdom. Stay attentive to the Lord and seek Him daily. We're not bound by legalism, but things must be done the right way if you want the blessing.

 

[kton16]

Thank you guys! Godbless you all, I will continue to seek God daily and use wisdom.

 

[DreyDay]

I know it's a hard situation, especially when you have feelings for somebody. You try to find every excuse and justification there is to try to want to be with her. I've done this countless times, despite what everybody else tells me when they want to help. If this girl wants to be with this other guy, then let it be. You just can't force love. You have to jus let it go and let it flourish on its own.

You've got to disengage. What I mean is disengage all those feelings and attraction from that person onto somebody else, or potentially somebody else. Culturally it's "supposed" to take a long time to get over somebody and move on, but in reality it can happen instantly. When you think about it, those emotions and attraction you have for somebody is a formulation you created in your mind, connecting the time you spent with her and the memories you both shared with this "desire" and "need" you have for her. In reality, this magnetic force of yours simply needs to be re-channeled into some other girl. You can find somebody equally if not better in all respects. Obviously you done this once, so you can do it again. Keep the faith.

-D

 

[kton16]

Ya'll are right! Totally right, couldn't agree more. Thanks DreyDay! She's a great female though, she did say that she don't want a good guy get away "me" and stuff yesterday. But i know its not the right time for that, imma sit back and be friends and watch God move upon her life.

 

[BFine]

The way to pick a suitable mate isn't by "casting lots",
you use the Word of God to separate the "wheat" from the "tares".

* Be careful of a "good woman" who wants to keep you dangling
within her reach while she's got someone...this isn't right, it's a "player" move...
throwing a flag on that one.